Tihmmnmmish's Very Laid-Back Summery Poolside Threadcast

[PandoraGlitters]

Ooh, you're fancy, Annie!

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Ooh, you're fancy, Annie!

had to check it out in here first lol

 

[EroticOrogeny]

excuse me while I have a fiddle

¿ǝɹǝɥ uı ʞɹoʍ sıɥʇ sǝop

Amazing!
Don't see how you did that?

 

[EroticOrogeny]

ʍoɥ ǝǝs I ʍoN
?os thguoht evah dluow ohw

 

[UnderYourSpell]

ʍoɥ ǝǝs I ʍoN
?os thguoht evah dluow ohw

tsk I was going to tell you it as an ancient art handed down through the years and to impart such wisdom to you would mean I had to killl you afterwards with unrelenting sex

 

[EroticOrogeny]

tsk I was going to tell you it as an ancient art handed down through the years and to impart such wisdom to you would mean I had to killl you afterwards with unrelenting sex

Google is an amazing tool.
My tool might quit with the unrelenting sex.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Google is an amazing tool.
My tool might quit with the unrelenting sex.

*inspects EOs tool for durability*

 

[EroticOrogeny]

*inspects EOs tool for durability*

My wife finds it good over the long haul

 

[wildsweetone]

something else to add into the mixture of my new life - PTSD.

anybody had anything to do with this disorder?

i'm trying to get myself back into yoga - the breathing exercises and the slower stretching exercises. and i'm struggling to learn how to meditate. i am having difficulty getting the thoughts of wanting to do these things, moving into actually doing them. i seem to think about them for all of 10 seconds and then the thoughts are gone and i don't do them as i've lost focus.

i'm certainly getting a really good understanding of depression.

any thoughts would be appreciated

 

[EroticOrogeny]

something else to add into the mixture of my new life - PTSD.

anybody had anything to do with this disorder?

i'm trying to get myself back into yoga - the breathing exercises and the slower stretching exercises. and i'm struggling to learn how to meditate. i am having difficulty getting the thoughts of wanting to do these things, moving into actually doing them. i seem to think about them for all of 10 seconds and then the thoughts are gone and i don't do them as i've lost focus.

i'm certainly getting a really good understanding of depression.

any thoughts would be appreciated

I have no direct knowledge on PTSD, but LadynStFreknBed does, and has some post here which discuss that. I think she also has a web site on the subject.

Sorry to hear that you're having troubles - hope you can get yourself back on track. Just remember - only need to take things a day (or a minute) at a time.

 

[wildsweetone]

I have no direct knowledge on PTSD, but LadynStFreknBed does, and has some post here which discuss that. I think she also has a web site on the subject.

Sorry to hear that you're having troubles - hope you can get yourself back on track. Just remember - only need to take things a day (or a minute) at a time.

i knew i'd seen something here somewhere so thought i'd ask. xox
temporary set back is all. i'm now mostly living one day at a time instead of half a day at a time, and that feels like a huge improvement for me. i just have difficulties with early mornings and with new things and there's a lot of new things, but i'll get there bit by bit. i'll go hunt out the posts, thank you.

 

[champagne1982]

i knew i'd seen something here somewhere so thought i'd ask. xox
temporary set back is all. i'm now mostly living one day at a time instead of half a day at a time, and that feels like a huge improvement for me. i just have difficulties with early mornings and with new things and there's a lot of new things, but i'll get there bit by bit. i'll go hunt out the posts, thank you.

I can't hear an ambulance or see their lights without crying. I know it seems a small thing but I spent weeks watching an arm rot and die. It was horrifying and all I can do is pray that the lights and the sirens mean the passenger will be ok. I find it helps to ride the trauma if I say something, those who hear it every time, tire quickly and so, I just sit quiet for a minute and promise I'll see a professional some day.

 

[wildsweetone]

I can't hear an ambulance or see their lights without crying. I know it seems a small thing but I spent weeks watching an arm rot and die. It was horrifying and all I can do is pray that the lights and the sirens mean the passenger will be ok. I find it helps to ride the trauma if I say something, those who hear it every time, tire quickly and so, I just sit quiet for a minute and promise I'll see a professional some day.

i think that trauma is something that is individual to each one of us and our own experiences of life affect how we react to the trauma. i think our own traumas are important to our own self and it doesn't matter to us what others think of the degree of importance our trauma has to them. trauma is trauma. we just accept that, get the skills to deal with it as best we can and continue with life. i hope you get to see a professional soon... i am grateful that i am getting help. hopefully the stuff i'm dealing with won't continue eating away at me for too long. i prefer to have joy in my life, not fear.

 

[EroticOrogeny]

i think that trauma is something that is individual to each one of us and our own experiences of life affect how we react to the trauma. i think our own traumas are important to our own self and it doesn't matter to us what others think of the degree of importance our trauma has to them. trauma is trauma. we just accept that, get the skills to deal with it as best we can and continue with life. i hope you get to see a professional soon... i am grateful that i am getting help. hopefully the stuff i'm dealing with won't continue eating away at me for too long. i prefer to have joy in my life, not fear.

I so strongly agree -we each have our own individual traumas. Often profound turning points in our lives. Right now I'm still dealing with by burn and its gradual recovery. Put in the big picture its going to be just a brief incident, while some other things are long-lasting for me. Generally more emotional than physical.
My alcoholism and subsequent recovery in AA (an on-going, and hopefully lifelong process) is certainly significant. Right now I don't feel the need for professional help with my other issues, but I have talked about them with my AA sponsor.
I hope everyone finds what they need!

 

[wildsweetone]

I so strongly agree -we each have our own individual traumas. Often profound turning points in our lives. Right now I'm still dealing with by burn and its gradual recovery. Put in the big picture its going to be just a brief incident, while some other things are long-lasting for me. Generally more emotional than physical.
My alcoholism and subsequent recovery in AA (an on-going, and hopefully lifelong process) is certainly significant. Right now I don't feel the need for professional help with my other issues, but I have talked about them with my AA sponsor.
I hope everyone finds what they need!

i'm sorry i didn't realise your burn was so serious. i hope that it is healing okay, i will keep you in my prayers xox

i know it helps me to talk with others about my issues. even if it's not professional help... sometimes another person can just give a different perspective that helps me out. at the moment i'm doing whatever works for me as i go along each day. we each do what is right for us in the moment.

champ reminded me of something... my father had a stroke when he was 41. for several years after that i was petrified of every ambulance that i saw - imagining instantly that each one was going to my home because my dad had had another stroke. it was unrealistic thinking, but it showed how much of an impact his stroke had on me.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

You seem to be searching for ways to rid yourself of you traumas which is a very brave and sensible thing to do. I've hidden mine deep oh sure I mention them now and again on here but apart from one disastrous attempt I've not got any professional help. To tell you the truth I'm embarrassed (as well as hurt) which is probably rediculous, The hurt comes from my Mother and the embarrassment (and deep seated guilt) from other stuff. Big lumps have been blocked for some reason and I wonder why? I don't have continuation in my memories if that makes sense just a vivid scene here and there. If I am asked when did it start and when did it end I have no idea, only an estimation with the age I can see myself in those scenes. The mind is a funny thing so intricate and different in every case, with all the millions of traumatised souls in the world how can they ever be mended?

 

[wildsweetone]

it's early days yet for me and i don't know if mine can be mended or not. but i do know that i don't like the ikky feeling they give me when they bombard me and i would give almost anything to not have that bombardment happen. it makes me feel totally afraid and completely at their beck and call and i don't like that at all.

i prefer to have nice things to think about, but my brain is tired and every experience is new and that seems to trigger the traumas. my counsellor will help me with dealing with them, i am grateful i have her help because i just can't seem to do it alone.

i have had several short term glimpses into what it feels like to be completely at peace. so that peace is my aim in life. where i have a choice, i'll go for the more pleasurable.

i am learning to arrange my stressers where possible - it's something i have to do for the rest of my life. i'm not allowed to have two or three stressers in a day. only one and preferably in the early afternoon. so where i would normally book a day of appointments in order to give me the rest of the week off, i now have to only book one appointment per day or second day to allow my mind and body to heal after the stress levels have risen.

my self awareness levels have lifted a lot. when i am feeling well, i can tell fairly quickly most times now when something doesn't feel right. before i would just ignore it and continue in the same situation. now i don't. i recognise the feeling and use distraction techniques or remove myself from the situation or state straight out that something is not acceptable to me. self preservation seems to be kicking in and that's not a bad thing after years of living untrue to my self.

so for me, these strategies the therapist has helped me learn, have been a godsend. basic, simple, quick, useful techniques that will become second nature to me the more i practice them.

i can't fix everyone elses traumas, but i can attempt to fix my own in the way that i feel is right for my self. i want to and am ready to live a more healthy and peaceful life. the alternative of being always afraid is something i'd prefer to exorcise if at all possible.

 

[EroticOrogeny]

it's early days yet for me and i don't know if mine can be mended or not. but i do know that i don't like the ikky feeling they give me when they bombard me and i would give almost anything to not have that bombardment happen. it makes me feel totally afraid and completely at their beck and call and i don't like that at all.

i prefer to have nice things to think about, but my brain is tired and every experience is new and that seems to trigger the traumas. my counsellor will help me with dealing with them, i am grateful i have her help because i just can't seem to do it alone.

i have had several short term glimpses into what it feels like to be completely at peace. so that peace is my aim in life. where i have a choice, i'll go for the more pleasurable.

i am learning to arrange my stressers where possible - it's something i have to do for the rest of my life. i'm not allowed to have two or three stressers in a day. only one and preferably in the early afternoon. so where i would normally book a day of appointments in order to give me the rest of the week off, i now have to only book one appointment per day or second day to allow my mind and body to heal after the stress levels have risen.

my self awareness levels have lifted a lot. when i am feeling well, i can tell fairly quickly most times now when something doesn't feel right. before i would just ignore it and continue in the same situation. now i don't. i recognise the feeling and use distraction techniques or remove myself from the situation or state straight out that something is not acceptable to me. self preservation seems to be kicking in and that's not a bad thing after years of living untrue to my self.

so for me, these strategies the therapist has helped me learn, have been a godsend. basic, simple, quick, useful techniques that will become second nature to me the more i practice them.

i can't fix everyone elses traumas, but i can attempt to fix my own in the way that i feel is right for my self. i want to and am ready to live a more healthy and peaceful life. the alternative of being always afraid is something i'd prefer to exorcise if at all possible.

Its good to hear your counselor is helping you. Going thru these things is much tougher when one tries it alone.

As you say, you're early in your recovery. You've had glimpses of peace and serenity - more will come as you continue on.

But you need to make sure you have tools to help when unexpected stressors arise. Hopefully you can call your counselor when these arise. I find that the serenity prayer is a great help with the unexpected vagaries of life.

And thanks for your concern over my burn. It is healing, it takes a while, but progress is noticeable. Today my doctor said in 2 weeks I won't even think about it. I don't think I'll forget that fast, but hopefully be back to normal by then. I've been going in on Mondays to see the doctor as well as the nurses,
and Wed and Fri just the nurses. This week I can skip the Wed visit - just Friday!

And congratulations on working on starting to turn your life around adn I'll keep you in my prayers.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

One important thing I have learnt in life is I CAN walk away I am a very private person try to push me too hard or get too close and I will withdraw.

 

[EroticOrogeny]

I see its getting hot on the east coast - hotter than Houston at the moment.
We're going thru quite a wet period now, but had high heat early in the season.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

There is something very wrong about flying away on vacation to warmer climes when it is so damn hot at home!

 

[EroticOrogeny]

I think the heat is coming back - last few days have been cool (below 90) but very rainy.
Overall around 10 inches.
Spenidng some time checking out tropical weather, as this season is supposed to be quite active.
Certainly can't forget H Ike, but so far been more like TS Allison (only TS to have its name retired) - over 39 in of rain during a 5 day span.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

looking for sanctuary and nobody home sigh

 

[Angeline]

looking for sanctuary and nobody home sigh

Where is Tihmmmmmmmm? He has been mia for a while, hasn't he?

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Where is Tihmmmmmmmm? He has been mia for a while, hasn't he?

he's same place as a lot of us Facebook