Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

Withdrawal of attention contact is very harsh and can induce psychological damage. This is a ounishment for very serious infractions. Early bedtime, restriction of social media, lines, cornertime are far better.
Well, my also doesn't do rulesoor punishments he can't see to personally, so it has to be then and there. And as cornertime would punish him too on our limited time together... (An ordinary week has about 10h together, and not all of it is private.) So it means other ways need to be found.
 
I know what you mean. We also have bery little time with my sub. But we still implent rules and punishments like that
My bedtime is when he leaves anyway, he doesn't want to leave earlier. No social media anyway when we're together (why would I use precious time for that?) And yeah, even before we met he had realised that he'd hate to have his sub in the corner.

But it's true that we've had minor disagreements about the "only rules he can follow through himself". I'd benefit from having a general bedtime rule, at least. (Chatting every evening around bedtime would help, too, but for him, one short message is more feasible.)
 
Some.structure should be there for the dynamic. But of course realistic within reason amd doable. Do you have any punishments?/Any rewards?
The rules I have are only relevant when he's around - things like no fingerings my hair, no tampering with locks and cuffs, etc. And then of course generally obeying.

If I fail to obey... Well, it depends on the situation. Letting the locks ans cuffs be is easy peasy, but not crossing my legs of fingering my hair is not. Sometimes it just takes more concentration that I have, and while he always corrects it, he doesn't necessarily give a punishment, except his disappointment (and my own) of course, if I have been trying my best. And being a naturally good girl, trying is a given, I am not bratty at all. If there's a punishment, it varies what it is, but spanking is out of the question - it would be too much for my nerves.

A good girl of course gets a lot of pleasure and even pampering. We don't really have things that would make specific ewards relevant though.
 
Seems to be a very intimate dynamic. For us it is a little more strict. Bedtime, water and calorie intake, slave positions, the way she adresses me. Inspections are regular, so are maintenence spankings.
Yes, our dynamic is intimate and loving.

I do have 5 formal positions, but he likes to keep the list short, and then ad-hoc positions are described as we go. But no inspections. And we need cuddling for maintenance, not spanking. I'm basically intolerant for pain, so it serves no purpose whatsoever.

I'd call red if I would have to follow calorie intake. Even water intake would be something I'd be really reluctant to accept, and I'm not sure I'd even be able to keep reliable bookkeeping for something I ingest many times a day. We see no need and no fun in that.

We also do no formal speach, that is foreign to us. I'm a little sub, not a high-protocol slave. If at some point I'd be called a slave, that's then a barefooted slave-girl... with probably a bit whimsy.
 
Some subs need more carw and praise than others. And punishments shouldnt be necessarily painful
Knowing he's disappointed is indeed often punishment enough, when having a strong emotional connection. He's after all not my authority just because we agreed so, but because I genuinely feel so.

And then again, punishments are not necessary on a regular basis. It's more about the possibility usually, and he's right to impose those on me. Though I do my best even without, because that's who I am. And getting punished when trying my best and still failing would in most cases feel unfair.
 
Structure
Punishment
Hard limits (withdrawal of their presence as a Punishment is a hard limit for me)


We each have to decide what we need and want, keeping in mind that both parties have limits and both get to agree and should consent prior to starting this journey.

I like structure and it sometimes makes me feel untethered when patterns change, but I also like adventure and new things. It's a fine line I walk. 😂
 
I like structure and it sometimes makes me feel untethered when patterns change, but I also like adventure and new things. It's a fine line I walk. 😂
Eh, same here. Having our weekly routine change can sometimes really throw me out of whack. (expected the last week of this month.)

And it's balancing even during a date. We tend to have pretty standard "procedure" but I like to take chances as they come...
 
We've come to the conclusion that "punishment" is something that should rarely, if ever, be required. If you recall my "Valentine's Fiasco," where I wanted to be spanked and he agreed to try it, my therapist helped me discover that I had a lingering feeling of responsibility for my prior attack. Because of that, my desire for spanking was my mind trying to atone for whatever role I played in that event. Wolfie and I have spent a lot of time talking about different scenarios where I might deserve punishment. Every scenario I came up with ended up being something I would never do. I'm basically a good girl with no desire to misbehave. I need him too much. Plus, we have an actual written agreement that we review every few months. So . . . if I need to be reminded, we've agreed that an essay about why our agreement is important and why I violated it (along with him expressing his disappointment) should suffice. I agree about "that look".
 
Quite a few around when I was younger
Even had one that had a heater with the speakers so you could go during the winter.
 
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