survey: men and their love of sports

[littlebabyclit]

In your opinion, do sports-loving or sports-addicted guys pay less (or more) attention to their S.O.'s?

I swear, my long time husband's real wife is his t.v. and love of sports. Spending time with me or paying attention to me is secondary- it must fit around the sports schedule. I read a lot of things online (especially in Mr GGG's thread about the G spot) about these guys out there in the world who like to spend HOURS (and hours) with their women, making love to them and learning their sexual desires/wants/needs. I'm probably pretty naive compared to many others on this forum but this kind of man is news to me. Of course, this IS a sex-related forum, and the men who are very into women and sex are more likely to be found writing here, but still... I gotta ask...

If you're one of those guys who spends a lot of time with your woman/women sexually (and otherwise) I want to know: how much are you into sports ? I'm mostly referring to time spent watching it on t.v. So how much time do you devote to watching sports on t.v. ? Occasional watching, moderate, heavy, or must-plan-life-around-it watching ? What describes you best?

And is there a correlation between how much time a man devotes to sports and how much time he spends on his S.O. ?

 

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[Typo Fu Master]

I must be one of the unusual ones then. I don't like sports at all.

I don't think there's any correlation between love of (or hate of) sports and the amount of attention paid to one's S.O. It's just like anything else a man might be into intensely. I'm sure somewhere out there is a woman who is disgusted by the amount of time her man spends gluing tiny ships together inside a bottle.

I'm curious about the flip side of your question. Are there women out there depriving their S.O. of attention in name of their favorite activities?

 

[silverwhisper]

i tend to find questions such as the one posed in the OP to depend upon certain gender role assumptions that are not valid in a surprisingly large number of instances. IOW: i'm seeing a lot of "men are [x] or [y]" in the OP. i wonder how a thread that opened with "women are [x] or [y] would go over.

i'm not a sports fan, although i follow the giants during football season. this doesn't generally involve neglecting the mrs anymore than her watching CSI without me does.

ed

 

[littlebabyclit]

I must be one of the unusual ones then. I don't like sports at all.

I don't think there's any correlation between love of (or hate of) sports and the amount of attention paid to one's S.O. It's just like anything else a man might be into intensely. I'm sure somewhere out there is a woman who is disgusted by the amount of time her man spends gluing tiny ships together inside a bottle.

I'm curious about the flip side of your question. Are there women out there depriving their S.O. of attention in name of their favorite activities?

Typo Fu Master,

Thanks for your input. So you're not a sports guy. For survey purposes, are you a man who pays a lot of attention to your woman, sexually? Like, hour(s) at a time? Do you spend time learning more about sexual techniques and how to please her?

The difference between a man who is into sports watching and one who does ships in bottles is significant. You can work on the ships in your spare time. Sports events, however, have to be viewed when they're broadcast so that you don't accidentally learn the score later on the news or from your friends because you taped the game to watch later. In other words, sports viewing influences the schedule of a couple's mutual life. Other hobbies, not so much.

As for what primary interest women have the could disrupt a couple's sex life, it's pretty well known it can be motherly duties/ children/ housework. Or friggin' mood swings, or the husband pissing you off, that time of the month, etc. etc. But I think that could be a topic/thread of its own...?

 

[littlebabyclit]

i tend to find questions such as the one posed in the OP to depend upon certain gender role assumptions that are not valid in a surprisingly large number of instances. IOW: i'm seeing a lot of "men are [x] or [y]" in the OP. i wonder how a thread that opened with "women are [x] or [y] would go over.

i'm not a sports fan, although i follow the giants during football season. this doesn't generally involve neglecting the mrs anymore than her watching CSI without me does.

ed

Hi silverwhisper,

Thanks for your input.

Half the discussions at Lit involve trying to figure out and discuss what generally appeals to men or women sexually, in order to apply (and adapt) the information to people one specifically knows. Gender is frequently involved and relevant to discussions here. I agree that gender roles may not apply to many people, but, they also do seem to still apply to many other people too. Whether we like it or not.

But I never said sports viewing is tied to the male gender- but is it not more integral to some males' lives, by far, than women's?

If someone wants to bring up a topic of what women (typically or generally) want, so what?

You seem to classify yourself then by your post as a light sports viewer. Now tell us, are you lightly, moderately or heavily attentive to your woman/women sexually? This is for survey purposes. Thanks !

 

[littlebabyclit]

Not to ignore your post (even though I have no comments about it) thanks for your input, jtohisPB.

 

[Typo Fu Master]

Typo Fu Master,

Thanks for your input. So you're not a sports guy. For survey purposes, are you a man who pays a lot of attention to your woman, sexually? Like, hour(s) at a time? Do you spend time learning more about sexual techniques and how to please her?

I am currently between relationships, but when I was involved, I like to think I made sure she was satisfied. Not hours at a time though. That's something I'm currently working on. I recently purchased a very interesting book called She Comes First. Very in depth on how to perform cunnilingus.

The difference between a man who is into sports watching and one who does ships in bottles is significant. You can work on the ships in your spare time. Sports events, however, have to be viewed when they're broadcast so that you don't accidentally learn the score later on the news or from your friends because you taped the game to watch later. In other words, sports viewing influences the schedule of a couple's mutual life. Other hobbies, not so much.

I don't see any difference at all: the sports can be taped, as you suggested, or TIVO'd. After that, it's up to his sense of priorities. And bottled ship building or other hobbies can be done to the point where she's feeling neglected, not just in his spare time.

I'm just saying that any activity can come between partners if it's pursued with the kind of dedication you're referring to.

 

[littlebabyclit]

I am currently between relationships, but when I was involved, I like to think I made sure she was satisfied. Not hours at a time though. That's something I'm currently working on. I recently purchased a very interesting book called She Comes First. Very in depth on how to perform cunnilingus.

I don't see any difference at all: the sports can be taped, as you suggested, or TIVO'd. After that, it's up to his sense of priorities. And bottled ship building or other hobbies can be done to the point where she's feeling neglected, not just in his spare time.

I'm just saying that any activity can come between partners if it's pursued with the kind of dedication you're referring to.

Thanks for elaborating. I agree that any activity could suck up a S.O.'s time, sure. But my personal experience is that even a sports game that is TIVO'd or dvr'd still has to be gotten to rather quickly, or you find out the score otherwise and then why bother watching. Or, the event just becomes old news. If you're really into sports, that kind of time delay probably won't do.

But I posit that the males who are writing on Literotica about their frequent, lengthy exploration of and enjoyment of sex with their women, they sure the hell ain't spending 2 to 3 hours a night or every other night on sports watching, if they're paying that much attention to her. Logistically speaking, it doesn't gel with me.

Am I alone in that assumption?

Or are the super lovers of Lit really full of shit and stretching the tales of their sexual experiences (whoops, another possibly male trait-boasting and exaggeration?)

(((((Ducking from the tomatoes)))))

 

[subwannabe]

Interesting question. Unfortunately, my life doesn't qualify to answer your question. But, it did occur to me that in the sports sections of newspapers is where you find a lot of ads for strip joints, escort services, massage parlors, etc., so, I wonder, how that fits in with your question.

 

[DrHappy]

I've never enjoyed TV sports. I'd rather be watching porn. Beyond that, I'd rather be having sex with my wife. Neither one of us is into sports, and she'd grateful for that. I write fantasy stories for her, and we are creative in bed.

 

[silverwhisper]

lbc quoth:
half the discussions at lit involve trying to figure out and discuss what generally appeals to men or women sexually, in order to apply (and adapt) the information to people one specifically knows. gender is frequently involved and relevant to discussions here. i agree that gender roles may not apply to many people, but, they also do seem to still apply to many other people too. whether we like it or not.

1. you really don't need to tell me what lit discussions are like: i already know, quite well. :>
2. you appear to defend the validity of men = sports viewers, but insist later you're being more nuanced than that. i suggest picking one and proceeding accordingly.

lbc quoth:
but i never said sports viewing is tied to the male gender- but is it not more integral to some males' lives, by far, than women's?

2 things:

1. you'll have to forgive me, but looking at the first sentence in the OP...

lbc quoth:
in your opinion, do sports-loving or sports-addicted guys pay less (or more) attention to their SOs?

...that really doesn't seem to be the case.

2. my sister's a massive mets fan. she's having a bad month as a result. and she's a much more intense sports fan than i am: she won't even pick up the phone if i try to call her when the mets are playing. i've never known a male sports fan whose focus is that intense.

lbc quoth:
if someone wants to bring up a topic of what women (typically or generally) want, so what?

nothing in the least. in fact, in your time on lit, you should have noticed a very large number of female posters doing just that, and i'm fairly certain you've even participated in such discussions.

what i am saying is that there's a subtext running through your posts in this thread, a subtext that hints at an agenda. if you truly have no agenda, i feel i should bring that to your attention.

lbc quoth:
you seem to classify yourself then by your post as a light sports viewer. now tell us, are you lightly, moderately or heavily attentive to your woman/women sexually?

i'm normally very responsive to surveys or polls as i've started no small number of them myself, so i'd like to answer. however, i think there are 2 problems with the way the question's been posed that make responding to the questions problematic enough that i was curious if you wanted to re-phrase.

1. it's basically going to elicit either non-serious/joke responses, or the thread will rapidly devolve into a cock size contest, with male respondents unconsciously trying to one-up prior respondents.

2. it doesn't seem to acknowledge that a given viewer's interest in sports may naturally fluctuate depending upon regular season/playoffs, the storyline around a specific game (e.g., key player is injured, heated rivalry b/n teams, etc), and a lower than usual interest level in the viewer might make the viewer more open to ignoring the game periodically.

and even having said that, it's hard to answer the question. my attentiveness level WRT my wife is variable, depending upon a range of factors, potentially including: whether she's in the middle of a task that requires concentration, my interest level in the particular game i'm watching and where in the game things are, if she's been feeling vulnerable or neglected lately, if i feel that my being attention is (un)welcome just then, and a host of other things.

 

[littlebabyclit]

I've never enjoyed TV sports. I'd rather be watching porn. Beyond that, I'd rather be having sex with my wife. Neither one of us is into sports, and she'd grateful for that. I write fantasy stories for her, and we are creative in bed.

Thanks for your participation in my survey, DrHappy! And my regards to the surely happy Mrs.Happy !

 

[littlebabyclit]

1. you really don't need to tell me what lit discussions are like: i already know, quite well. :>

Hello silverwhisper,
Really? Then why did you seem to need reminding? As if I'm the only person who ever brought up a gender related issue? Sorry I offended you.

2. you appear to defend the validity of men = sports viewers, but insist later you're being more nuanced than that. i suggest picking one and proceeding accordingly.

Hah?

2 things:

1. you'll have to forgive me, but looking at the first sentence in the OP...

...that really doesn't seem to be the case.

nothing in the least. in fact, in your time on lit, you should have noticed a very large number of female posters doing just that, and i'm fairly certain you've even participated in such discussions.

You have no idea what discussions I've participated in around Lit, and just by saying that, it shows you didn't even check. :caning:

what i am saying is that there's a subtext running through your posts in this thread, a subtext that hints at an agenda. if you truly have no agenda, i feel i should bring that to your attention.

Yeah, my agenda is to find out what other men are like, compared to my husband. What are other people's experiences are like with the sports thing, compared to mine. Not to convert anybody to man hating, since you are wondering.

Obviously you really don't like my survey, so, a better question would be, what's *your* agenda?

i'm normally very responsive to surveys or polls as i've started no small number of them myself, so i'd like to answer. however, i think there are 2 problems with the way the question's been posed that make responding to the questions problematic enough that i was curious if you wanted to re-phrase.

No, I don't. Others are figuring out how to answer it. Specific questions may be asked if clarification is needed.

1. it's basically going to elicit either non-serious/joke responses, or the thread will rapidly devolve into a cock size contest, with male respondents unconsciously trying to one-up prior respondents.

Ha ! Thanks for the warning, I guess? So far I've gotten decent answers.

What I'm seeing from your reply is just a condescending attempt by you to undermine my credibility to even ask such questions. Like this is some hard science quantitative analysis research survey I'm trying to feebly pass off here. It's just a freaking discussion. It's not a hostile attack on maledom. You're welcome to continue making some more allegedly superior surveys of your own if you don't like mine.

Geez, I'd expect much more of a riled up reply from somebody who actually cared more about sports. Huh. Who knew? I think you're a whole lot more disturbed by gender-related topics than I am.

Thanks for the rest of your reply, which approached more of an actual answer/opinion from you on the subject. Have a lovely day.

 

[mark_j]

Or are the super lovers of Lit really full of shit and stretching the tales of their sexual experiences (whoops, another possibly male trait-boasting and exaggeration?)

(((((Ducking from the tomatoes)))))

Give that lady a cookie.. You probably hit the target right on the head..

It's internet fantasy land.

All women can suck a golf ball through a garden hose, swallow willingly and will fuck at the drop of a hat.

All men have 8" + cocks, go down on their women for hours and hours, the stamina to put a porn star to shame and blast more cum than Peter North on a good day..

 

[caged_doll]

It varies. I was with this one guy for a very short time and I wanted to have sex. And we had to wait until after the game was over. I could understand if it was The Rose Bowl (it was college football) but a regular series game? Ugh. Everytime I see the Texas Longhorns now I just cringe thinking of him.

And then I know other, more wonderful, men who share a passion for sports AND being very very good in bed and being emotionally available and "there."

 

[caged_doll]

Give that lady a cookie.. You probably hit the target right on the head..

It's internet fantasy land.

All women can suck a golf ball through a garden hose, swallow willingly and will fuck at the drop of a hat.

All men have 8" + cocks, go down on their women for hours and hours, the stamina to put a porn star to shame and blast more cum than Peter North on a good day..

How did you know I could do all that? You left out the part that I am wearing a latex catsuit with 6 inch heels while performing such activities.

 

[mark_j]

How did you know I could do all that? You left out the part that I am wearing a latex catsuit with 6 inch heels while performing such activities.

MY imagination sucked that day... You also probably do housework and gardening in the nude.. randomly flash people on the street.. blow your man while going down the freeway.. and then get out of the car looking like you are ready for high tea at the waldorf..

 

[Eilan]

I'm a woman (at least on the Internet ), but I'm also a huge sports fan. May I reply?

My husband and I both enjoy college and NFL football, even when our favorite team isn't playing. It's something we have in common, and it doesn't affect our relationship, really, except when I get all pissy about our team's performance, or lack thereof. It doesn't affect our sex life at all.

My ex-husband played football at the collegiate and semi-pro level, and the post-collegiate stuff created problems in our relationship. I thought that once we were both gainfully employed and we had a toddler and a newborn, he should devote more time to his family and less time to football, particularly when he wasn't getting compensated for it. He, apparently, thought differently, and that was one of several issues that led to his now being an ex.

 

[littlebabyclit]

I'm a woman (at least on the Internet ), but I'm also a huge sports fan. May I reply?

My husband and I both enjoy college and NFL football, even when our favorite team isn't playing. It's something we have in common, and it doesn't affect our relationship, really, except when I get all pissy about our team's performance, or lack thereof. It doesn't affect our sex life at all.

My ex-husband played football at the collegiate and semi-pro level, and the post-collegiate stuff created problems in our relationship. I thought that once we were both gainfully employed and we had a toddler and a newborn, he should devote more time to his family and less time to football, particularly when he wasn't getting compensated for it. He, apparently, thought differently, and that was one of several issues that led to his now being an ex.

Aha. Two different experiences with sports loving men. Thanks for your input, Elian !

 

[StrayKat]

blow your man while going down the freeway.. and then get out of the car looking like you are ready for high tea at the waldorf..

I actually did that

OT:
I was married to a guy who never missed a sport on TV and now I am married to a guy who doesnt care about sports at all.
I dont see any difference in how much attention I get now and what I was getting back then. A lot in both cases

 

[littlebabyclit]

Thanks for your input, StrayKat !!

 

[silverwhisper]

lbc: you know, i typed up a whole big response to your post but deleted it, b/c i figure that this all looks like a misunderstanding. i think we both have some valid points, but ultimately, exploring them seems like an investment in time that neither of us are particularly interested in making.

so instead: let's start over. i'd like a fresh start, since we don't really know one another. perhaps we can have a more productive exchange this way.

how's that sound?

ed

 

[littlebabyclit]

Ed, I think that sounds wonderful !

 

[silverwhisper]

cool! :>

ed