Being told gf is whore

[betamale30]

My girlfriend recently just had a bad falling out with her best friend. After the fight her friend texting me telling me all this stuff how my gfs a whore and cheats etc.. I really don’t know how to handle It thinking does her ex best friend just want her to sound bad because they hate eachother now or is It all True. How would you react to finding out this news?

 

[Justfantasies]

My girlfriend recently just had a bad falling out with her best friend. After the fight her friend texting me telling me all this stuff how my gfs a whore and cheats etc.. I really don’t know how to handle It thinking does her ex best friend just want her to sound bad because they hate eachother now or is It all True. How would you react to finding out this news?

I would try to find another source of information. There may be nothing to it. Or namaybe there is.

Then I would have a little chat with myself. Do I care if she is a whore? For me it would be a real turn on.

So then I would have a little chat with her, hoping she will confess to slutty things she has done

 

[HoldYouDown]

The truth is probably somewhere in between, but gossip is the devil's radio. Consider the source, a woman scorned. A man can usually tell if a woman is up to no good, even if there's no hard proof.

 

[Nezhul]

I would most likely brush it off as a bunch of bullshit. Made up just to hurt her. I would add this ex-friend to the blacklist just because.

It's a total foolishness, in my opinion, to even start suspecting her based on that.

If based on those toxic texts you start digging around - then the goal of the jealous bitch is fulfilled.
Don't think about it. Trust your GF. But also tell her that this happened, just so there's nothing between you. Also, this will protect her from reconciling with that poor excuse for a human later.

I mean, seriously. No matter how hard you fight, trying to ruin your ex-friends relationship needs to be considered a criminal offense.

 

[Justfantasies]

I would most likely brush it off as a bunch of bullshit. Made up just to hurt her. I would add this ex-friend to the blacklist just because.

It's a total foolishness, in my opinion, to even start suspecting her based on that.

Maybe. But then there is that "no smoker without fire" thing

 

[betamale30]

I would try to find another source of information. There may be nothing to it. Or namaybe there is.

Then I would have a little chat with myself. Do I care if she is a whore? For me it would be a real turn on.

So then I would have a little chat with her, hoping she will confess to slutty things she has done

Yea her friend didnt go into many details just said a few specific things but id definitely want to know more.. I dont think my gf is the type that would ever open up about those things though. She would probably be scared of making herself look bad

 

[Nezhul]

Maybe. But then there is that "no smoker without fire" thing

This is a neat little phrase, but it does not apply to real world. In real world, people make smoke without fire ALL THE TIME. This is called lies and slander.
People will tell you that their enemy is Hitler's reincarnation if that helps their case.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Maybe. But then there is that "no smoker without fire" thing

True, but "smoke" would be the gf behaving weirdly, taking her phone to the bathroom, not texting/calling as frequently as in the past, getting jealous, defensive, talking about another guy too much, drop in sex, etc.

In this case the only smoke is out of some angry woman's mouth.

 

[Nezhul]

Yea her friend didnt go into many details just said a few specific things but id definitely want to know more.. I dont think my gf is the type that would ever open up about those things though. She would probably be scared of making herself look bad

Seriously, put it out of your mind, dude. It's not worth suspecting your GF over it.

Be more confident in yourself. You are together. She likes you, you like her. You have great dates together. WHAT ELSE MATTERS?

Just because some bitch is badmouthing your GF - I would seriously get mad at her first and foremost. No one gets to throw shit at my girlfriend, especially with the aim of not just hurting her, but ruining OUR relationship that I treasure.

Seriously, if you start acting jealous, suspicious and controlling now - you are only hurting yourself and your GF. You need to support her and side with her against those claims. Not begin to suspect her.

If the bitch that texted you had anything to back up her claims - she'd tell you specifics. She didn't. So you should immediately know it's all nothing but bullshit. Also, seriously, block her number. The longer you give her to think - the more plausible her lies will sound.

 

[Justfantasies]

Seriously, put it out of your mind, dude. It's not worth suspecting your GF over it.

Be more confident in yourself. You are together. She likes you, you like her. You have great dates together. WHAT ELSE MATTERS?

Just because some bitch is badmouthing your GF - I would seriously get mad at her first and foremost. No one gets to throw shit at my girlfriend, especially with the aim of not just hurting her, but ruining OUR relationship that I treasure.

Seriously, if you start acting jealous, suspicious and controlling now - you are only hurting yourself and your GF. You need to support her and side with her against those claims. Not begin to suspect her.

If the bitch that texted you had anything to back up her claims - she'd tell you specifics. She didn't. So you should immediately know it's all nothing but bullshit. Also, seriously, block her number. The longer you give her to think - the more plausible her lies will sound.

He didn't actually say he was jealous, just that he wanted to know more. The prospect may be exciting for him. he can speak for himself, but just saying

 

[betamale30]

He didn't actually say he was jealous, just that he wanted to know more. The prospect may be exciting for him. he can speak for himself, but just saying

At times ill admit It does turn me on thinking about things shes done but obviously the reality is I wouldnt want to be betrayed and would rather her be open and honest with everything. Not many girls would be willing to admit they like fucking alot of guys though.

 

[Justfantasies]

At times ill admit It does turn me on thinking about things shes done but obviously the reality is I wouldnt want to be betrayed and would rather her be open and honest with everything. Not many girls would be willing to admit they like fucking alot of guys though.

My experience is that they actually do like talking about it with the right guy. I have been the recipient of detailed confessions more than I can count.

 

[betamale30]

My experience is that they actually do like talking about it with the right guy. I have been the recipient of detailed confessions more than I can count.

Is there a certain technique you have found works best at getting a woman to open up about details like that?

 

[Nezhul]

Obviously no one wants to be betrayed. But you shouldn't be jealous.
And in my book, what separates Jealous from normal - is the ability to discard bullshit and only pay attention to real evidence.

The case you described - is the kind of bullshit that needs to be discarded if you are to have a healthy life. Seriously. If you start questioning your beloved every time someone shouts she's a whore - you are being really unreasonable. And potentially damaging.

 

[Justfantasies]

Obviously no one wants to be betrayed. But you shouldn't be jealous.
And in my book, what separates Jealous from normal - is the ability to discard bullshit and only pay attention to real evidence.

The case you described - is the kind of bullshit that needs to be discarded if you are to have a healthy life. Seriously. If you start questioning your beloved every time someone shouts she's a whore - you are being really unreasonable. And potentially damaging.

I think you are missing the point.

 

[Justfantasies]

Is there a certain technique you have found works best at getting a woman to open up about details like that?

Not exactly, but my experience is that they want to open up. So they need to know that you won't be jealous or upset and even better that you enjoy the thought of your woman needing a little more.

My experience is that if you act nervous or anxious or jealous about her sex life, she will clam up tighter than an oyster. But if you make the whole thing a bit of a giggle she will open up and tell you everything, the more you show how much you enjoy her stories.

I am not sure if you know anything about her previous sex life (before you), that might be a place to start. If you seem to be enjoying that, it will relax her a bit. And then you can say, "have you been with anyone since we started dating," and she can see to are treating it lightly, she may well tell you everything.

 

[oneblueye]

hey

My girlfriend recently just had a bad falling out with her best friend. After the fight her friend texting me telling me all this stuff how my gfs a whore and cheats etc.. I really don’t know how to handle It thinking does her ex best friend just want her to sound bad because they hate eachother now or is It all True. How would you react to finding out this news?

I would ask for proof..

 

[MidnightRyder1a]

I've got few rules the first is my cock is the first and the last of the day. In my slut's cunt, ass and mouth. If she's sucking a cock, during the day good for her, I want my slut to be crave cock constantly. But as long as she comes home and her holes are ready when I want to fuck her. It keeps things a whole lot easier in life.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

My girlfriend recently just had a bad falling out with her best friend. After the fight her friend texting me telling me all this stuff how my gfs a whore and cheats etc.. I really don’t know how to handle It thinking does her ex best friend just want her to sound bad because they hate eachother now or is It all True. How would you react to finding out this news?

Please do yourself a favor and pay no attention to the ex BF.

I suspected my wife of a lot of indiscretions through the years. At least one was valid and I know this from proof I collected. The rest were things said within my hearing and hints from "friends". Needless to say these 'hints' went nuclear in my head. And I kept them in my head. No confrontations. It almost killed me and our marriage. Not long ago I devised a plan to finally rid myself of these toxic thoughts. Since we couldn't talk without one of us yelling, I resorted to email. Two days and a novel of conversations later, they were gone.

The one I proved, actions were taken and situations corrected.

DON'T let hints or hate language override your relationship.

2 cents from someone who has been there recently.

 

[LupusDei]

My girlfriend recently just had a bad falling out with her best friend. After the fight her friend texting me telling me all this stuff how my gfs a whore and cheats etc.. I really don’t know how to handle It thinking does her ex best friend just want her to sound bad because they hate eachother now or is It all True. How would you react to finding out this news?

Obviously, she wants to hurt her through you. Any loss of trust any doubts, any jealousy she could create would be a victory for her. Therefore, your primary objective should be to handle the situation without hurting your girlfriend more. You probably should inform her about what her friend is telling you, however.

The tricky part is how to do that. For that, you should clear with yourself what your attitude is in the off chance anything of that might have any substance behind it.

Default assumption of course should be it is bulshit. Always remember that it is next to impossible to prove innocence, if you allow yourself to lose trust, it will be very hard to restore.

Trusting your girlfriend includes, trusting that if she indeed managed to cheat in a way you knew nothing about, without affecting your relationship in any way, then that is effectively her business. Does it really matter as long your relationship is working at least satisfactory? Would it improve your relationship if it was out in the open? If no, you may not really want to know, it can't be undone, and if it had no impact until now, then the only possible problem is in your head.

Of course, you got curiosity now, and it will eat you alive if you won't get it out and away.

How about getting your girlfriend, and saying something along: "Hey, look at this bulshit that witch sent me. What do you think I should ask her for an attempt to prove it? I wonder what she will make up."

And then you can make fun on the ex-friend's expense together, playing out you believing her with your girlfriend's direct assistance. That would demonstrate trust, provide gf with as perfect information as possible (so she could continue to lie on top of her ability if she indeed does), and you may learn something new about her in any case.

 

[twister947]

Walk away.
Just say, "No" to drama. Life's too short.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Ask her point blank if she is a whore who loves cock. But tell her first that that does not matter as long as she will be a whore for your cock. If she says she is and will be then great for both of you.

 

[Nezhul]

I think you are missing the point.

I think YOU miss it.

Trying to "find out" or "get her to open up" based on bullshit from a sore toxic human who wants to hurt your GF - is a great recipe for disaster. Especially considering that if she's innocent - there's literally no way of proving it.

If he starts applying "methods" to get her to confess, then when she says "no" he goes on to seek yet other "methods" - this is nothing but a psychological torture. I would break up with such a man if he doubted me more than once. And I would be very angry and upset if he doubted me based on such accusation from my enemy in the first place.

That ex-friend is NOT a credible source of information. All that she wants is to hurt his GF. She doesn't care about truth or about him - literally the only aim is to hurt his GF. If she can do that through lies through him - all the better.

 

[SissySalina]

Everyone is forgetting the point: Does she share the payment?
If she shares the money why care!

 

[Justfantasies]

Everyone is forgetting the point: Does she share the payment?
If she shares the money why care!

Well said