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[type11966]

Hello,

32 bi-curious married guy here. Been married over 10 years and wife is not very sexual any longer. I find myself looking at bi-sexual pron as a relief. Back when I was young a couple buddies and I used to JO together and later tried some oral. When we started getting into girls we stopped.

So now I've been thinking of contacting my old buddy on Facebook, to see if he still thinks of this stuff. I would love to play together again and we chat a little bit on there, but our sexual past hasn't come up.

Should I ask him? or find someoned else?

 

[Safe_Bet]

Hello,

32 bi-curious married guy here. Been married over 10 years and wife is not very sexual any longer. I find myself looking at bi-sexual pron as a relief. Back when I was young a couple buddies and I used to JO together and later tried some oral. When we started getting into girls we stopped.

So now I've been thinking of contacting my old buddy on Facebook, to see if he still thinks of this stuff. I would love to play together again and we chat a little bit on there, but our sexual past hasn't come up.

Should I ask him? or find someoned else?

Yeah, but the "someone else" you need to talk to would be your wife. If your wife is no longer sexual with you, and she's in her early 30's, you prolly ought to first find out WHY instead of stepping out and cheating.

(BTW, it's interesting how it's always the chicks problem... Never a problem with the dude being a fat/lazy/abusive/smelly/fucktard that turns her off. )

 

[boredVAwife]

It is possible that I might throw up if I read another "wife doesn't want sex" thread. If you are a guy and you want another guy go to it but speaking from experience after being married to a man that was married to a career, sometimes we get left wanting too, so to speak. How does a lack of hetero sex make you want gay sex? If it has been there all along I can relate but to just pop up because you and your wife aren't as active as you used to be? Seems like there are missing pieces to this puzzle. Also, I am the last person to climb on a soap box and preach against infidility but I can assure you that the relief you are looking for comes with a heavy conscience.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Me too on the "wife doesn't want it" routine, but to answer OP's question-- in my opinion, your long-ago buddy is as much of a stranger to you now as any stranger would be.

So if you want to bring it up with him, do so carefully. And deniably.

"Dude i was just remembering some shit we got up to back then Good times haha"

See if he goes for it.

 

[type11966]

Yeah, but the "someone else" you need to talk to would be your wife. If your wife is no longer sexual with you, and she's in her early 30's, you prolly ought to first find out WHY instead of stepping out and cheating.

(BTW, it's interesting how it's always the chicks problem... Never a problem with the dude being a fat/lazy/abusive/smelly/fucktard that turns her off. )

I have thought about that and don't think she would be open to that kind of lifestyle. She is very Christian and very Conservative. She blames the lack of sexual interest on having children and she is very uncomfortable with her body. I constantly tell her that I love her and am attracted to her, but she still has a hard time.

BTW...I'm not saying I' a perfect husband, I have and will continue to put her first. I'm not saying I would act on this, I was just looking to chat with someone as a form of release.

I love the part about the "fat, lazy, abusive, smelly, fucktard...that turns her off" That was quick to judge!! I eat well, run 10 miles per week and workout 3 times per week to stay in shape and keep myself looking good for her.

 

[type11966]

It is possible that I might throw up if I read another "wife doesn't want sex" thread. If you are a guy and you want another guy go to it but speaking from experience after being married to a man that was married to a career, sometimes we get left wanting too, so to speak. How does a lack of hetero sex make you want gay sex? If it has been there all along I can relate but to just pop up because you and your wife aren't as active as you used to be? Seems like there are missing pieces to this puzzle. Also, I am the last person to climb on a soap box and preach against infidility but I can assure you that the relief you are looking for comes with a heavy conscience.

Your right there are a few pieces missing. I've recently told my wife that I was molested as a child through young teen by my uncle. I haven't told anyone, even my parents. It's been hard trying to find sexual release, while staying faithful. When I was prepareing to tell my wife of my childhood history, it brought back many memories and thats what made me think of my old buddy. I thought of it as another option...I feel it's more of a fantasy thing and I don't think I have the guts to act on it. I've had the opportunity to sleep with women and have turned it down. The women who have made their wants know, also have been married and know I'm married as well. The tough part is both of them want to fall in love and leave our spouses and I'm in love with my wife and family and don't want to change that...

 

[Seamen]

She probably was conservative before you married her; being that, your sex life probably wasn't much active to begin with; it couldn't have dropped to zero overnight - the change was probably gradual.

You seem like a nice guy - I'm not judging you. But cheating is wrong, whatever the circumstances. If you love her, maybe you ought to see a therapist; if you don't, you're still young. Maybe you need to end it and move on. There is no middle ground here. Five minutes of rub n' dub with a stranger won't solve anything.

 

[lustatopia]

Safe_bet, put your buttplug back in your pie hole. You're a giant wart hog that needs to be put down before you eat more children. The villagers are coming for you with pitchforks. They want their babies back.

Stella, STFU you snarky little ferret face shit stain. You hate yourself so much I smell you from here.

BoreVAhousewife, I don't know you. But I suggest you start stocking vomit bags next to the keyboard, 'cause a lot people are here -- both men and women -- because they ain't getting none at home. Case in point see Stella and the Wart Hog.

Hey, that's an idea... Stella and Safe_Plug we could cross breed you two. Wart Hog with illiterate ferret, wonder what we would get? Safe_Ferret? Stella_Hog?

Seamen, at 125 posts, you're doing good, mate, keep up the good work, but be careful the amateur psychologist advice combined with your culture-bound sense of morality doesn't get too facile. Type11966 is a unique human being with a whooper size problem. Even though all we can see is a few dozen words of Type's world, a real life exists out there somewhere...

Type 11966. Ignore all the stupid fucks on Lit, including me. You have to be who you are and achieve your own fulfilment. No advice will help because your situation is impossible to understand in enough detail for online diagnosis. The Nazi here will just stereotype you, pigeon hole your dreams and flush your hopes down the toilet, because that's what happened to them. But I know that your situation is far more complex than any of us here can hope to understand. How do I know that? Because you're a human being.

But I'm going to tell you what to do anyway.

You're 32. That's young. If you really feel like you got try sex with a guy. You got to do it now, before it's too late. Yeah, it's cheating on the wife and that's bad. But where are you going to be at 42? Where are you going to be at 52?

How many lives do you have to live?

Give up on childhood sexual fantasies. Don't bother with your old friend, or do like the Ferret suggested and be real oblique about it, but beware your own fantasies might lead you to misinterpret the situation and lead to a pretty awkward situation, to say the least.

Better to find a guy online who you get along with and who totally understands your difficult situation, then meet and try gay sex.

It might turn out you made a poor choice of life partners and you'll have to face the difficult transition out of that relationship. Or maybe not. Who knows? Life is a grand adventure. But unlike the lard asses around here with 29,000 posts to their name, there really is a whole world out there and it belongs to we the living rather than the online living dead.

Go for it, dude!

 

[wishywashy]

Hello,

32 bi-curious married guy here. Been married over 10 years and wife is not very sexual any longer. I find myself looking at bi-sexual pron as a relief. Back when I was young a couple buddies and I used to JO together and later tried some oral. When we started getting into girls we stopped.

So now I've been thinking of contacting my old buddy on Facebook, to see if he still thinks of this stuff. I would love to play together again and we chat a little bit on there, but our sexual past hasn't come up.

Should I ask him? or find someoned else?

U could either do both if u really wanted two.U were buddies at first so what can happen .He can just say no not interested in doing that again with u.Then go on and find someone else that is more appealing to u if still interested in the given subject.

 

[Tmmldr]

....
I love the part about the "fat, lazy, abusive, smelly, fucktard...that turns her off" .....

I liked it too, and think there are probably some fat, lazy, abusive, smelly fucktard lezzies in the vicinity....


.....LOL...