Kink Shaming

[Will527]

I think kink varies from bedroom to bedroom, and in some cases of the kink shamers, from boardroom to boardroom. If you aren't on board with somebody else's kink, ignore it and enjoy your own, and we all have them. There are some kinks that are confusing or disgusting to me but I'm not going to shame anyone or second guess their choices in life. The kink shamers all have something to hide, don't they? That's why they try to put attention on the rest of us.

 

[Goldenfinger]

My wife has a group of friends. In this group is one lady who seems to be straight laces and wound tight. Women talk and this lady has gotten second hand information about our sex life. She has said and asked me things usually in a negative tone. But we had a conversation once and I think she would like to be in a relationship like my wife and I have, probably not as sexual but I could see it in her eye.

 

[Erosfan]

Yeah, and they've got a real hate for BDSM. They say what you'd expect about maledom/femsub but irritatingly they also go after us male subs as well. Because apparently we're fetishising being a woman. Because they define the submissive role as the woman's role even if a man is doing it. And they call us the sexist ones.

I am and have been, into CFNM for a very long time. I have no desire to be or act like a woman. I am submissive sexually. In my public life, I am very much in control.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

What if your kink is to be kink shamed?
Edit: oops the joke's been made. Also, damm emoji.

 

[DpropertyofR]

I am too damn old to give a fuck what other people think about what I do in my private life. I am discreet, and I don’t subject non-consenting individuals to my activities by doing them in public. I don’t care what other people do either as long as all parties involved are consenting adults and nobody is actually being harmed or put in danger. People need to learn the art of minding your own business.
For the record, I consider myself a feminist, but I am also a sub. My life with my Master is like a fantasy role-playing game that we enjoy together. I would never tolerate real abuse or exploitation of any kind. My Master wouldn’t either.

 

[OldAsianMan72]

Yes I do fancy younger

 

[AnonymousDragon]

There is a source that discusses this topic in length, and yes, I agree with OP that there is an alarming amount of stigma associated with BDSM, it's one reason why I am turning to private at home journaling, I'm afraid of sharing in detail what I fantasize about, because if I do, I might get responses something to the effect of "You're sick, you really want a woman to do that to you?" or worse, obviously I don't want to increase the number of people doing something as dangerous as breath play in real life, the point of fantasy, is to explore things we can not necessarily do in real life without consequence.

I would hope activists in the BDSM community would be able to turn the conversation around in future and bring a more nuanced understanding of the matter to the public. But despite the fearmongering, BDSM edge play is not and never will be mainstream practice, nor should it be. What I am defending here, is people's right to fantasize and be given their autonomy as responsible adults to make their own decisions, not be treated like children, i.e infantilism which is degrading and insulting, and robs us of our civil liberties. What we need here are pro liberty movements.

https://www.issm.info/sexual-health-headlines/challenging-the-stigma-around-breath-play