What do all of you in sexless marriages do for sex? What alternatives?

You can’t masturbate because she won’t go away for the weekend?

Why can’t you simply tell her… “Honey, I’m horny so I’m heading upstairs for a bit to masturbate. I’d like a little privacy.”

What, exactly, would be the problem with doing that?

I don’t understand why so many people have trouble admitting to their partner that they occasionally engage in this very normal and very healthy activity.
In a few relationships I had that were winding down and sex had stopped or one where she had knee replacements. I would jerk off quietly and try not to get caught. Succeeded a few times. Eventually I did get caught. One just rolled over, but I got laid in the morning. The one with the knees felt sorry for me and at the same time a little put out. Once she was out of the true pain phase I would give her hand jobs. She would hold my balls and help best she could as I finished. It was actually kind of fun. Almost put some life back into "us", but not quite.
 
My wife is the same as most of you guys. She has no interest and doesn't make any qualms about it. I won't be disrespectful of her problem because it's natural for most women. I do jack off watching some types of porn, especially amateur if you can trust that. I usually fantasize about some women I know and would love to screw but won't take the chance to mess up our marriage.
 
My wife is the same as most of you guys. She has no interest and doesn't make any qualms about it. I won't be disrespectful of her problem because it's natural for most women. I do jack off watching some types of porn, especially amateur if you can trust that. I usually fantasize about some women I know and would love to screw but won't take the chance to mess up our marriage.
I just edge & stroke to stories & chat on here 😉
 
Not in a sexless marriage but it's just not as often as I would like unless we are on vacation then she is horny all the time.

So on her off days I will go on a morning walk with the dog talk to a few neighbors and then head to the gym for a exercise routine. Lunch then off to the wellness place for some Red light therapy or a Cryotherapy with hyperbaric chamber for about an hour.
Come home grab the tablet and enjoy a hit from a joint then if the story is good I will strip down outside and jerk off into my hand and lick my cum and bask in the late summer sunshine.
Totally relaxed fix her dinner and enjoy the evening watching TV. Lately were watching Landman on Paramount+ and Ali Larter is making me hard with her sensuality and wit.
 
Not in a sexless marriage but it's just not as often as I would like unless we are on vacation then she is horny all the time.

So on her off days I will go on a morning walk with the dog talk to a few neighbors and then head to the gym for a exercise routine. Lunch then off to the wellness place for some Red light therapy or a Cryotherapy with hyperbaric chamber for about an hour.
Come home grab the tablet and enjoy a hit from a joint then if the story is good I will strip down outside and jerk off into my hand and lick my cum and bask in the late summer sunshine.
Totally relaxed fix her dinner and enjoy the evening watching TV. Lately were watching Landman on Paramount+ and Ali Larter is making me hard with her sensuality and wit.
That’s a nice beat!
 
Not in a sexless marriage but it's just not as often as I would like unless we are on vacation then she is horny all the time.

So on her off days I will go on a morning walk with the dog talk to a few neighbors and then head to the gym for a exercise routine. Lunch then off to the wellness place for some Red light therapy or a Cryotherapy with hyperbaric chamber for about an hour.
Come home grab the tablet and enjoy a hit from a joint then if the story is good I will strip down outside and jerk off into my hand and lick my cum and bask in the late summer sunshine.
Totally relaxed fix her dinner and enjoy the evening watching TV. Lately were watching Landman on Paramount+ and Ali Larter is making me hard with her sensuality and wit.
I like hotel or AirBB sex too. We like in the morning when the help comes in to clean the room. At least I do. Specially if they get to see something.
It is up to me to fix dinner too.
And Landman, I wish they would do season 2. That is funny and hot. I would like to have seen more of that attorney.
Mostly I'm frustrated there is no foreplay. I can jerk off better than her lazy attempt at head. I do act like I need help getting it up. I enjoy her trying to be patient as she plays with my balls. At least I get that and laid every once in a while.
 
51 as of April. Wife and I have 2 young kids. We sleep separately as she has a health condition and requires good night sleep to be able to function 100% in a stressful high paying job (she's the major breadwinner in our family). I have a snoring issue that compounds the problem and we have our marital issues. Haven't slept in the same bed for a couple of years so that has killed off any intimacy. Now we are just friends and parents to two gorgeous children.
I am home early part of the week looking after kids drop-off/pickup/shopping/chores/laundry/house maintenance you name it. Work part time at a local restaurant front of house staff 2-3 nights on the weekends.
My libido is through the roof most days. Masturbate 2-3 times a night watching porn. Not sure when/if we will have sex. The few occasions we have, it's been very vanilla. She's not keen to try anything apart from slow, gentle, sensual love-making.
Being married and 2 young kids also means I am time-poor. While I look after myself physically and am in great shape, go to the gym, play golf etc. no woman looks at me with a ring and two kids in tow in any sexual manner. Not going to pay for sex, not going to have an affair with a neighbour or a school mom or a mutual friend of ours or any of my work colleagues.
I'm not sure where that leaves me increasing frustration with my situation. I find myself lonely and craving a woman's touch.
If my kids were older, I was better off financially and separating now didn't cripple us financially which it would do, I would walk away but I am resigned to my situation being as is for the forseeable future.
Hope others here have better options than I do.
Unfortunately, a very common situation, and I mean tens of millions of people in the US. Oh well.....
 
Had a three year fling that I loved...have strayed twice the past two years...but mostly lit, Kik, reddit for some type of human interaction.
 
I've hooked up with women I've known for years or have met new in the same situation. Met a 20 yr old kid at the gym who kept staring at my cock in the locker room. Finally worked up the courage to tell him it tastes better than it looks. Then told him I parked in the back of the gym and will be there for a while. He got to my car, I pulled it out. He was a little apprehensive at first but he's been a very reliable source of release.
 
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