Small Penis Humiliation

[NancyPan]

I think that there is a difference between very much wanting to help a woman achieve orgasm (we are partners in achieving our own orgasms) for her pleasure

Thank you! I LOVE sharing in it with Her, maybe especially on those occasions when She makes it clear that my own release will be denied so that I can focus on Her. I feel proud to please Her.

versus doing so to feed the man's ego. The former is all about caring and it is ok to be proud of that. The latter has very little to do with caring and is mostly about the man wanting to have sexual power. In that case the fact that it is not directly about our pleasure significantly reduces the chances that he will succeed because it affects our headspace. It creates a dynamic where our focus shifts from our own pleasure to feeding his ego/delusions - few things turn me off as much as knowing I might need to fake it so his ego doesn't get bruised, which can then become a self-fulfilling thing.

As it relates to women in positions of authority, yes I think there should be more. But it isn't necessarily because we are anymore qualified to be in authority. I just think that we have to open our eyes to the fact that gender isn't a particularly good indicator of leadership ability. If we took a more balanced approach and looked at the characteristics that make for good leadership without giving preference to men or traditionally glorified male traits the result would be more women in positions of authority.

I generally agree with this, and there are plenty of examples of poor female leaders in politics and in industry. However, taken as a whole, IMO, women are less likely to lead us into wars or engage in retaliatory escalations (for the same reasons of ego that you describe). It is well documented that women, although quite capable of being assertive, are less violent (but I know I am now far afield from the thread topic of small penis humiliation ).

"Equality" has been an objective for a few decades now as women seek to be released from the oppression of the patriarchy. But to my mind that doesn't necessarily mean that the partners in a marriage always have to be equal in authority with everything decided by consensus. Many couples work better when one partner takes the lead. In that context, I think that equality means that either partner can take the lead rather than the lead role being established by gender.

In the sexual realm we are usually in the lead anyway, whether or not the men recognize it. That is magnified for you fellas that are lacking in endowment - as much because of your own psychology and the emphasis that you put on it as anything else. That is, IMO, part of why an FLR is so suitable for you.

It works for me and my Queen!

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

It isn't always a matter of domination.

It can be about control - I don't necessarily mean in the bedroom so much as our inclination to be possessive and therefore control our partner's sexual activities.

And men also are very much caught up in whether they can bring a woman to orgasm. They need to feel as though they have the ability...the power...to bring about her orgasm. The simple reality is that the female orgasm is more complex and elusive than the male orgasm (and can be faked). Accepting that some notable percentage of the time their partner will not orgasm often induces men to feel that they have lost some power and therefore seek to regain it in whatever way.

We also see it in how men perceive female promiscuity. A promiscuous woman is a turn on as long as she is being controlled by a man, but as soon as she gains her own agency and chooses the men she desires she is a bitch that must be controlled because of male jealousies.

Finally, look at porn which is still geared mostly towards men (even though women do watch it). In real life women are the sexual gate keepers and it is men who pursue us. But porn often revolves around switching those roles and having women throw themselves at men appealing to the male audience's desire to be in control because they know they are not.

Thank you for your response. Some of these constructs I just don’t understand. If I have sex with my wife and she doesn’t have an orgasm I don’t feel powerless I feel insecure but I don’t push upon her. As to promiscuity and porn it’s not something I’ve thought about. I do see in my observations that women control most relationships.

 

[policywank]

Thank you for your response. Some of these constructs I just don’t understand. If I have sex with my wife and she doesn’t have an orgasm I don’t feel powerless I feel insecure but I don’t push upon her. As to promiscuity and porn it’s not something I’ve thought about. I do see in my observations that women control most relationships.

Ya, I don't think that it is always as overt as my earlier comments implied. Lots of people have healthy sexual relationships without there being an overarching and overt expression of power. But even the subtle things like how a man feels when he is unable to bring a woman to orgasm or the way women control access to sex but men seek to appeal to or circumvent that control involve subtle power dynamics. That may be the exercise of it or even just the recognition of it. The fact that a man feels insecure when he cannot bring a woman to orgasm conveys some subtle power to her. Even if she never uses it much less abuses it he is instinctively inclined to cater to her as a result.

 

[Mike302]

I think that there is a difference between very much wanting to help a woman achieve orgasm (we are partners in achieving our own orgasms) for her pleasure versus doing so to feed the man's ego. The former is all about caring and it is ok to be proud of that. The latter has very little to do with caring and is mostly about the man wanting to have sexual power. In that case the fact that it is not directly about our pleasure significantly reduces the chances that he will succeed because it affects our headspace. It creates a dynamic where our focus shifts from our own pleasure to feeding his ego/delusions - few things turn me off as much as knowing I might need to fake it so his ego doesn't get bruised, which can then become a self-fulfilling thing.

As it relates to women in positions of authority, yes I think there should be more. But it isn't necessarily because we are anymore qualified to be in authority. I just think that we have to open our eyes to the fact that gender isn't a particularly good indicator of leadership ability. If we took a more balanced approach and looked at the characteristics that make for good leadership without giving preference to men or traditionally glorified male traits the result would be more women in positions of authority.

"Equality" has been an objective for a few decades now as women seek to be released from the oppression of the patriarchy. But to my mind that doesn't necessarily mean that the partners in a marriage always have to be equal in authority with everything decided by consensus. Many couples work better when one partner takes the lead. In that context, I think that equality means that either partner can take the lead rather than the lead role being established by gender.

In the sexual realm we are usually in the lead anyway, whether or not the men recognize it. That is magnified for you fellas that are lacking in endowment - as much because of your own psychology and the emphasis that you put on it as anything else. That is, IMO, part of why an FLR is so suitable for you.

Yup!

This made me consider something in my own FLR (Normal sized penis BTW) regarding the sexual realm. At some point sex went from me getting what I need and making sure I "provided" what she needed. It was about my ego. At some point in the relationship, before the FLR formally began, that changed. Was it that my love for her had grown and her satisfaction became as important as or more than my own because I just wanted that for her because she deserved it? Or was it a matter of her training me that the best things happen for me, and us when I do things her way? Probably both.

Anyway, for the OP, even with a normal-sized penis, she still took over the bedroom. She likes to be stroked after she cums and likes me to finish inside. She also gives BJ's. (sometimes my idea, sometimes she asks, or hints) And she pegs me. (Sometimes I drop a hint, but she often initiates) But she only cums after a I give her a massage, ass kissing, (literally) I lay on my back and she fucks my mouth for 45 minutes. We've tried other ways, and toys, but that's her favorite. We've talked about it some and I think it's not that the toys and other positions don't offer the sensations she requires for orgasm, it's that they don't offer her mind what she needs for orgasm. She needs to mount my head and fuck my mouth, the sloppier it gets clearly the more she gets into it. She likes it noisy. Slapping and me taking air in and out when I can. She says she can hear when I swallow. And yea, it's become heaven for me. Which only feeds her ego even more. She's literally getting off on the fact that she "turned" me or switched the sexual polarity to what she wants.

Anyway, OP, don't feel weird about being in an FLR and the wife controls the bedroom. It's not uncommon anymore. If she loves you, and it sounds like she does, she'll take care of ya.

 

[BillyWalrus]

Yup!

This made me consider something in my own FLR (Normal sized penis BTW) regarding the sexual realm. At some point sex went from me getting what I need and making sure I "provided" what she needed. It was about my ego. At some point in the relationship, before the FLR formally began, that changed. Was it that my love for her had grown and her satisfaction became as important as or more than my own because I just wanted that for her because she deserved it? Or was it a matter of her training me that the best things happen for me, and us when I do things her way? Probably both.

Anyway, for the OP, even with a normal-sized penis, she still took over the bedroom. She likes to be stroked after she cums and likes me to finish inside. She also gives BJ's. (sometimes my idea, sometimes she asks, or hints) And she pegs me. (Sometimes I drop a hint, but she often initiates) But she only cums after a I give her a massage, ass kissing, (literally) I lay on my back and she fucks my mouth for 45 minutes. We've tried other ways, and toys, but that's her favorite. We've talked about it some and I think it's not that the toys and other positions don't offer the sensations she requires for orgasm, it's that they don't offer her mind what she needs for orgasm. She needs to mount my head and fuck my mouth, the sloppier it gets clearly the more she gets into it. She likes it noisy. Slapping and me taking air in and out when I can. She says she can hear when I swallow. And yea, it's become heaven for me. Which only feeds her ego even more. She's literally getting off on the fact that she "turned" me or switched the sexual polarity to what she wants.

Anyway, OP, don't feel weird about being in an FLR and the wife controls the bedroom. It's not uncommon anymore. If she loves you, and it sounds like she does, she'll take care of ya.

That's hot stuff. Enjoy!

 

[NancyPan]

Yup!

This made me consider something in my own FLR (Normal sized penis BTW) regarding the sexual realm. At some point sex went from me getting what I need and making sure I "provided" what she needed. It was about my ego. At some point in the relationship, before the FLR formally began, that changed. Was it that my love for her had grown and her satisfaction became as important as or more than my own because I just wanted that for her because she deserved it? Or was it a matter of her training me that the best things happen for me, and us when I do things her way? Probably both.

Anyway, for the OP, even with a normal-sized penis, she still took over the bedroom. She likes to be stroked after she cums and likes me to finish inside. She also gives BJ's. (sometimes my idea, sometimes she asks, or hints) And she pegs me. (Sometimes I drop a hint, but she often initiates) But she only cums after a I give her a massage, ass kissing, (literally) I lay on my back and she fucks my mouth for 45 minutes. We've tried other ways, and toys, but that's her favorite. We've talked about it some and I think it's not that the toys and other positions don't offer the sensations she requires for orgasm, it's that they don't offer her mind what she needs for orgasm. She needs to mount my head and fuck my mouth, the sloppier it gets clearly the more she gets into it. She likes it noisy. Slapping and me taking air in and out when I can. She says she can hear when I swallow. And yea, it's become heaven for me. Which only feeds her ego even more. She's literally getting off on the fact that she "turned" me or switched the sexual polarity to what she wants.

Anyway, OP, don't feel weird about being in an FLR and the wife controls the bedroom. It's not uncommon anymore. If she loves you, and it sounds like she does, she'll take care of ya.

Well, Mike, let me simply note that you and I are very fortunate, indeed, to have wives who love to have their pussies worshipped!

 

[LeaHaven]

I have no issues being humiliated for my small cock and being fat!!! Love it all

Is this combination a common thing? I wouldn't call my husband fat, but he is kinda pudgy.

 

[LeaHaven]

Is this combination a common thing? I wouldn't call my husband fat, but he is kinda pudgy.

Why are people laughing at my question?

 

[RogerThat208]

Is this combination a common thing? I wouldn't call my husband fat, but he is kinda pudgy.

Some people find it easier to embrace and fetishize their shortcomings (pun intended), rather than exert the effort and self-control required to correct them.

His self-control, or lack thereof, shouldn't be an issue in your FLR though. (If it matters, I've followed your thread and FLR journey here from the beginning.)

If you enjoy his pudginess, that's fine of course. But if you decide that you want him to be slimmer and more fit, then cheerfully put him on a diet and/or exercise regime. Either way, it's not really his choice to make. He already made his choice when he submissively begged you to take over leading your marriage.

The FLR force is strong in you young Lea. It's been fun seeing you discover and use it! <(-_-)>

Why are people laughing at my question?

Because your choice of "kinda pudgy" is appropriately condescending in describing your submissive prejac cucked hubby, and because the way you do it so naturally and innocently—like you just did again here—is adorably cute.

 

[BillyWalrus]

Why are people laughing at my question?

The way you describe him as pudgy. It's funny.

 

[whenagain]

Is this combination a common thing? I wouldn't call my husband fat, but he is kinda pudgy.

I don’t know if there’s a correlation between being bigger and being smaller, but a small penis on a slender guy is less contrasting than a small penis on a chubby/fat guy.

 

[LeaHaven]

Some people find it easier to embrace and fetishize their shortcomings (pun intended), rather than exert the effort and self-control required to correct them.

His self-control, or lack thereof, shouldn't be an issue in your FLR though. (If it matters, I've followed your thread and FLR journey here from the beginning.)

If you enjoy his pudginess, that's fine of course. But if you decide that you want him to be slimmer and more fit, then cheerfully put him on a diet and/or exercise regime. Either way, it's not really his choice to make. He already made his choice when he submissively begged you to take over leading your marriage.

The FLR force is strong in you young Lea. It's been fun seeing you discover and use it! <(-_-)>


Because your choice of "kinda pudgy" is appropriately condescending in describing your submissive prejac cucked hubby, and because the way you do it so naturally and innocently—like you just did again here—is adorably cute.

But he has tried, and I tried to help him. And the harder we tried, the worse our marriage became. And then, out of pure happenstance, I found this website, and people told me that we were both trying to be something we are not. They told me that we would be much happier if we would accept ourselves and each other for who we are. Robbie had known that for years, but I was still trying to fit the mold my parents expected me to fit. When I FINALLY gave all that up, our marriage became so much easier. It's not perfect, but there is no such thing as a perfect marriage.

When we were trying to make him "normal," it was like me saying, "I don't accept you for who you are." It was very hurtful, and there was nothing erotic about it. Now we accept it for what it is. And btw, people on here were telling me I am dominant. I didn't want to hear it, and I felt like they were not accepting me for who I was. In hindsight, I was feeling what Robbie was feeling. It was a two-way street.

Maybe some day his ability will improve, but in the meantime, I don't see any need to force the issue. We all have our talents and our weaknesses. At least for us, living within those confines makes life a whole lot better.

 

[LeaHaven]

The way you describe him as pudgy. It's funny.

Thank you. I didn't know that