No Nut 19

[seela]

I find this quite a fascinating exercise, and will check in periodically to see how you are doing, your thoughts and experiences, with such a long period of denial.

I know for myself, going without for a long period would nullify my desire for it. I'd simply "forget" I even wanted to. My brain/body seems to work on a "more I have, more I want" cycle. Like eating potato chips. One is not enough. Neither is five. Or ten. Oh, just have the entire bag and lick your fingers clean...

How will your No Nut 19 challenge be incorporated into sex with a partner? No masturbating is one thing, but it's much, much more difficult/nigh impossible to not climax if another person is attempting to make you do so. I'm wondering how you plan on incorporating it into partnered sex?

As a rule, I don't get involved with people who would want to go to great lengths to make me climax, unless the plan is forced orgasms and/or making me feel uncomfortable. Or if I do, it's very short-lived. My standard fare in sex for years has been that I can cum if I feel like it and it happens as a by-product of whatever is going on, but my orgasm is never made the goal or priority, unless it's for torturous reasons. And that's exactly how I like it, so no need for anyone to start feeling sorry for me.

If I have an orgasm, it's 99.5% of the time me masturbating. So this doesn't really change anything when it comes to having sex with a partner.

 

[seela]

Day 6:

So far it's been easy. Usually the first days have been the most difficult ones, but now it's been a breeze. Maybe it's the perfect combo of hormones and busy times. And I'm fairly certain hearing way too close details about my aunt's infected toenail helped block the flood as well, so to say.

Fun dreams and random thoughts lately, though. So clearly my brain is on the right frequency even if the drip hasn't caught up with it. Getting there.

 

[SissySalina]

Thank you for the post!
Hope your success continues.

 

[cookiecat]

<snip>

Personal growth brought by orgasm denial, yay.

Therapeutic!!

Only 361 days to go - the year is flying by!

Hahaha!!!

 

[AlwaysFara]

Day 6:

So far it's been easy. Usually the first days have been the most difficult ones, but now it's been a breeze. Maybe it's the perfect combo of hormones and busy times. And I'm fairly certain hearing way too close details about my aunt's infected toenail helped block the flood as well, so to say.

Fun dreams and random thoughts lately, though. So clearly my brain is on the right frequency even if the drip hasn't caught up with it. Getting there.

Do you feel this clears you up for other things and improves your focus?

 

[cookiecat]

Do you feel this clears you up for other things and improves your focus?

Wasn't that a Seinfeld episode? Where George becomes a genius after not having sex for a while!?

 

[AlwaysFara]

Wasn't that a Seinfeld episode? Where George becomes a genius after not having sex for a while!?

Ahahaha!!! Probably.

 

[cookiecat]

seinfeld

 

[AlwaysFara]

seinfeld

*hands seela a Rubik’s Cube*

 

[seela]

Do you feel this clears you up for other things and improves your focus?

Not sure. In past it's very much hindered my focus and made my brain go a little mushy, which is actually pretty lovely, because I very much exist in my head. This helps me let go a lot.

But at the same time if there has been something important going on I haven't had any problems focusing. I don't know if I focuse any better than usual though. The moment I no longer have to concentrate on something real, like work or school, my panties are aflood, I start squirming on my seat without noticing it myself and I try to pay for my lunch twice.

*hands seela a Rubik’s Cube*

Watch me solve a Rubik's cube in five simple steps!

 

[Eliphaz]

I find this quite a fascinating exercise, and will check in periodically to see how you are doing, your thoughts and experiences, with such a long period of denial.

I know for myself, going without for a long period would nullify my desire for it. I'd simply "forget" I even wanted to. My brain/body seems to work on a "more I have, more I want" cycle. Like eating potato chips. One is not enough. Neither is five. Or ten. Oh, just have the entire bag and lick your fingers clean...

How will your No Nut 19 challenge be incorporated into sex with a partner? No masturbating is one thing, but it's much, much more difficult/nigh impossible to not climax if another person is attempting to make you do so. I'm wondering how you plan on incorporating it into partnered sex?

I was surprised to see few or no other people say this. I'm fairly certain that if I tried this exercise at some point I would just stop caring. It might be frustrating initially, and probably the biggest problems would surround contemplating the challenge itself. But for me if the pump isn't primed now and then it will just run dry.

 

[seela]

I was surprised to see few or no other people say this. I'm fairly certain that if I tried this exercise at some point I would just stop caring. It might be frustrating initially, and probably the biggest problems would surround contemplating the challenge itself. But for me if the pump isn't primed now and then it will just run dry.

That's probably true to most people.

I feel like I'm likely the outlier when it comes to orgasms or expressing my sexuality, at least on Lit, and that's one reason why this thread makes me feel very vulnerable (although I try to be a champ here even if it's hard). In the world in general I'm hardly a unique snowflake, but I don't find there are a lot of posters on Lit these days that I can really identify with.

 

[Eliphaz]

That's probably true to most people.

I feel like I'm likely the outlier when it comes to orgasms or expressing my sexuality, at least on Lit, and that's one reason why this thread makes me feel very vulnerable (although I try to be a champ here even if it's hard). In the world in general I'm hardly a unique snowflake, but I don't find there are a lot of posters on Lit these days that I can really identify with.

That's funny that you'd say that (about being an outlier) - I guess my probably ungrounded perception was that most people here had fairly consistent sex drives, with peaks and valleys sure, but in general a need that is always there in some form; and I've more or less thought of myself as an outlier insofar as it will sometimes just go away, and sometimes come back with a vengeance, with no concrete reason behind it. It doesn't lend itself well to maintaining relationships. But any any rate I've been learning I'm often wrong when I form vague handwavey ideas of what other people are like. I certainly didn't mean to imply anything about the difficulty of your task!

 

[seela]

Day 7:

All's mostly good. Still not struggling, at least physically.

Mentally on the other hand...

I hadn't realized until today that I had used orgasms as an easy pick-me-up when I was feeling particularly blue. It didn't always happen, because asking for permission to cum is how it's been for a good while for me even before this whole no nut thing and asking doesn't automatically mean getting permission, but at least it was always a possibility. I could ask and maybe I could get an orgasm.

Today I found out I didn't get a job I interviewed for and was really excited about. I felt so good about the interview too, but nope, I got ditched after the second interview. I've been feeling pretty miserable because of it, and my go to distraction to myself was hey, orgasm or two. Nope. Not this year.

I hadn't taken this into account at all, because it's not very often that I feel like this and hadn't encountered such a day during the earlier denial stints. I feel so stupid for not thinking about a situation like this beforehand. I did think of all kinds of outlandish scenarios, but not this.

Not loving no nut right now. I was and am prepared for not loving this every day, but I did not see something like this being the reason for not loving it.

I'll have to figure out new strategies to deal with the sads. Maybe this is a good thing.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Day 7:

All's mostly good. Still not struggling, at least physically.

Mentally on the other hand...

I hadn't realized until today that I had used orgasms as an easy pick-me-up when I was feeling particularly blue. It didn't always happen, because asking for permission to cum is how it's been for a good while for me even before this whole no nut thing and asking doesn't automatically mean getting permission, but at least it was always a possibility. I could ask and maybe I could get an orgasm.

Today I found out I didn't get a job I interviewed for and was really excited about. I felt so good about the interview too, but nope, I got ditched after the second interview. I've been feeling pretty miserable because of it, and my go to distraction to myself was hey, orgasm or two. Nope. Not this year.

I hadn't taken this into account at all, because it's not very often that I feel like this and hadn't encountered such a day during the earlier denial stints. I feel so stupid for not thinking about a situation like this beforehand. I did think of all kinds of outlandish scenarios, but not this.

Not loving no nut right now. I was and am prepared for not loving this every day, but I did not see something like this being the reason for not loving it.

I'll have to figure out new strategies to deal with the sads. Maybe this is a good thing.

I’m sorry about the job.

 

[gracie920101]

Day 7:
ll have to figure out new strategies to deal with the sads. Maybe this is a good thing.

Ice cream. There's always ice cream.

 

[cookiecat]

Thanks for the update. Bummer about the job, seela. It's a kick in the head when all things are feeling positive.

New coping no nut strategies. Seems like a good thing to pursue. Well. Good and necessary.

In thinking about the ebb and flow of desire and cumming, it strikes me that doing this at someone else's request is different than the ebb and flow of regular 'ole orgasms/sex/no sex.

It's easy to tuck away desire as Aphro and Eliphaz mentioned. Without sex, it's easier to forget it. But not allowing orgasms in an intentional way is much, much different. Someone there to remind, challenge, edge. Figuring out a way to absorb that energy is interesting.

 

[SissySalina]

Thanks for the update. It is a shame about the job, it seems that the best interviews don't go as you think they did.
sissy likes Dark Chockalott M&Ms for a pick up pill.

 

[seela]

Thanks guys.

On paper it looked like I'm the perfect fit for the job and I felt so good about it tall. This was a major set back for more reasons than I can go into here.

Figleaves.com has a sale, so I click-click-clicked my sad away, I guess.

This is not a healthy way to go about dealing with things, though. Not to mention I really can't afford this in the long run, because I have savings goals and other things I want to use my money on. Bras and such are nice and all, but I still need to find a long term solution. This can't be it. Neither can chocolate or ice cream, because I cannot be trusted with that stuff.

Why can't I be one of the people who are into sports and blow off steam and disappointment by working out?

 

[msub50some]

Thanks guys.

On paper it looked like I'm the perfect fit for the job and I felt so good about it tall. This was a major set back for more reasons than I can go into here.

Figleaves.com has a sale, so I click-click-clicked my sad away, I guess.

This is not a healthy way to go about dealing with things, though. Not to mention I really can't afford this in the long run, because I have savings goals and other things I want to use my money on. Bras and such are nice and all, but I still need to find a long term solution. This can't be it. Neither can chocolate or ice cream, because I cannot be trusted with that stuff.

Why can't I be one of the people who are into sports and blow off steam and disappointment by working out?

Have you thought about going to a gun range?

 

[SissySalina]

Bullets are not cheep these days either. A rang can take a chunk also.

 

[msub50some]

Bullets are not cheep these days either. A rang can take a chunk also.

Not as fattening as ice cream, though. Use 9mm, go with someone who's a member, and you do it for around $25.

 

[seela]

Have you thought about going to a gun range?

Me and guns? Yeah, no.

Plus it's not really something you can do easily here, anyways. I've done it once and that was more than enough of gun shooting for a lifetime for several reasons.

I shopped and baked my way through the sads. Anybody want some bread rolls? I made rosemary-garlic and beetroot. And dropped 150+ euros on bras and stuff I don't need.


Day 9:

It's day 9! This is the time it usually starts to get a little easier for me after an orgasm, but now the difficulty seems to be only just beginning. I woke up practically in a puddle, and I didn't even edge yesterday or the day before, because I was feeling too bummed out. Fun times ahead.

I suspect it'll be a two pair day on the panty front today.

Edit: If it's going to be two pair days on the panty front from now on, the shopping I did yesterday will actually be useful! Score! (I hope not, and I don't think that'll happen, because it seems a little excessive even for me to be flooding like this for practically a year.)

 

[SissySalina]

Thank you for the up-date. sissy like you sometimes get carried away with shopping and that is why sissy really limits the shopping online. Also the cooking gets a little too far but fortunately sissy knows a couple of young girls that love cookies.

 

[Eliphaz]

I would actually really like some fresh baked bread rolls and other baked goods. Maybe I need to encourage local friends to embark on no-orgasm journeys. I assume it's guaranteed to work.