Cock Talk

[UnquietDreams]

That’s like anal to me.

So no one will shake hands with you?

 

[EvaLane]

I was just about to extend mine

So no one will shake hands with you?

So glad this just turns me on and doesn’t offend me, whew

 

[crazychemgirl]

Well, I haven’t had a first time in a long time. I’d say appropriately nervous but not overly so.


Sometimes. Nowadays it’s more of a coincidental thing.
But back when I was single, it was more common that I’d be drinking and/or smoking pot beforehand.


Yes. I went through a period of time where it happened sometimes. I rarely handled it well and neither did the partners. Probably shouldn’t have been having sex with people who didn’t know why/didn’t give a fuck about me at a time when I was very emotionally fragile but, yanno… hindsight.

Hasn’t happened in a long time!


The best way for me to be fully at ease is to be asleep and woken up for sex . My mind is the most empty and pliable that way.


I think I’ve had a decent balance.


Don’t fake orgasms. It’s okay if you don’t cum and it’s okay if they know that.

Omg the last one … so much this!!!

So often I’ve just faked it in the past because I didn’t know how to explain how I needed to be touched to orgasm … and it lead to me leading very unsatisfactory sexual encounters with lots of men.

 

[lavendersilk]

How nervous are you the first time you have sex with someone?

If we have talked a lot prior, not at all. If it is a 1NS, it has been a bit awkward.

How do you manage that nervous feeling?

Just start fooling around, biology takes care of the rest.

Alcohol often plays heavily into sex (no really), do you dabble in any chemical arts to relax when getting it on, or do you emotionally raw dog it?

I have gotten drunk to lighten the mood before. I don't recommend it. I would rather feel all the feels. As a woman, it is important to be aware of what is happening around you so you can react safely. Especially with someone new.

Have you ever had an anxiety attack during physical intimacy? How did you handle it?

Not during. Before? Yes. After? Absolutely.

Do you have a tried-and-true technique of putting yourself, or your partner, at ease before sex?

Talking. It is a must. A requirement now.

In the past, did you build sex up to be more than it is, causing more nervousness than was necessary, or were you a casual sex person without enough worry?

Absolutely. Thanks religion!

What advice would you go back and give your virgin self if you could?

Don't rush it. You don't have to have sex to feel complete.

 

[Apisto42]

That Whoreable Feeling

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Love it. Been there.

There is a thrill that comes with sex, but that can also lead to terror, anxiety, performance issues, etc.

How nervous are you the first time you have sex with someone?

Dude. That was a long long time ago. Like, I think there was a brontosaurus bellowing out the window.
If I recall correctly, I was much more nervous about the first kiss than the first fuck.

How do you manage that nervous feeling?

Remind myself that we’re only on this playground once, so take a breath and live.

Alcohol often plays heavily into sex (no really), do you dabble in any chemical arts to relax when getting it on, or do you emotionally raw dog it?

Most of my one night stands featured alcohol or drugs. I prefer sober sex with a partner.

Have you ever had an anxiety attack during physical intimacy? How did you handle it?

Lol. No. I love sex and I generally love my self, so as long as I’m getting good feedback and we’re clicking, I’m good.

Do you have a tried-and-true technique of putting yourself, or your partner, at ease before sex?

Ether.
Kidding. I’m kidding.

Communication. Lots of communication. But there’s also been those times when the chemistry is just right and you really don’t need to talk much.

Of course then you find out the next day that she has split personalities and might have axed somebody once.

In the past, did you build sex up to be more than it is, causing more nervousness than was necessary, or were you a casual sex person without enough worry?

Not really. I was pretty pragmatic even as a teenager.

What advice would you go back and give your virgin self if you could?

Not her. Hold out for better for your first time dude. There will be plenty of pussy in your life.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Of course then you find out the next day that she has split personalities and might have axed somebody once

 

[Lord Pmann]

Am I the only one who doesn't understand his reaction? Yes, I love orgasms, but isn't the whole thing enjoyable? I once spent an entire weekend with someone and didn't have an orgasm, but my then partner and I had a great time regardless. If I knew what had caused it, I'd happily do it again!

Yes. You are the only one.

I took Zoloft for a very short while about 8 years back. It was the absolute worst. Fucking forever and not having an orgasm is not okay with me.

I can’t describe the feeling. I mean, having sex is pretty much always good. But just going forever… it was just frustrating. The medicine just numbs everything. It made me non-competitive, which was a bizarre thing. I’m super competitive and to have that gone, it was terrible. And not that I’m competitive with sex, but it’s that same drive and edge that just got numbed. If sex normally feels like a 10/10 (which it does with me), that medicine dialed it back to a 6.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Dude I get a lot of pleasure banging on a mix of ambien, weed and booze.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Omg the last one … so much this!!!

So often I’ve just faked it in the past because I didn’t know how to explain how I needed to be touched to orgasm … and it lead to me leading very unsatisfactory sexual encounters with lots of men.

Fake orgasms are the worst invention ever.

 

[Endless_Night]

Fake orgasms are the worst invention ever.

How many have you faked?

 

[hotwords229_A]

How many have you faked?

All of them.
I carry a handful of mayonnaise in my back pocket at all times.

 

[Endless_Night]

All of them.
I carry a handful of mayonnaise in my back pocket at all times.

I don't even know how to respond to this, except -

 

[hotwords229_A]

I don't even know how to respond to this, except -

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It looks more like this ^^^

 

[Endless_Night]

https://64.media.tumblr.com/72707c29fd39388804c6b3336e41bf5f/b8c57bbc36831e07-27/s500x750/bf7c8d9a4757b1bbe8ba5adeb03b1c842a299f6d.gif
It looks more like this ^^^

Look at that smile. She must be crazy forgiving. I would be a danger to the person who splattted mayonnaise all over me.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Look at that smile. She must be crazy forgiving. I would be a danger to the person who splattted mayonnaise all over me.

Plus it’s in her hair, which, from my understanding, women always love when you get it in their hair.

 

[Endless_Night]

Plus it’s in her hair, which, from my understanding, women always love when you get it in their hair.

That alone would send me to a kitchen looking for a knife.

 

[hotwords229_A]

That alone would send me to a kitchen looking for a knife.

To spread the mayonnaise.
That’s hot.

 

[Endless_Night]

To spread the mayonnaise.
That’s hot.

Not. Even. Close.

 

[mikeyvis00]

I got lost scrolling down quickly. I read mayonnaise somewhere. Are we changing the thread to "Burger Talk"?

 

[crazychemgirl]

All of them.
I carry a handful of mayonnaise in my back pocket at all times.

Not ranch?

 

[awired50]

Spicy Ranch?

 

[hotwords229_A]

I got lost scrolling down quickly. I read mayonnaise somewhere. Are we changing the thread to "Burger Talk"?

Meat is meat.

Not ranch?

I never bought into the ranch thing. It’s too white. If you “ranch” that white, you need to see a doctor.

 

[awired50]

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[Mo_Bandy]

Meat is meat.

I never bought into the ranch thing. It’s too white. If you “ranch” that white, you need to see a doctor.

People who like ranch never had really good Remoulade.

 

[AlpineFresco]

How nervous are you the first time you have sex with someone?

Haven't had a first in a long time now, but weirdly I don't recall ever being that nervous. Always a little bit, but never to any huge degree.

How do you manage that nervous feeling?

See above!

Alcohol often plays heavily into sex (no really), do you dabble in any chemical arts to relax when getting it on, or do you emotionally raw dog it?

I don't drink much and I don't use any drugs, including alcohol, to help relax into intimacy.

Have you ever had an anxiety attack during physical intimacy? How did you handle it?

Never happened!

Do you have a tried-and-true technique of putting yourself, or your partner, at ease before sex?

It's never been necessary. If my partner needs to be put at ease before sex we might have some conversations coming up about potentially deeper issues.

In the past, did you build sex up to be more than it is, causing more nervousness than was necessary, or were you a casual sex person without enough worry?

Kind of neither? I was a late bloomer so in my mind I built it up as this amazing incredible thing, but that surprisingly didn't cause any issues.

What advice would you go back and give your virgin self if you could?

I don't know, honestly. I probably wouldn't say anything. Younger Alpine needed to know that someone wanted him, needed that validation, and even though he turned out to just be her rebound, I think he needed that moment of feeling desired. As for the mechanics of it? Honestly, I think he just needed to figure it out for himself.