Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[Dd4bblgs]

I like "dawn of night" though

 

[dawn_of_night]

I like "dawn of night" though

You do?
How come?

 

[Dd4bblgs]

Love night time
The quiet
People tend to fear the dark
I enjoy it

 

[dawn_of_night]

Love night time
The quiet
People tend to fear the dark
I enjoy it

Interesting.... I'll tell you why I chose it.... In private though...
But I can resonate with your response

 

[Littlewolf8258]

Another question that I hope no one will mind.

If your partner isn’t your DD/lg, how do those relationships work side by side?

I’ve been with my BF for a little over 2 years. In the beginning he tried to fulfill the DD role for me, but it wasn’t for him and we agreed that it couldn’t be a part of our relationship. We very much love each other and he understands that being little isn’t something I can turn on and off. Out of respect for him and our relationship I haven’t tried to find a Daddy until now, but with his encouragement I’m dipping my toes in the water so to speak. I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has experience with having a relationship outside of DD/lg and adding that component with a separate person. Would love to hear any feedback.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I have not tried that @Littlewolf8258, simply because I am a one man woman. My loyalty would feel broken, I would feel like my SO doesn't have all of me. And, quite frankly, I'd be mad and hurt that he'd share me!

However, that's just me. If it's something you both agree on, there's nothing inherently wrong with it. A DD/lg relationship doesn't have to be sexual. I think you're doing a good thing by gathering info and insight, then I'd talk about boundaries you and your SO would have. Talk, talk, talk. Would he meet your DD? Does he have approval of him? Which relationship comes first? I'm just thinking outloud.

 

[13Fantasies]

I have not tried that @Littlewolf8258, simply because I am a one man woman. My loyalty would feel broken, I would feel like my SO doesn't have all of me. And, quite frankly, I'd be mad and hurt that he'd share me!

However, that's just me. If it's something you both agree on, there's nothing inherently wrong with it. A DD/lg relationship doesn't have to be sexual. I think you're doing a good thing by gathering info and insight, then I'd talk about boundaries you and your SO would have. Talk, talk, talk. Would he meet your DD? Does he have approval of him? Which relationship comes first? I'm just thinking outloud.

I agree with @barefootgirl69 . I think defining the boundaries and comfort level first is key too. Through those discussions you might both find that the concept doesn't work in practice. Or you might find ways to work the dynamic in your own relationship too.

I agree that not all people can handle a split dynamic. However, if you can, it can be very exciting for everyone. Good luck, @Littlewolf8258 !

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Good morning! Thank you everyone for the advice. I really appreciate it and I’ll definitely be looking back through the previous threads as suggested.

If you are on IG, follow the_kinkconsultant. She did a Reel on the situation you asked about just last week. Another good source on IG is _infinitedevotion.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I need more pillows to be comfy while I read.

 

[Nightbird]

I need more pillows to be comfy while I read.

You just need your Daddy to lie on..

 

[barefootgirl69]

You just need your Daddy to lie on..

My sweetheart is asleep on the otherside of the pond.

 

[Nightbird]

My sweetheart is asleep on the otherside of the pond.

Ohh time zones can be such a pain sometimes..

 

[Nightbird]

I would love to be a Daddy to some special someday..

 

[Strixaluco]

Another question that I hope no one will mind.

If your partner isn’t your DD/lg, how do those relationships work side by side?

I’ve been with my BF for a little over 2 years. In the beginning he tried to fulfill the DD role for me, but it wasn’t for him and we agreed that it couldn’t be a part of our relationship. We very much love each other and he understands that being little isn’t something I can turn on and off. Out of respect for him and our relationship I haven’t tried to find a Daddy until now, but with his encouragement I’m dipping my toes in the water so to speak. I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has experience with having a relationship outside of DD/lg and adding that component with a separate person. Would love to hear any feedback.

I think you might find some useful information and hints from the polyamoric people. Even more so, polyamoric + BDSM, where different relationships may have totally different dynamics and there are many ways the polycule may me arranged.

I am like BFG in this matter, so I have no experience myself.

 

[Strixaluco]

Question for the group:

I’m really new to this whole little thing and I’m not really sure where I fit yet. Any advise on the best way to figure out what I want/need from a Daddy without having had one? I’ve got a bad habit of diving into something head first and then suddenly realizing I’m not feeling safe. Sorry if this isn’t the best place to ask this but it seems like there are a lot of decent people in this thread.

There are several layers in this .
1. Is the Dassy candidate safe in general?
2. Are you two compatible regarding want, llimits and needs?
3. Are you two a good fit otherwise?

1. Keep your eyes and ears open. Does he take responsibility over his actions and possible mishaps?
Does he respect your limits etc? Asking more to get better understanding about what you are saying about your limits and wants is good. Trying to downplay them is not. Does he seem to understand you?
Does he rush you into things? A newbie Daddy might not realise the importance of vetting, but do they agree to it willingly when you say you must take your time? Mine was no newbie and was slower than me in the beginning. He made it easy to trust.

2. Start with yourself, even before meeting anyone. You probably know way more than you think already, even before having tried anything. Maybe list that? What you absolutely need, what you like, don't like, absolutely want to avoid. Not just kinky things - my first must-have is plenty of cuddling! AlsoI have needs regarding amount of contact, and I need my Daddy to be my romantic partner, too.
And then things you think you want to try, and things you're not that interested in but ready to try.
My hard no list kept getting longer by every time I was in contact with someone. One probably was going after a little who's like a baby, and has even bodily functions watched over... Hadn't even thought of it, but it was clearly a hard no for me.

Also describing what you know about yourself as a little could be useful. Do you a@eplay, and what a@e? Is you being a little separated from your sexual side or not?

Dominating people have their limits and needs, too, and not just desires. Mine has glitter as one hard limit (I'm not into it either), but he's happy to have finally found someone who wants to sit in his lap. (I thought it just happened, but he recently confessed he had been looking for such a sub that would want it!) We also both agree on the separation of sexuality and me being a little. No dark DLG play in our relationship, but I know some people enjoy it very much.

3. This is a personality, communication and lifestyle, even life situation question, basically the same as in any relationship.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I love to hear that voice that only comes out for me. The one that’s deep and raspy and speaks of need. That draws from the well of desire deep inside, and when you’re touching me, it is freed. The voice that, when it hits my eardrum, shoots right through me, like a pinball machine, and flows out between my thighs like honey. That voice that tells me I am about to be ravaged in the best way, that tells me I’m your good girl, and that I’ll listen to everything that you say….

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

 

[Nightbird]

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This is so true...

 

[barefootgirl69]

Leaving some cupcakes and a fruit platter for all of us here tonight. There's coffee, tea, and milk, too.

 

[Nightbird]

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Leaving some cupcakes and a fruit platter for all of us here tonight. There's coffee, tea, and milk, too.

Oh that looks delicious thank you..

 

[dawn_of_night]

Happy Monday friends

 

[Littlewolf8258]

Genuinely just want to say that reading back through this thread and seeing the way so many of you look out for each other is so awesome! This gives me the warm fuzzies

 

[dawn_of_night]

Genuinely just want to say that reading back through this thread and seeing the way so many of you look out for each other is so awesome! This gives me the warm fuzzies

This is so true! And I don't always hang out here, it the community is definitely strong....
I felt that this weekend ...
@barefootgirl69 @Shymidwestgirl

 

[kyblue12]

Heck…. Even some learning about the Daddy role can’t help but notice the warmth and connection of this community. It feels safe (as intended) know I have people I can ask and get a good answer when I have questions.

 

[barefootgirl69]

This is what I love about this thread. The community. The encouragement. Sharing ideas. All of it!