The Sexuality of Women in Their 40's and 50's

[roc23]

Group sex, bisex, kinky bondage play, rough but leaving no marks, femdom or being controlled. The list goes on and on

That list has a lot of potential. Have fun.

 

[grandprix1041]

Sexy blonde, I like your idea, sounds wonderful.

 

[grandprix1041]

At 55 you don't have to worry about your sexual clock ticking, my gf is 82 and has the sex drive of any two forty yr olds.

 

[OpenMouth]

Openmouth.....

Here's an idea. Look on Craig's list for a massage table. I bought mine for about $100.

Set the stage...spa music, candles, massage table. Put some blankets/sheets on the table to make it softer than it is.

Go to a grocery store or Walmart and buy some Sweet Almond Oil or Coconut Oil.

Give her a NON-sexual massage without expecting anything in return. This is about pampering her in a way where she doesn't have to reciprocate and it's not sexual.

Do NOT use a bed....that is very difficult to give a massage on and is almost always implies that sex is expected.

Using long sloooooooow strokes, massage her starting at her feet and working up to her shoulders. Give her a head massage. Spend time on her feet. Massage her breasts and butt but don't go to her pussy.

You want her to relax and feel pampered, not pressured for sex.

This is a great way to bring intimacy back between couples. Hopefully, it will inspire her to return the massage. After a while, it may even lead to sex.

Make the massage last at least an hour. At the end, cover her with a sheet, lightly run your fingertips over her body and end it resting your hands on her tummy. Lift your hands slowly straight up when you are done. Then kiss her lightly on the lips and tell her to take her time getting up. Then leave and let her lay there for a bit.

For now, focus on being intimate without sex.

Yeah, thanks! Been there, done that. Do that.

We are intimate without sex; we're totally committed to each other, emotionally and physically, but sex just doesn't happen as we're usually exhausted...

 

[HimerosThunder]

I would like to hear from others, particularly other women, about their experiences with sex in their 40's and 50's. I am 47 and almost a year ago I became a new sexual being. It has grown and grown since then. I am not sure if it's hormonal, the physical relief of my kids getting older and me not being so exhausted all the time, or what.

Usually you hear that women my age have sex drives that are declining, but mine is the opposite. I'd love to hear from other ladies about how your body and mind and libido has changed as you've gotten older.

My experience has been that women in their 40's, 50's and yes even in there 60's are the most sensual, sexual beings on earth. They are confident, experienced and like to take there time and make the experience last. Kudos to all you middle aged women

 

[Kittyscave]

My experience has been that women in their 40's, 50's and yes even in there 60's are the most sensual, sexual beings on earth. They are confident, experienced and like to take there time and make the experience last. Kudos to all you middle aged women

It is amazing, though, how much of an impact hearing such sentiments can have on those of us over 50.

Speaking for myself, so much emphasis is on youth, it is easy to see where the more mature among us might feel a bit relegated to the sidelines. It never once occurred to me, before Lit, that a man might actually have a preference for a mature woman. Knowing there are men walking around who look at the coeds, but desire their moms, makes me feel sexy and empowered.

So... THANKS!

 

[Sonja70]

I would like to hear from others, particularly other women, about their experiences with sex in their 40's and 50's. I am 47 and almost a year ago I became a new sexual being. It has grown and grown since then. I am not sure if it's hormonal, the physical relief of my kids getting older and me not being so exhausted all the time, or what.

Usually you hear that women my age have sex drives that are declining, but mine is the opposite. I'd love to hear from other ladies about how your body and mind and libido has changed as you've gotten older.

For me it started when i was 39, like 7 years ago, i just felt more open to have sex in different Places and times of day. Not that routine-sex thing that you often get when you have small children.
Since then my sexdrive is higher, my self-confidence is much higher and i feel much sexier With and without clothes.

 

[PEAKER44]

My wife is in her mid-40s but a combination of stress, anxiety and being overweight has completely killed her sexual desire.

Our kids are still young but I think they'll continue to cause her grief well into their 20s.

I do everything I can to take the weight off her shoulders, and I adore her physically and emotionally, but I'm beginning to think it's permanent...

Your not alone, same with my wife, very depressing!! Not sure how to handle it. Thus far just trolling a lot of websites & masturbating, not sure how much longer that will be enough.

 

[SactoRN]

That list has a lot of potential. Have fun.

Lots of fun!!

 

[marriedpervs]

51 here. Try anything and everything at least once. Otherwise, how will you know:
a) if you might enjoy it or not
b) if it might create a spark that just might prolong you and your partner's sex life.

I'm glad we have...........still exploring crazy hot adventures and finding new ways to cum.

 

[Trimjob69]

51 here. Try anything and everything at least once. Otherwise, how will you know:
a) if you might enjoy it or not
b) if it might create a spark that just might prolong you and your partner's sex life.

I'm glad we have...........still exploring crazy hot adventures and finding new ways to cum.

57 here. I love women in their 40's and 50's and 60's and...

 

[marriedpervs]

57 here. I love women in their 40's and 50's and 60's and...

I have to be honest - the men in their fifties that I have fucked are considerate, caring and fantastic lovers, and can usually, but not always, outlast their younger, more aggressive counterparts.

 

[Trimjob69]

I have to be honest - the men in their fifties that I have fucked are considerate, caring and fantastic lovers, and can usually, but not always, outlast their younger, more aggressive counterparts.

That's because we're so grateful

 

[misterb64]

51 here. Try anything and everything at least once. Otherwise, how will you know:
a) if you might enjoy it or not
b) if it might create a spark that just might prolong you and your partner's sex life.

I'm glad we have...........still exploring crazy hot adventures and finding new ways to cum.

Can I get you to talk to my wife about this, Dee? For over ten years now I've had zero luck getting her to even consider spicing things up in the bedroom.

 

[marriedpervs]

That's because we're so grateful

LOL........aren't all men grateful when being fucked with a strong sense of desire, Baby??

Can I get you to talk to my wife about this, Dee? For over ten years now I've had zero luck getting her to even consider spicing things up in the bedroom.

HI Mister B - yes, of course.....happy to do that for you and her.

 

[Clem99]

Just last night, after turning me down for sex my wife told me she is 44 years old and has very little sex drive...you know, unlike her wild 30s where we had sex sometimes more than once per week! yay for me. I can't accept once per month so, something's gotta give. I may have to find a fwb - with or without her knowledge....until then it is lit, porn and self-serve.

I was so freaking naive when I got married, I thought it meant guaranteed sex for life.

 

[Tnt69]

Speaking for both of us, sex is better than ever in our 50s and keeps getting better and better! No hang ups, no one to impress, just go with whatever turns us on! it really couldnt be better! Well soon it will,the 60s are fast approaching!

 

[Karhukissa]

Just last night, after turning me down for sex my wife told me she is 44 years old and has very little sex drive...you know, unlike her wild 30s where we had sex sometimes more than once per week! yay for me. I can't accept once per month so, something's gotta give. I may have to find a fwb - with or without her knowledge....until then it is lit, porn and self-serve.

I was so freaking naive when I got married, I thought it meant guaranteed sex for life.

Perhaps early onset of menopause? Could some women feel less desirable when they aren't fertile anymore?

 

[sexyblonde2015]

Just last night, after turning me down for sex my wife told me she is 44 years old and has very little sex drive...you know, unlike her wild 30s where we had sex sometimes more than once per week! yay for me. I can't accept once per month so, something's gotta give. I may have to find a fwb - with or without her knowledge....until then it is lit, porn and self-serve.

I was so freaking naive when I got married, I thought it meant guaranteed sex for life.

Clem...your wife may be in early menopause or POF (premature ovarian failure). Did she have a hysterectomy and have her ovaries removed? All of the contribute to low hormones. Testosterone is what fuels our sex drives. Estrogen keeps our bodies lubricated. These hormones do many, many more things but we're talking sex here.

If she'll do it, have her get blood tests for estrodial, total testosterone, free testosterone and TSH.

I'd bet more than anything, she has low hormones.

Here is an analogy I give guys that help them understand the role estradiol and testsoterone play in a woman's body.

I like to compare Estrogen and Testosterone to Oil and Gas in a car. Estrogen = Oil Testosterone = Gas.

A car needs gas to run. We need Testosterone to have a great sex drive. If a car has no gas, it doesn’t matter how long or how hard you press on the gas pedal (clitoris), you aren’t going anywhere (orgasm). It doesn’t matter how hard we wish that the car would go, without gas it’s not going anywhere. It doesn’t matter how hard we wish for a sex drive, without testosterone, we don’t have one.

A car needs oil to keep the moving parts lubricated. A woman’s body needs estrogen to keep moving parts lubricated. Without oil, a car gets overheated, parts wear out and the car breaks down. Without estrogen, women get overheated, tissues can dry out, tear and breakdown. Leaking can occur.
​

I searched what happens when a car has no oil. I found a couple of descriptions which I copied here. Then I changed oil to estrogen, and engine terms and parts to women’s bodies. It’s pretty interesting how it turned out. Some may not quite be 100% technically accurate, but I think you get the idea.

Scenario 1:
Oil is one of the most critical fluids in your automobile. The reason that it needs changing so frequently is because of the amount of work that it does, and because of how crucial clean oil is to engine life. Engines have dozens and dozens of moving metal parts, and oil provides a protective layer that significantly reduces friction and heat. When the oil level decreases, more pieces are rubbing together without that barrier of protection, much more heat is produced, and the metal in the engine can warp or even melt.

Estrogen is one of the most critical hormones in a woman’s body. The reason we need Estrogen is because of the amount of work we do and how crucial it is to our lives. Women have dozens and dozens of moving parts and estrogen provides lubrication for all of our body, especially vaginal and reduces friction during sex and prevents hot flashes. When Estrogen levels decrease, women experience vaginal dryness, general dryness all over, hot flashes and night sweats occur and our minds and moods can warp or even melt.​

Again, hormones do so much more but we're talking sex here.

So, try to talk to your wife about getting her labs done.

 

[Clem99]

Clem...your wife may be in early menopause or POF (premature ovarian failure). Did she have a hysterectomy and have her ovaries removed? All of the contribute to low hormones. Testosterone is what fuels our sex drives. Estrogen keeps our bodies lubricated. These hormones do many, many more things but we're talking sex here.

If she'll do it, have her get blood tests for estrodial, total testosterone, free testosterone and TSH.

I'd bet more than anything, she has low hormones.

Here is an analogy I give guys that help them understand the role estradiol and testsoterone play in a woman's body.

I like to compare Estrogen and Testosterone to Oil and Gas in a car. Estrogen = Oil Testosterone = Gas.

A car needs gas to run. We need Testosterone to have a great sex drive. If a car has no gas, it doesn’t matter how long or how hard you press on the gas pedal (clitoris), you aren’t going anywhere (orgasm). It doesn’t matter how hard we wish that the car would go, without gas it’s not going anywhere. It doesn’t matter how hard we wish for a sex drive, without testosterone, we don’t have one.

A car needs oil to keep the moving parts lubricated. A woman’s body needs estrogen to keep moving parts lubricated. Without oil, a car gets overheated, parts wear out and the car breaks down. Without estrogen, women get overheated, tissues can dry out, tear and breakdown. Leaking can occur.
​

I searched what happens when a car has no oil. I found a couple of descriptions which I copied here. Then I changed oil to estrogen, and engine terms and parts to women’s bodies. It’s pretty interesting how it turned out. Some may not quite be 100% technically accurate, but I think you get the idea.

Scenario 1:
Oil is one of the most critical fluids in your automobile. The reason that it needs changing so frequently is because of the amount of work that it does, and because of how crucial clean oil is to engine life. Engines have dozens and dozens of moving metal parts, and oil provides a protective layer that significantly reduces friction and heat. When the oil level decreases, more pieces are rubbing together without that barrier of protection, much more heat is produced, and the metal in the engine can warp or even melt.

Estrogen is one of the most critical hormones in a woman’s body. The reason we need Estrogen is because of the amount of work we do and how crucial it is to our lives. Women have dozens and dozens of moving parts and estrogen provides lubrication for all of our body, especially vaginal and reduces friction during sex and prevents hot flashes. When Estrogen levels decrease, women experience vaginal dryness, general dryness all over, hot flashes and night sweats occur and our minds and moods can warp or even melt.​

Again, hormones do so much more but we're talking sex here.

So, try to talk to your wife about getting her labs done.

Thank you for the information - that definitely helps to understand what her issues may be. I think there is some depression mixed in as well. Kar suggested perhaps something to do with fertility but, I don't think so - she is definitely happy to not have any more kids.

I suspect low hormones is probably a big part of the problem.

Thank you.

 

[Bigcoat]

Lol x check out my posts and Tumblr Lisa and all of you here x I'm 50 now, and not ashamed to admit that my libido is higher than most in their 20's and 30's I think x I'm hornier than ever and insanely lustful to explore further, even the most taboo before I get too old, lol x I just lack the freedom with my present partner, maybe I should leave him and return to my od and more adventurous x x x

What would your most taboo be madam.
50 is not old sexually as many many much older people will tell you.
You are stunning too.

 

[Bigcoat]

My experience has been that women in their 40's, 50's and yes even in there 60's are the most sensual, sexual beings on earth. They are confident, experienced and like to take there time and make the experience last. Kudos to all you middle aged women

I have had an experience or two that were with ladies much older than myself and I can not express enough how much of a fantastic time they were. Not just physically but every aspect from open conversation to laughter and consideration for each other.
Far better for me personally than with women younger than myself.

 

[Clem99]

Your not alone, same with my wife, very depressing!! Not sure how to handle it. Thus far just trolling a lot of websites & masturbating, not sure how much longer that will be enough.

I share your pain - same situation for me. It helps to know I'm not alone but, it sucks for all of us who have this issue.

 

[julybaby04]

52 here.

Just popping in to say hi and read other's thoughts.

 

[BattlingSoul]

I hear women are supposed to peak in their 40s and 50s, my wife is behind the curve I suppose...