LGBTQIA+ Daily Vibe II

[stickygirl]

Had a couple of long weekends with friends on the boat. Long drive home tonight and we’re both so tired. My job is to keep him awake.
Wind blasted but happy
Wearing whatever is still clean
Listening BBC 2 on the radio

 

[Zrosey]

Had a couple of long weekends with friends on the boat. Long drive home tonight and we’re both so tired. My job is to keep him awake.
Wind blasted but happy
Wearing whatever is still clean
Listening BBC 2 on the radio

It is always sweet to get home an just sleep off a fun trip!

 

[dct10538]

Work. (*sigh*)

 

[ClockworkCourtesan]

Spent the last 2 days in the hospital again. Throat abcess that is also affecting my vocal cords. I sound like I've been smoking 5 packs a day for 40 years. I still can't swallow anything solid, and 2 days earlier I couldn't breathe from the swelling. I will say, drinking lidocaine was pretty low on the list of things I hadn't considered. My throat bloody hurts and looks like it has a cantaloupe wedged in it. My arms look like pin cushions from all the IV pokes.

Mood: scared
Wearing: hospital gown
Listening too: the beeping of hospital equipment

 

[liqueur]

Spent the last 2 days in the hospital again. Throat abcess that is also affecting my vocal cords. I sound like I've been smoking 5 packs a day for 40 years. I still can't swallow anything solid, and 2 days earlier I couldn't breathe from the swelling. ...

Damn, that's awful. I hope healing comes quickly

 

[stickygirl]

Spent the last 2 days in the hospital again.
Mood: scared
Wearing: hospital gown
Listening too: the beeping of hospital equipment

Oh hell - hospital gowns and things that go beep. Take the meds, behave and this will pass. Sucks huh?

 

[Zrosey]

Leaving Portland in a day, on my way to wander in the woods for a while.
Feeling strangely disconnected, but stuff will shuffle into place once I'm surrounded by the quiet of trees an mountains.
Just want to say Love to my friends here.

Listening to: background music I don't know
Wearing: tee an pants
Mood: weird an anxious

 

[liqueur]

Feeling strangely disconnected, but stuff will shuffle into place once I'm surrounded by the quiet of trees an mountains.
Just want to say Love to my friends here.

Love returned!

There's no better place to reconnect than among trees and mountains. I've never spent much time in Oregon (3 weeks in Newport, back when it was a sleepy little fishing village) but I have hiked in the Cascades, up near Seattle, and in the Olympics. Some of the most beautiful places on earth. Tell the trees that I say hello. They will know me.

 

[stickygirl]

So this was interesting on a YT about a petition in the UK linked here "Should trns people sign government petitions?
but this guy added this cmment
'So, point of interest - I had testicular cancer a few years ago. It was very easy as far as "Cancer" goes - I had one surgery to remove the offending little bugger and have had no problems since. But while I was going through the prep phases for this surgery, I wasn't just offered a prosthetic replacement for it, it was pushed on me...pretty hard. I told the Doctor I didn't see the point of a prosthetic replacement, and he told me that a lot of men develop dysphoria and the prosthetic is a standard measure to prevent it, because it's easier to put it in when they remove the real one than do a second surgery when you come back complaining of dysphoria. Makes sense.

But I also never actually agreed to it. I was sounding out my options, and was very careful not to. And never got asked again until, minutes before my surgery, my surgeon told me that I'd agreed to a prosthetic and I corrected him. I ended up going with it, because I was repeatedly, strongly, warned that the dysphoria was common and serious.

So, first thing to note there - I got offered gender affirming care as a cis guy without even asking for it.Second thing to note - these prosthetics get stitched in, and it hurts, and after finally speaking to a specialist he was just like "Oh yeah over half the guys who get them have that complaint". Despite it never being mentioned before.

So, I'm in constant (and I do mean constant - I can feel this thing every second of every day for a few years now) pain because I got borderline pressured into gender affirming care I didn't really care about one way or the other and meanwhile trans people aren't entitled to it?Make that make sense? Anyone?

Yeah.... doctor knows best. Usual BS where the medical profession still see themselves as god-like. Yet another reason why I was glad I went to Thailand for my surgery.

 

[coati]

Leaving Portland in a day, on my way to wander in the woods for a while.
Feeling strangely disconnected, but stuff will shuffle into place once I'm surrounded by the quiet of trees an mountains.
Just want to say Love to my friends here.

Listening to: background music I don't know
Wearing: tee an pants
Mood: weird an anxious

You know, another ecosystem that heals can be found in remote (non-touristy) parts of the coast. I recently wandered around the remote beaches and tidepools of southern Oregon and northern California for a week. I really needed that.

It was smokey in parts if the Sierras in northern California, but I got above it at the highest elevations.

Hope you also benefit from your travels.

 

[stickygirl]

Ooo, here's an interesting comment from Insta
'Men treat trans women publicly the way they treat cis women privately'

Mood: physically shattered, but mentally, only tired
Listening to: pigeons, white noise
Wearing: lets see... work pants because they're clean, green T and knickers.

 

[stickygirl]

I listen to a short piece on the radio ( becoming my preferred medium these days! ). The article talked about Notman, a pioneering photographer from Canada, overlooked by history. I googled when I got home and found Transcestors - McCord Museum, that casts more light on Notman's work, documenting trans & cross-dressing people in the 1890s. Worth a ten minute read!

Mood: Content
Listening to: Jackdaws
Wearing: normal July but with a fleece - it's colder and raining.

 

[ClockworkCourtesan]

I did a thing.
https://ibb.co/bgqSxn82

Been working a ton of overtime the last few weeks. My throat is still very sore, but the show must go on. Saving monies like crazy, will be moving early next year. Leaving the States all together.

Mood: tired
Listening to: random YouTube channel
Wearing: a Sailor Moon t shirt

 

[liqueur]

moving early next year. Leaving the States all together.

Congratulations! Where are you going?

 

[stickygirl]

Congratulations! Where are you going?

Hope not the UK - we suck for trans right now

 

[ClockworkCourtesan]

Congratulations! Where are you going?

Lisbon, Portugal.

 

[ClockworkCourtesan]

Hope not the UK - we suck for trans right now

I thought about it, I do have friends there, plus a bit of property and a house in the north. I have 1 surgery here at the end of September. I am looking for another bottom surgeon, I am planning on having it done in Korea. I have a few friends there I haven't seen in a while. I figure a month in Korea would do me good.

 

[coati]

Hope not the UK - we suck for trans right now

In Tucson, we defy the current right-wing wave of oppression. It feels so good to go downtown or another gathering place on a Friday or Saturday night and experience all the diversity of expression. I felt the same thing in Portland, Oregon recently.

Diversity. Inclusion. Screw the right-wing control freaks.

Wearing: nothing (just got out of the shower, and it's 100 degrees F outside)
Mood: hopeful
Listening to: the sound of my refrigerator running on solar power.

 

[stickygirl]

I thought about it, I do have friends there, plus a bit of property and a house in the north. I have 1 surgery here at the end of September. I am looking for another bottom surgeon, I am planning on having it done in Korea. I have a few friends there I haven't seen in a while. I figure a month in Korea would do me good.

I thought vaguely about moving to Canada a couple of years back. Maybe I could still but I'd need to take an axe to my sticky roots.
tbh the anti-trans thing here is all hot air atm. Like everywhere else it's being used as a distraction. Hateful though... Canada *sigh*

 

[DaisyDonado]

I thought vaguely about moving to Canada a couple of years back. Maybe I could still but I'd need to take an axe to my sticky roots.
tbh the anti-trans thing here is all hot air atm. Like everywhere else it's being used as a distraction. Hateful though... Canada *sigh*

You seem to know more about trans people than anyone with whom I am familiar. Are there more people transitioning, or is it that trans people have become a useful target of the right?

 

[AlexBailey]

I’m heading to a festival today with my wife, one of my sons, and one of his best friends.

My son is recently engaged to a cis woman but the friend he’s traveling with was once his girlfriend back in high school - before his friend transitioned to male.

Gender expectations are such a non-issue among my kids and their peers. They got along so well as couple. They broke up before the friend transitioned and reconnected after - The friend is also friends with my son’s fiancée who is not along for this trip. No bitterness, no trust issues, no jealousy or mind games…

God I love my open minded kids.

 

[stickygirl]

You seem to know more about trans people than anyone with whom I am familiar. Are there more people transitioning, or is it that trans people have become a useful target of the right?

More transitioning than when? Since the 1990s, yes; since 2000s maybe; 2010s I doubt it - about the same.

TLDR
Yes, the whole transgender topic is a massive political distraction. Scientific research is being edited to fit the current hateful mood. It's not just the right, it's the establishment because nothing wins more votes than screaming that you're doing it to 'protect children'.

However, when women are put on the spot, they acknowledge that it's cishet ( regular ) men who are the biggest threat by a country mile.

If you look hard you might find a handful of instances where someone, who claims to be transgender is accused of sexual assault, but if you look for actual convictions, it is a vanishingly small number.

Compare that to the number of sexual assaults and rape by men... but somehow that's okay with everyone . After all, woman go out dressed like whores asking to be raped; apart from the ones who tell a guy to go away in a bar - they're frigid bitches and lesbos.

Going back to transitioning: how is it defined? Is it a kid who tries his sister's panties and nail varnish for a few weeks because he's watched something on tv or read it in a paper? Or is it someone who makes a declaration as a young adult to their disbelieving family and then ends up homeless? Is it someone who takes hormones but keeps their dick? Or do you need the full surgery to claim you've transitioned? NB surgery can be mastectomies for trans men and various surgeries for trans women.

The safeguards have always been in place to protect people who might be acting on a whim. Surgeons insist on psychological assessments and lengthy periods, where the patient dresses and lives in their adopted gender. They won't operate on kids and seldom prescribed hormones for youngsters under 16 or 18 ( depending on which country ).

Thanks for asking. Hope this helps

 

[liqueur]

TLDR

This! All of it.

 

[AlexBailey]

Yesterday’s concert in San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park was sweet! There were so many queer folks just being themselves out among the crowd.

Now we’re following my son and his friend as we head up to Portland Oregon to visit my other adult kids.

SF and Portland are among the most progressive cities in the world. It’s sometimes hard to remember that the rest of the world isn’t as safe or accepting of non cis/het culture. I wish all trans and queer folks could have such supportive communities.