Gender benders

[Quint]

Do you find that you naturally assume what is stereotypically thought of as a particular gender role in your relationships? I'm totally girly with men, but I find myself acting quite the gentleman around girls, especially petite ones. I open doors, pay tabs at restaurants, and generally take control. In the bedroom I'm switchier given the inclination of the girl. However, I never play this up to the degree of trying to look more masculine--I'm too fond of my feminine features. So it's strictly behavior, not appearance.

So how do you identify? Or is "gender role" not relevant to your relationship? If so, why?

 

[glamorilla]

i've been trying to talk the guys i date into pitching in and getting me a cleaning service?

 

[WhisperHaven]

I guess I've never really noticed. I took one of those personality/sexuality tests and I tested as pretty much andro. To look at me, most would call me feminine. However, I tend to be less than delicate in my actions, both around men and women.

Heck, I dunno. I'm just me.

 

[MzChrista]

Im tiny and girlie looking physically but Im kind of butch. I just dont see that as masculine/feminine.

 

[Netzach]

I scored mondo androgyne in those quizzes. I'm butch or femme depending on my mood every fifteen minutes, classic neither.

 

[James G 5]

I scored mondo androgyne in those quizzes. I'm butch or femme depending on my mood every fifteen minutes, classic neither.

My behaviors fall all over the map too
makes people nuts

 

[onewingedangel]

I'm a guy who identifies more as a fem than as the steriotypical sense of being male. I dont think I act it out as much as I want to because doing so reminds of the fact that I am very much physically male. I would still be the gentleperson that I am male or not. I tend to be sub and dom and inbetween in all my relationships.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

if this don't fuck your brain...

I have noticed in my past relationships with males...i am always the caretaker...always the moneymaker...always the one who maintains control both inside and outside of the home. (Not counting my ex-Owner who happened to be male) However with females, i am usually the gentle, submissive type. I adore women and trust most of em implicitly...so i allow myself to be feminine around them. With guys it's usually all about control...who has it and what does it take to get it and keep it....therefore i find myself more of a *butch* type when i have a guy. (is that not the wierdest thing You ever heard of??)
PET

 

[Netzach]

pet:

totally not.

I'm not more "butch" in that sense of taking care and making things happen, (that's where being a Dominant comes into play for me, and it's a very femme thing for me)

...but I often feel male identified around men in general. I think my relationship structures and patterns with men MUCH more closely mirror gay relationships between men than the roadmap of hetero relationships.

 

[april-wine]

While I am not a girlie girl, I am most decidely all woman....In my relationships I am the protector....I just wanna keep safe and spoil....

 

[SweetCherry]

Would that make me the girlie girl then?

 

[Etoile]

It's funny, I try to be very chivalrous with my girlfriend (I'm still hopelessly femme) but with Daddy I let myself be the girl.

 

[Pattythebelle]

Here's another that needs a bump!

 

[Shywong]

Here's another that needs a bump!

Goddamn. The last post in this thread was back in 2003. Did you use a time machine to find this?

Androgyny is a delicacy, so I admire and adore those I meet who have the qualities. As for myself I'd say I'm chivalrous to any gender but not the most masculine of males. For starters, I hate sports and take no interest in cars or guns. Maybe that just makes me a nerd.

 

[PurpleTiara]

girly girl in an iron butterfly sort of way. I like the lacy, girly things, but can take care of business as needed.

 

[Pattythebelle]

The time machine!

Goddamn. The last post in this thread was back in 2003. Did you use a time machine to find this?

HA HA HA! No I just happened to hit the wrong button when looking back at some of the threads!