What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[barefootgirl69]

Good luck with that.

 

[spank_me_please]

Yeah, I don’t know. I’ve never really felt ‘worthy’ enough to think my photos would be saved or used for anything nefarious. But I’ve talked to enough men to know it’s incredibly common.

I also think there’s something about a photo feeling exclusive or time-limited that makes people more inclined to screenshot it, like the scarcity adds value.

Still, with the sheer mass of porn out there, both professional and amateur, I don’t get it. Why save newgirltolit69’s photo? What makes that more special than a thousand clips of Riley Reid?

It is interesting, because really, why?

Couldn't tell ya since I've never had the inclination to save them. I feel like part of Lit's culture of poofing pics is part of the fun. Each beautiful picture I come across is a moment in time, I get to savor and enjoy it then move on.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Good luck with that.

It’s nice that you can always find the energy to be passive aggressive. Bless your heart.

 

[Fiestykitten]

It’s nice that you can always find the energy to be passive aggressive. Bless your heart.

When did you become a Southern Bell? I thought you were a baboon?

 

[beachbaby179]

Yours is one of the best ones and one that I always notice

Thank you dah-ling. You're too kind.

 

[MrMakersMark]

Yes, it's the internet and there are too few rules or safeguards regarding this sort of thing.

It's also a Community.
Same faces, same people. Mostly everyday. Laughing and talking, sharing memes, common interests and sometimes pictures.
It's a closer connected group of people in many ways than can just be brushed away by saying, "It's the internet...so fair game."

Trust is an easy thing to mangle.

Perhaps what, in most clear opinion, needn't have been previously said now has.
And we see it now as a breach of trust.
Because that is what it is.

If anyone is still wondering, it's wrong to download pictures of the people here who move past their own vulnerability to share here with us.

 

[NakedStoryLover]

From the meme thread

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For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

 

[AtramentousRex]

Yeah, I don’t know. I’ve never really felt ‘worthy’ enough to think my photos would be saved or used for anything nefarious. But I’ve talked to enough men to know it’s incredibly common.

I also think there’s something about a photo feeling exclusive or time-limited that makes people more inclined to screenshot it, like the scarcity adds value.

Still, with the sheer mass of porn out there, both professional and amateur, I don’t get it. Why save newgirltolit69’s photo? What makes that more special than a thousand clips of Riley Reid?

It is interesting, because really, why?

Ive never saved photos or wanted to. In fact a time or two I've been given pics with the expectation that I would save them and did not.

I've also frequently had my real face as my AV here. I don't care. I can't explain what someone could think gives them the right. But as for the difference between you and Riley Reid?

Someday, if you were so inclined, we might actually meet. And maybe become something real to each other, like friends.

That is far sexier than some perfect model who would never notice my existence.

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

From the meme thread

For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

If my husband ever shaved his beard now... I would have serious questions and I would NOT be happy.

It was more of just a goatee when we met and only completely shaved once since we've been together... it's been a full beard for 17 years and I can't imagine it any other way

 

[Photog1rl]

Yes, it's the internet and there are too few rules or safeguards regarding this sort of thing.

It's also a Community.
Same faces, same people. Mostly everyday. Laughing and talking, sharing memes, common interests and sometimes pictures.
It's a closer connected group of people in many ways than can just be brushed away by saying, " It's the internet...so fair game."

Trust is an easy thing to mangle.

Perhaps what, in most clear opinion, needn't have been previously said now has.
And we see it now as a breach of trust.
Because that is what it is.

If anyone is still wondering, it's wrong to download pictures of the people who move past their own vulnerability to share here with us.

I think the problem is that it is a community in many aspects but not all people are equally connected or invested.

For many people that frequent the site, they do not engage, they are not connected. They consume the media they find here. Those people do not necessarily see posters as that different from porn. It is here for their consumption.

I post knowing that someone may download thr images I share. Do I want this? No. Can I be shocked or outraged that someone took the media I provided and consumed it? Also no.

It should be noted that I am just reacting to your post. I don't know any context for your post but I do think that if you post online you have to know you have no longer have control over what you share.

 

[LostHorizon]

I think this is such a wild take.

Considering you aren’t a psychic, you should probably ask permission to save someone’s nude photos before assuming it’s okay.

It’s not that wild It’s the take of a narcissist who views women and men as nothing but objects to serve him.

The use of the term “fair game” to justify what he is doing is creepy and predatory considering the origin of that term and what it truly means.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

I think the problem is that it is a community in many aspects but not all people are equally connected or invested.

For many people that frequent the site, they do not engage, they are not connected. They consume the media they find here. Those people do not necessarily see posters as that different from porn. It is here for their consumption.

I post knowing that someone may download thr images I share. Do I want this? No. Can I be shocked or outraged that someone took the media I provided and consumed it? Also no.

It should be noted that I am just reacting to your post. I don't know any context for your post but I do think that if you post online you have to know you have no longer have control over what you share.

I don’t think that I agree with this. Am I shocked? No. But I’m still upset. I can’t absolutley control any crime or invasion perpetrated against me, no matter how much preparation or care I take. Simply existing carries some inherent risk of that happening. But I can still be angry that it does and hold the people who do it to task rather than blaming myself for not being more cautious. The “forget it Jake, it the internet” attitude just absolves people of the responsibility for their own shitty behavior.

 

[barefootgirl69]

That's not the meaning of a narcissist.

 

[MandaPandaa]

From the meme thread

For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

I feel like if they weren't bearded when we met then I couldn't care less about it. However, do I *want* my children to have a weak jawline? No.

 

[MrMakersMark]

I post knowing that someone may download the images I share. Do I want this? No.

This is the common sentiment from my perspective, and the same for most I've seen.
And really is all that should ever be required.

I am not an arbiter of anything other than my own opinion, of which I rarely share.

But here we are.

 

[Photog1rl]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos. I guess I'm not surprised anymore. About 2 1/2 years ago I learned there was a litster that archived all the images posted on Lit and had folders on Litsters. I was super creeped out and surprised that the attitude about him doing it was so nonchalant. Snce then, I am actively aware that what I post is probably saved by someone. Not because what I post is special but simply because someone can save it.

 

[Photog1rl]

I don’t think that I agree with this. Am I shocked? No. But I’m still upset. I can’t absolutley control any crime or invasion perpetrated against me, no matter how much preparation or care I take. Simply existing carries some inherent risk of that happening. But I can still be angry that it does and hold the people who do it to task rather than blaming myself for not being more cautious. The “forget it Jake, it the internet” attitude just absolves people of the responsibility for their own shitty behavior.

There is no expectation of privacy here. If someone chooses to post publically they have chosen to share with everyone here. I think it is then hypocritical to be upset when you chose to share publically?
Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online? And what are we concerned folks are doing with the photos? Masturbstubg? Well be honest, folks that are doing that to photos online are doing it while they are posted as well.
I'm not saying blame the poster but I don't think anyone can post here and expect strangers online to obey some unwritten code of social responsibility.

 

[NakedStoryLover]

(I'm bummed I inadvertently dropped my beard thought comment in the midst of an important discussion.

Please ignore it and I'll bump it later)

 

[Neanderthal247]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos. I guess I'm not surprised anymore. About 2 1/2 years ago I learned there was a litster that archived all the images posted on Lit and had folders on Litsters. I was super creeped out and surprised that the attitude about him doing it was so nonchalant. Snce then, I am actively aware that what I post is probably saved by someone. Not because what I post is special but simply because someone can save it.

I've been around for a long time and it doesn't surprise me at all, there were others who did this

 

[barefootgirl69]

(I'm bummed I inadvertently dropped my beard thought comment in the midst of an important discussion.

Please ignore it and I'll bump it later)

No, please.

Tell us more about your beard.

 

[MandaPandaa]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos. I guess I'm not surprised anymore. About 2 1/2 years ago I learned there was a litster that archived all the images posted on Lit and had folders on Litsters. I was super creeped out and surprised that the attitude about him doing it was so nonchalant. Snce then, I am actively aware that what I post is probably saved by someone. Not because what I post is special but simply because someone can save it.

It's not that I didn't know it was happening. It was the blase entitled attitude with which it was expressed. I should not be surprised. There are certainly some disgusting cretins on this site. However, in this case I was a bit.

I'm sure people have saved my pics and it does give me pause - I'm not stupid enough to think I could control that but I tend to land on being hopeful that people are better than I think.

I will be taking a break from posting pics of myself for a while, I think, just because while I knew it happened, I was under the assumption that people at least knew it wasn't something you *should* be doing. Idk. For a while, posting pics was all I could handle on here because of stress and personal issues. But, at least I felt like I could take part in that way. That is no longer the case.

 

[LostHorizon]

Obviously.

It's just interesting to see someone so blase about admitting to it.

Not just blase, but a sense of entitlement about it. Going so far as equating nude pictures as prey to be hunted

 

[morelikeasong]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos.

I don’t think this is what most people are really surprised about.

My surprise comes from people thinking it’s perfectly okay to do so. And, frankly, from your backing that up.

Something doesn’t have to go against policy or be impossible to do for it to be wrong to do. And I think shitty behavior deserves to be called out.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

There is no expectation of privacy here. If someone chooses to post publically they have chosen to share with everyone here. I think it is then hypocritical to be upset when you chose to share publically?
Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online? And what are we concerned folks are doing with the photos? Masturbstubg? Well be honest, folks that are doing that to photos online are doing it while they are posted as well.
I'm not saying blame the poster but I don't think anyone can post here and expect strangers online to obey some unwritten code of social responsibility.

Yes we can. That’s how societies exist. I shouldn’t assume everyone knows them or that no one will consciously violate those norms but I sure as shit can make it clear when it comes up that they exist and be upset at people if they do.

 

[morelikeasong]

Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online?

Yeah that’s really what I’m saying.


There’s no way to enforce that and I think people are aware but I think that’s a pretty good baseline understanding.