The Sexuality of Women in Their 40's and 50's

[CoralRose13]

I blossomed like a hot house flower once I turned fifty...Who would have ever thought that turning "that number "...that dreaded number ...the big 50... the number that's known for it's own section of sad, supposedly humorous birthday cards that denote the honorific personal demise of someone's happiness because of turning an age that the general public considers "Over the Hill"...who would have ever thought that once I tuned fifty...I would truly no longer feel the need, desire or longing to be any other age other than what I am..and now, at 56, I'm still actively blooming, full flower! , on a strong vine doing nothing but carrying me upwards...twisting and wrapping around anything and everything that is willing to support the weight of this woman, with a personal agenda of self fulfilment...of developing my sexual and sensual abilities...a vine that holds tight so it can support the heavy, juicy, full flavoured character fruit...which is known by many to be called Kelleebabes

You are my new hero.

 

[Karhukissa]

Speaking for my wife... She was in a loveless marriage, and didn't have sex for about eight years, i.e. the majority of her 40's. She had begun to consider herself asexual. Then, when she turned 50, we became a couple. We are the same age, and at first she said that she would probably not be able to keep up with my sex drive (which has taken a hit about the same time; very frustrating). Anyway, we both discovered that we could have amazing sex, but I need time to "reload", whereas she's capable of multiple orgasms. So we use toys, and as she likes to be tied down and subjected to forced orgasms before I have my way with her, we're both happy. There are many factors that have made her blossom at this age, but having an active sex life again is a major one. It is also better, more satisfying and frequent than when she was younger.

 

[Paintergirl]

52

I'm 52, and my libido is much much stronger than when I was young. Over the last fifteen years I would say I average taking care of things myself once or twice a day--husband has a very low libido and isn't interested... I don't see any sign of slowing down, although it would definitely be less frustrating...

 

[GloriHoleLover]

A Sorrow & A Delight

I'm 52, and my libido is much much stronger than when I was young. Over the last fifteen years I would say I average taking care of things myself once or twice a day--husband has a very low libido and isn't interested... I don't see any sign of slowing down, although it would definitely be less frustrating...

It is very sad to learn of your husband's low libido and resultant lack of interest in your burgeoning sexuality.

BUT...on the other hand, it is delightful to know that, at the delicious age of 52, you're masturbating as frequently as you do! What a lovely, sensuous picture THAT paints! Mmm...sweet imaginings!

Thank you, Paintergirl, for sharing such fragrant intimacies with us! Oh...and, whatever you do, DON'T "slow down!"

 

[azsaguaro]

I know the thread title only mentions women in their 40s and 50s, but my 69-year-old girlfriend and I (63) spent two hours fucking yesterday, and it was glorious!

 

[curiousdreamer51]

Tmi

I'm 52, and my libido is much much stronger than when I was young. Over the last fifteen years I would say I average taking care of things myself once or twice a day--husband has a very low libido and isn't interested... I don't see any sign of slowing down, although it would definitely be less frustrating...

My mother's libido must have been over the top. She shared stories with me that she probably shouldn't have. I heard 80's she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer that had metasticized - she was concerned that she would pass quickly so she bundled up her two vibrators and dumped them in a garbage can down the street. Her fear was that her daughters would find them when they cleaned her house after she was gone.

At age 20 a 42 year old woman with an insatiable libido taught me many, many lessons! Wow!

 

[StrongMaster7]

Please, God, give my beautiful 56 year old wife of thirty years one of those turbo-charged libidos. I'd trade the rest of my life to enjoy one year of sex with her every night, with her really enjoying it and wanting it. I'd sign for that right now.

 

[tristantrotsky]

52 Is A Beautiful Age To Be...

I'm 52, and my libido is much much stronger than when I was young. Over the last fifteen years I would say I average taking care of things myself once or twice a day--husband has a very low libido and isn't interested... I don't see any sign of slowing down, although it would definitely be less frustrating...

Dear Paintergirl,
sexuality is a joy and a delight.
So much better to experience that need and those incredible sensations - even when self-administered, than to be insulated from feelings. Stay in touch with your senses. Enjoy your body to the extremes of your pleasure.
If your partner fails to appreciate the beauty of your physicality, that is his great loss...

 

[sexyblonde2015]

Menopause

This is my first post here and true to myself, I'm always looking for ways to help women not go through what I did.

In 1987, I was 34 years old and had a total hysterectomy. Was on Premarin, but no testosterone. No doctor even mentioned it to me. For the next 16 years, I got old. Lost ALL my libido, dressed old, acted old, thought old and looked old!

Fast forward to 2003 after moving to a new state, my new gynecologist sent out a newsletter that included "Signs of Low Testosterone". Loss or thinning of pubic hair was one. A red light went off! I lost all my pubic hair on my mons area within three years of my hyst.

The article went on to talk about Bioidentical Hormone Pellets. These are tiny compressed cylinders of Estradiol and Testosterone and smaller than a grain of rice. They get inserted under the skin of the rear. I get them 3-4 times per year.

I took the plunge and had them inserted. 48 hours later, I woke at 2am and felt like my clit had taken over my body. I got up, masturbated and had my first orgasm in 16 years!!!

It's been 13 years and my libido is still going strong. Not only that but they drastically changed my whole life for the better. Confidence, mindset, looks, muscle mass, reversal of Osteopenia and so many other things changed for the better.

They gave me the strength to end a 27 year marriage to an alcoholic. I'm now married to an incredible man. We have an awesome sex life. He encourages me to be "me".

I'm now 63 years old and discovered my exhibitionist side a few years ago and he encourages me to have fun taking and posting photos.

I so believe in them that I started 2 of the largest online support groups for pellets. I've helped women as far away as New Zealand and the UK find doctors.

I'm not selling anything. One has to find a doctor that specializes in them and they are prescription only. There are quite a few compounding pharmacies across the US that make them who can refer a doctor in your area.


Incidentally, pellets were invented over 75 years ago. They are also available for men with low testosterone levels.

I will NEVER be without my pellets!

 

[Kittyscave]

My 50's have, thus far, been very regressive in a sexual sense. I only wish I would have had the lack of inhibitions in my 20's when my sex drive was equally astronomical as I have found since turning 50. I might not be married with 2 kids, but I would have had a hell of a good time!!!!

K

 

[JeffVal1989]

Love older women. I seek them out rather than women my own age.

 

[RedSilk69]

Agreed; I'm 47, and my libido is driving me to distraction. I was married for nearly 20 years to a man whose libido was much smaller, and by the end neither of us wanted sex with the other. I thought my libido - which had been really strong, once upon a time - might be gone forever. A man with a micropenis and a tongue of gold woke me back up. It's been a year and a half since the separation, and I've had more and better sex than in the past six years. I'm starting to get to the point of wanting a relationship, but am afraid I'll end up screwing myself over again by picking someone like that again. I guess being aware of it is the only way to avoid it - and potentially being open to non-monogamy, which I've never tried, but which just seems more reasonable now. I think I should post on "How to..." to get peoples' experiences with that.

tl;dr version: ME TOO with a strong libido as a "femme d'une certaine age," and I love it!

 

[eroticspank]

This is my first post here and true to myself, I'm always looking for ways to help women not go through what I did.

In 1987, I was 34 years old and had a total hysterectomy. Was on Premarin, but no testosterone. No doctor even mentioned it to me. For the next 16 years, I got old. Lost ALL my libido, dressed old, acted old, thought old and looked old!

Fast forward to 2003 after moving to a new state, my new gynecologist sent out a newsletter that included "Signs of Low Testosterone". Loss or thinning of pubic hair was one. A red light went off! I lost all my pubic hair on my mons area within three years of my hyst.

The article went on to talk about Bioidentical Hormone Pellets. These are tiny compressed cylinders of Estradiol and Testosterone and smaller than a grain of rice. They get inserted under the skin of the rear. I get them 3-4 times per year.

I took the plunge and had them inserted. 48 hours later, I woke at 2am and felt like my clit had taken over my body. I got up, masturbated and had my first orgasm in 16 years!!!

It's been 13 years and my libido is still going strong. Not only that but they drastically changed my whole life for the better. Confidence, mindset, looks, muscle mass, reversal of Osteopenia and so many other things changed for the better.

They gave me the strength to end a 27 year marriage to an alcoholic. I'm now married to an incredible man. We have an awesome sex life. He encourages me to be "me".

I'm now 63 years old and discovered my exhibitionist side a few years ago and he encourages me to have fun taking and posting photos.

I so believe in them that I started 2 of the largest online support groups for pellets. I've helped women as far away as New Zealand and the UK find doctors.

I'm not selling anything. One has to find a doctor that specializes in them and they are prescription only. There are quite a few compounding pharmacies across the US that make them who can refer a doctor in your area.


Incidentally, pellets were invented over 75 years ago. They are also available for men with low testosterone levels.

I will NEVER be without my pellets!

Wow, great post!

ES

 

[LCHA]

Earlyn40s was a dud as far as sex life & libido.

Now, I'm willing to expose myself to strangers & enjoy myself doing it.

 

[tallman4411]

This is my first post here and true to myself, I'm always looking for ways to help women not go through what I did.

In 1987, I was 34 years old and had a total hysterectomy. Was on Premarin, but no testosterone. No doctor even mentioned it to me. For the next 16 years, I got old. Lost ALL my libido, dressed old, acted old, thought old and looked old!

Fast forward to 2003 after moving to a new state, my new gynecologist sent out a newsletter that included "Signs of Low Testosterone". Loss or thinning of pubic hair was one. A red light went off! I lost all my pubic hair on my mons area within three years of my hyst.

The article went on to talk about Bioidentical Hormone Pellets. These are tiny compressed cylinders of Estradiol and Testosterone and smaller than a grain of rice. They get inserted under the skin of the rear. I get them 3-4 times per year.

I took the plunge and had them inserted. 48 hours later, I woke at 2am and felt like my clit had taken over my body. I got up, masturbated and had my first orgasm in 16 years!!!

It's been 13 years and my libido is still going strong. Not only that but they drastically changed my whole life for the better. Confidence, mindset, looks, muscle mass, reversal of Osteopenia and so many other things changed for the better.

They gave me the strength to end a 27 year marriage to an alcoholic. I'm now married to an incredible man. We have an awesome sex life. He encourages me to be "me".

I'm now 63 years old and discovered my exhibitionist side a few years ago and he encourages me to have fun taking and posting photos.

I so believe in them that I started 2 of the largest online support groups for pellets. I've helped women as far away as New Zealand and the UK find doctors.

I'm not selling anything. One has to find a doctor that specializes in them and they are prescription only. There are quite a few compounding pharmacies across the US that make them who can refer a doctor in your area.


Incidentally, pellets were invented over 75 years ago. They are also available for men with low testosterone levels.

I will NEVER be without my pellets!

How is the state of your vaginal lubrication after this treatment?

 

[sexyblonde2015]

Tallman....

With the proper amount of Estradiol, lubrication is amazing. At times, it will drip out of me.

It can also reverse vaginal atrophy.

 

[tallman4411]

Tallman....

With the proper amount of Estradiol, lubrication is amazing. At times, it will drip out of me.

It can also reverse vaginal atrophy.

That's very good news. I love natural lubrication. Especially on my face.

 

[SactoRN]

I'm 45 and my sex drive is through the roof. I also find myself open to many different fantasies.

 

[wildchild24143]

I'm 45 and my sex drive is through the roof. I also find myself open to many different fantasies.

Such as?

 

[SactoRN]

Such as?

Group sex, bisex, kinky bondage play, rough but leaving no marks, femdom or being controlled. The list goes on and on

 

[OpenMouth]

My wife is in her mid-40s but a combination of stress, anxiety and being overweight has completely killed her sexual desire.

Our kids are still young but I think they'll continue to cause her grief well into their 20s.

I do everything I can to take the weight off her shoulders, and I adore her physically and emotionally, but I'm beginning to think it's permanent...

 

[Erodicus]

Fun after Forty

You are not alone!

I am 45, and this past year or so my desire has increased exponentially. I too think it is a combo of factors. Less tired, more time for myself, etc.

The other weird thing is my orgasms are better now than they were in my 20's or even my 30's. I *finally* understand this g-spot thing! It's a totally different feeling and it's pretty darn awesome.

Sadly, after years of complaining about my lack of libido, now I am the one who is randy as a tom cat, and my husband can't keep up with me. I have never been one for using toys before, but I am considering perhaps making a discreet Web purchase very soon.

My best female friend hit the prime of her sex life in her 40's after leaving a marriage where her husband's idea of sex was totally repetitive and unadventurous.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Group sex, bisex, kinky bondage play, rough but leaving no marks, femdom or being controlled. The list goes on and on

The topic of this thread has intrigued me for some time. I wonder what factors are at play. Hormonal, mental, maybe outside influence?

Literotica certainly provides a place to explore our feelings and attitudes.

Has finding someone to explore feelings with been a factor for some?

Is it, sometimes, as simple as "Use it or lose it"?

 

[sexyblonde2015]

Openmouth.....

Here's an idea. Look on Craig's list for a massage table. I bought mine for about $100.

Set the stage...spa music, candles, massage table. Put some blankets/sheets on the table to make it softer than it is.

Go to a grocery store or Walmart and buy some Sweet Almond Oil or Coconut Oil.

Give her a NON-sexual massage without expecting anything in return. This is about pampering her in a way where she doesn't have to reciprocate and it's not sexual.

Do NOT use a bed....that is very difficult to give a massage on and is almost always implies that sex is expected.

Using long sloooooooow strokes, massage her starting at her feet and working up to her shoulders. Give her a head massage. Spend time on her feet. Massage her breasts and butt but don't go to her pussy.

You want her to relax and feel pampered, not pressured for sex.

This is a great way to bring intimacy back between couples. Hopefully, it will inspire her to return the massage. After a while, it may even lead to sex.

Make the massage last at least an hour. At the end, cover her with a sheet, lightly run your fingertips over her body and end it resting your hands on her tummy. Lift your hands slowly straight up when you are done. Then kiss her lightly on the lips and tell her to take her time getting up. Then leave and let her lay there for a bit.

For now, focus on being intimate without sex.

 

[kdb]

I would like to hear from others, particularly other women, about their experiences with sex in their 40's and 50's. I am 47 and almost a year ago I became a new sexual being. It has grown and grown since then. I am not sure if it's hormonal, the physical relief of my kids getting older and me not being so exhausted all the time, or what.

Usually you hear that women my age have sex drives that are declining, but mine is the opposite. I'd love to hear from other ladies about how your body and mind and libido has changed as you've gotten older.

What are you doing with all this sexual energy now?