Cock sucking conundrum

[irishblade]

For those of you that have been where I’m at or are where I’m at now, maybe you can help. I’m obsessed with cocks. Real and fake. They just make me go gaga every time. I’ve never seen a real one other than my own in person. I want to hold one, touch it, kiss it, feel it’s power in my mouth, etc. The problem is that I have zero attraction or desire towards men themselves. Just their cocks.

Any ideas on how to navigate that from those that have experienced it? By all means, others in the same boat are welcome to discuss freely and chip in.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I'm the same.

No interest in men, kissing or cuddling. I just want cock. And when the time comes and the opportunity is there, you'll just concentrate on the cock and how it feels and forget all the other stuff.

 

[irishblade]

No interest in men, kissing or cuddling. I just want cock. And when the time comes and the opportunity is there, you'll just concentrate on the cock and how it feels and forget all the other stuff.

I just fear the expectations

 

[PleasePeesMe]

You'll never know

unless you try.

 

[irishblade]

unless you try.

Now that I agree on!!! Just need to “find” myself in that situation.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

If/when

you want it enough, you'll find it. I wish you luck.

 

[irishblade]

you want it enough, you'll find it. I wish you luck.

Thanks PPM!

 

[Jennygurlluvs2play]

For those of you that have been where I’m at or are where I’m at now, maybe you can help. I’m obsessed with cocks. Real and fake. They just make me go gaga every time. I’ve never seen a real one other than my own in person. I want to hold one, touch it, kiss it, feel it’s power in my mouth, etc. The problem is that I have zero attraction or desire towards men themselves. Just their cocks.

Any ideas on how to navigate that from those that have experienced it? By all means, others in the same boat are welcome to discuss freely and chip in.

You've gotta find that right person for you and just go for it! In my experience the men I've been with have all been rather effeminate too and one of the first people I was with loved that I have long hair. Thinking to myself, "Hum, I wonder if he would like me to be even a bit more feminine for him?" So I wore some sexy thong panties and he loved it. That led to more dressing and much more fun. I know that helped him get over getting blown by another man.

I didn't care so much as once I saw his cock I knew I needed to suck it and once I had his cock in my mouth all bets were off!I loved it!!! He had been a close friend for years and one night during a friendly gathering between two friends and a female it turned into me having sex with her while he masturbated. Then I slipped out and he helped by putting me back in. I was surprised at my response but didn't give it much thought as I was within her warm confines again. That led to a ménage à trois that night and a few others since. We've also had many sessions together alone. In fact, just today I milked a quickie from his cock with my mouth!

Examine those close to you, you're likely to find the ideal candidate. Heck, maybe with luck one will present themselves as happened for me. Was there some behind the scene set-up if you will? Sure, I imagine when three single people, two males and a female get together repeatedly eventually someone is going to end up fucking around! Then you just have to find the right opportunity and go for it. If that proves useless I am sure you'll have luck finding like minded people on sites such as Literotica. As has been said, seek and ye shall find! Hope all's well and you find that which you seek.

 

[hex2112]

For those of you that have been where I’m at or are where I’m at now, maybe you can help. I’m obsessed with cocks. Real and fake. They just make me go gaga every time. I’ve never seen a real one other than my own in person. I want to hold one, touch it, kiss it, feel it’s power in my mouth, etc. The problem is that I have zero attraction or desire towards men themselves. Just their cocks.

Any ideas on how to navigate that from those that have experienced it? By all means, others in the same boat are welcome to discuss freely and chip in.

It is just like a female but they have a dick. Treat it like a person you want to have sex with. You know how you like your cock sucked. Do the same to them. Sex is sex no matter the person. Get over it being a male and you will have it licked. Pun intended.

 

[BBCfan]

For those of you that have been where I’m at or are where I’m at now, maybe you can help. I’m obsessed with cocks. Real and fake. They just make me go gaga every time. I’ve never seen a real one other than my own in person. I want to hold one, touch it, kiss it, feel it’s power in my mouth, etc. The problem is that I have zero attraction or desire towards men themselves. Just their cocks.

Any ideas on how to navigate that from those that have experienced it? By all means, others in the same boat are welcome to discuss freely and chip in.

I'm extremely similar to you as far as zero attraction to men and turned on by the sight and thought of orally pleasing a cock. In my case it's an extremely specific cock. Other cocks don't excite or interest me in the least.

I have been living with this fetish for years and may have some insights that could be of assistance.

First, fantasy and reality are often very different, so like others have suggested be picky and wait for the perfect scenario to unfold. I probably met close to 10 guys before I went through with it.

I would suggest always setting up meetings with zero expectations and the understanding you can back out anytime. I found out through this process that in reality only certain cocks excited me enough to want to fellate them.

Desires and fantasies can be overwhelming but in reality putting your safety at risk with a stranger for 20 minutes of pleasure is kinda crazy. Depending on your risk tolerance I'd recommend you make him wear a condom. Its not as hot or enjoyable but being able to sleep soundly after makes it worthwhile.

For me I had a few awesome experiences but enjoyment of acting out my fantasies faded in relation to the excitement of the fantasies . Because I'm so specific in the type of cock that turns me on , if the cock wasn't what I expected ,usually due to less than honest communication , I'd just jerk him off if things seemed to progress too far to back out at that point.

Also I didn't like the dishonesty and lying that accompanies my fetish, so I made the decision to be as honest as possible with partners. This wasn't always easy but being in place where I could hopefully not hurt my partner made it worthwhile.

Also from my research on fetishism in the male brain, these thoughts and desires will likely never go away. I know I tried to shut them down a few times but it would always resurface, usually stronger.

For me it has never interfered with my desire for pussy, actually I've found that when I'm single my fetish fades until my natural urges for pussy and companionship are met.

It has evolved over many years to a place where I have a wife that knows everything, which is very freeing psychologically. She desires monogamy and at first I wasn't sure if I could promise such a thing so I haven't. I did promise to be completely honest and let her know if I was tempted or felt I needed more. Thus far it's actually been very easy after a few years of marriage.

The ways I've be able to be happily monogamous by choice are having outlets that seem to suffice my desires. I've written stories about my experiences on here as well as sharing/discussing in the forum, which is a fun outlet . I also bought a dildo that is rubber representation of the perfect penis of my desires. Role-playing with it once in awhile has actually become surprisingly satisfying. More so than many of my experiences. I've even role-played with my wife a few times with it, which was awesome.

I understand I've been able to scratch my itch with a few experiences that put things in a different place than you, and I've likely rambled on too long but hopefully I've said a few things worthwhile.

Best of luck in your journey and feel free to message me or reply here if you have any questions.

 

[OpenMouth]

Can I join this club?

I have managed to overcome the issue and have sucked several cocks. Happy to chat about this here or by pm.

 

[Carling229]

I have been thorough the kissing and rolling on the bed and all that, although I sometimes like that still. I also have a desire to just go around to a guy's house and suck him off and leave. There are guys about who are happy to let a guy just play with their cock, a lot of the time it's married guys who are not getting that sort of treatment from their wives.

 

[newatthis2]

Thanks for all the encouragement and experience BBCfan. Good to know it might just take awhile to meet the right one.

I also find myself in this conundrum. I have heavily fantasized about servicing cock for awhile now but dont really seem attracted to men but sure am attracted to cocks. I have been a huge fan of BJ videos (woman and men, gay porn doesnt do it for me) and just thought of what it would be like to be the one giving.

Started taking it to the real world a month or so ago.

Actually met up with someone in silverdaddies a few weeks ago and didnt feel anything at all. There could have been alot of reasons for this (he was 30 years younger, had HUGE relationship expectations, described himself as clingy, had gained alot of weight since his pics and frankly just had an odor that turned me off). After the encounter, I figured I would just keep it in fantasy land but am now trying to arrange more encounters.

I think I just need the right combination of things for my first encounter. I am certain I will enjoy the experience. I suspect I will become more attracted to men once I get my first taste.

 

[PFWilly]

Thanks for all the encouragement and experience BBCfan. Good to know it might just take awhile to meet the right one.

I also find myself in this conundrum. I have heavily fantasized about servicing cock for awhile now but dont really seem attracted to men but sure am attracted to cocks. I have been a huge fan of BJ videos (woman and men, gay porn doesnt do it for me) and just thought of what it would be like to be the one giving.

Started taking it to the real world a month or so ago.

Actually met up with someone in silverdaddies a few weeks ago and didnt feel anything at all. There could have been alot of reasons for this (he was 30 years younger, had HUGE relationship expectations, described himself as clingy, had gained alot of weight since his pics and frankly just had an odor that turned me off). After the encounter, I figured I would just keep it in fantasy land but am now trying to arrange more encounters.

I think I just need the right combination of things for my first encounter. I am certain I will enjoy the experience. I suspect I will become more attracted to men once I get my first taste.

I met a few guys through SD, and learned to be a bit more careful in making arrangements. Helped to meet somewhere neutral like a coffee shop or even a fast food place for some conversation about mutual interests. Had a few false starts, but then had some enjoyable encounters. Some were VERY enjoyable.

Hang in there, and good luck!

 

[klippert]

The Conumdrum isn't being attracted to men in a natural attraction to Women...its your conscience...
I have to chuckle...There are probably 1000 plus hook up sites and 100s of apps that will get a dick in your mouth.. sign up...with in mins you'll have a cock ready..

I was never emotionally attracted to men, in that cuddly, smoochie, bake cookies, hold hands...measure for curtains... is was sex...that's all. Used it, left it. didn't even consider the "attraction" unless I wanted to NUT or suck. That's why that fag was at the bar...no Utopian fantasy or dreams.

just sign up to squirt dot org...tell them your a cock sucker...that's all...hell even the "married" gay guy will offer...
seriously though...your so wrecked over it...then just remember. turning your computer on is fore play...keep it a fantasy. fuk dude if your married to a woman, you better have a sit down with her, or learn how to delete all your history..
you will get caught....unless that's what you want

 

[Fungun3]

The Conumdrum isn't being attracted to men in a natural attraction to Women...its your conscience...
I have to chuckle...There are probably 1000 plus hook up sites and 100s of apps that will get a dick in your mouth.. sign up...with in mins you'll have a cock ready..

I was never emotionally attracted to men, in that cuddly, smoochie, bake cookies, hold hands...measure for curtains... is was sex...that's all. Used it, left it. didn't even consider the "attraction" unless I wanted to NUT or suck. That's why that fag was at the bar...no utipia.

just sign up to squirt dot org...tell them your a cock sucker...that's all...hell even the "married" gay guy will offer...

Lol Sounds awesome needing some

 

[klippert]

Lol Sounds awesome needing some

needing some what ??

 

[cuck72]

t was never like this years ago

I never use to think of kissing a man, or making out with one, feeling each other up. It use to be just going to my knees and giving a good blow job. All in my fantasy world. But as time has gone by, I now see some guys and think of doing it all, being like a girl for him. I know a few guys now that I would think of them kissing me, shoving their tongue in my mouth, as they bend me over and play with my pussy ass lips. I just close my eyes and see them, their tongue in my mouth and fingering my tight man hole. Then I still want their cock and cum in my mouth. So I cum and lick it up.

 

[BBCfan]

Thanks for all the encouragement and experience BBCfan. Good to know it might just take awhile to meet the right one.

I also find myself in this conundrum. I have heavily fantasized about servicing cock for awhile now but dont really seem attracted to men but sure am attracted to cocks. I have been a huge fan of BJ videos (woman and men, gay porn doesnt do it for me) and just thought of what it would be like to be the one giving.

Started taking it to the real world a month or so ago.

Actually met up with someone in silverdaddies a few weeks ago and didnt feel anything at all. There could have been alot of reasons for this (he was 30 years younger, had HUGE relationship expectations, described himself as clingy, had gained alot of weight since his pics and frankly just had an odor that turned me off). After the encounter, I figured I would just keep it in fantasy land but am now trying to arrange more encounters.

I think I just need the right combination of things for my first encounter. I am certain I will enjoy the experience. I suspect I will become more attracted to men once I get my first taste.

Hey, you're welcome...It can be a very confusing thing to navigate.

When I was first meeting guys, initially I was just looking for what I consider a big, hot looking dick. I then realized after having a cool guy with a big white dick and feeling zero lust that maybe I had to be even more specific.

Although not sexually attracted to guys, I can appreciate beauty in many forms. When I met a cool, black guy who was very good looking with a ripped muscular body it certainly made it easier for my first time. He was an Adonis, but it was his perfect 8" dark black cock that really got me excited to finally go through with it though.

I never got more attracted to guys or interested in doing more. Other than the first time I could never even get hard if a guy wanted to suck me...guys do nothing for me...it's all about the cock.

Perhaps that's why I've only had a handful of experiences having my mouth full.

This is the true story of my first time (as an adult) if anyone is interested.


https://www.literotica.com/s/first-time-sucking-black-cock-1

 

[irishblade]

You've gotta find that right person for you and just go for it! In my experience the men I've been with have all been rather effeminate too and one of the first people I was with loved that I have long hair. Thinking to myself, "Hum, I wonder if he would like me to be even a bit more feminine for him?" So I wore some sexy thong panties and he loved it. That led to more dressing and much more fun. I know that helped him get over getting blown by another man.

I didn't care so much as once I saw his cock I knew I needed to suck it and once I had his cock in my mouth all bets were off!I loved it!!! He had been a close friend for years and one night during a friendly gathering between two friends and a female it turned into me having sex with her while he masturbated. Then I slipped out and he helped by putting me back in. I was surprised at my response but didn't give it much thought as I was within her warm confines again. That led to a ménage à trois that night and a few others since. We've also had many sessions together alone. In fact, just today I milked a quickie from his cock with my mouth!

Examine those close to you, you're likely to find the ideal candidate. Heck, maybe with luck one will present themselves as happened for me. Was there some behind the scene set-up if you will? Sure, I imagine when three single people, two males and a female get together repeatedly eventually someone is going to end up fucking around! Then you just have to find the right opportunity and go for it. If that proves useless I am sure you'll have luck finding like minded people on sites such as Literotica. As has been said, seek and ye shall find! Hope all's well and you find that which you seek.

That’s beautiful. Feel free to pm me anytime!

As for the crux of your message, I have zero candidates in my circle. Except one guy but he’s in Florida. I’ve kind of dropped hints on him but nothing flirty has happened yet. Lol

 

[irishblade]

I'm extremely similar to you as far as zero attraction to men and turned on by the sight and thought of orally pleasing a cock. In my case it's an extremely specific cock. Other cocks don't excite or interest me in the least.

I have been living with this fetish for years and may have some insights that could be of assistance.

First, fantasy and reality are often very different, so like others have suggested be picky and wait for the perfect scenario to unfold. I probably met close to 10 guys before I went through with it.

I would suggest always setting up meetings with zero expectations and the understanding you can back out anytime. I found out through this process that in reality only certain cocks excited me enough to want to fellate them.

Desires and fantasies can be overwhelming but in reality putting your safety at risk with a stranger for 20 minutes of pleasure is kinda crazy. Depending on your risk tolerance I'd recommend you make him wear a condom. Its not as hot or enjoyable but being able to sleep soundly after makes it worthwhile.

For me I had a few awesome experiences but enjoyment of acting out my fantasies faded in relation to the excitement of the fantasies . Because I'm so specific in the type of cock that turns me on , if the cock wasn't what I expected ,usually due to less than honest communication , I'd just jerk him off if things seemed to progress too far to back out at that point.

Also I didn't like the dishonesty and lying that accompanies my fetish, so I made the decision to be as honest as possible with partners. This wasn't always easy but being in place where I could hopefully not hurt my partner made it worthwhile.

Also from my research on fetishism in the male brain, these thoughts and desires will likely never go away. I know I tried to shut them down a few times but it would always resurface, usually stronger.

For me it has never interfered with my desire for pussy, actually I've found that when I'm single my fetish fades until my natural urges for pussy and companionship are met.

It has evolved over many years to a place where I have a wife that knows everything, which is very freeing psychologically. She desires monogamy and at first I wasn't sure if I could promise such a thing so I haven't. I did promise to be completely honest and let her know if I was tempted or felt I needed more. Thus far it's actually been very easy after a few years of marriage.

The ways I've be able to be happily monogamous by choice are having outlets that seem to suffice my desires. I've written stories about my experiences on here as well as sharing/discussing in the forum, which is a fun outlet . I also bought a dildo that is rubber representation of the perfect penis of my desires. Role-playing with it once in awhile has actually become surprisingly satisfying. More so than many of my experiences. I've even role-played with my wife a few times with it, which was awesome.

I understand I've been able to scratch my itch with a few experiences that put things in a different place than you, and I've likely rambled on too long but hopefully I've said a few things worthwhile.

Best of luck in your journey and feel free to message me or reply here if you have any questions.

Don’t worry I read it all the way through ;-) Great tips and advice. BBC also unleash something deep inside of me (pun not intended lol) so I get it but I have penis envy so BWC also look good.

 

[irishblade]

I have been thorough the kissing and rolling on the bed and all that, although I sometimes like that still. I also have a desire to just go around to a guy's house and suck him off and leave. There are guys about who are happy to let a guy just play with their cock, a lot of the time it's married guys who are not getting that sort of treatment from their wives.

So any married man? ;-) lol

 

[timmyid2]

I'm a guy who enjoys pleasing men. I love sucking a hard cock, but have virtually no romantic attraction to men.

While I don't really get into the whole making out scene, I discovered that because it IS foreplay that it will often make the whole experience more erotic for the guy I'm trying to please. I've had men get super hard just from making out and feeling each other up.

So now if I want to suck some cock I try to be attentive to their other needs too. If they want to kiss, or caress or cuddle I indulge them. After all, my pleasure comes from their pleasure so doing what they want is the right thing to do. I suggest that you learn to show your partner that you are happy to please too!

timmy

 

[Sunnyade]

Whilst I can appreciate the "Just want the cock" attitude, a little foreplay builds the intensity. If your partner wants to kiss, cuddle and caress its only fair to please them as well.

 

[irishblade]

Whilst I can appreciate the "Just want the cock" attitude, a little foreplay builds the intensity. If your partner wants to kiss, cuddle and caress its only fair to please them as well.

Those aren’t my type of cocks. I want a cock to use me.