What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[MandaPandaa]

From the meme thread

For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

I feel like if they weren't bearded when we met then I couldn't care less about it. However, do I *want* my children to have a weak jawline? No.

 

[MrMakersMark]

I post knowing that someone may download the images I share. Do I want this? No.

This is the common sentiment from my perspective, and the same for most I've seen.
And really is all that should ever be required.

I am not an arbiter of anything other than my own opinion, of which I rarely share.

But here we are.

 

[Photog1rl]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos. I guess I'm not surprised anymore. About 2 1/2 years ago I learned there was a litster that archived all the images posted on Lit and had folders on Litsters. I was super creeped out and surprised that the attitude about him doing it was so nonchalant. Snce then, I am actively aware that what I post is probably saved by someone. Not because what I post is special but simply because someone can save it.

 

[Photog1rl]

I don’t think that I agree with this. Am I shocked? No. But I’m still upset. I can’t absolutley control any crime or invasion perpetrated against me, no matter how much preparation or care I take. Simply existing carries some inherent risk of that happening. But I can still be angry that it does and hold the people who do it to task rather than blaming myself for not being more cautious. The “forget it Jake, it the internet” attitude just absolves people of the responsibility for their own shitty behavior.

There is no expectation of privacy here. If someone chooses to post publically they have chosen to share with everyone here. I think it is then hypocritical to be upset when you chose to share publically?
Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online? And what are we concerned folks are doing with the photos? Masturbstubg? Well be honest, folks that are doing that to photos online are doing it while they are posted as well.
I'm not saying blame the poster but I don't think anyone can post here and expect strangers online to obey some unwritten code of social responsibility.

 

[NakedStoryLover]

(I'm bummed I inadvertently dropped my beard thought comment in the midst of an important discussion.

Please ignore it and I'll bump it later)

 

[Neanderthal247]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos. I guess I'm not surprised anymore. About 2 1/2 years ago I learned there was a litster that archived all the images posted on Lit and had folders on Litsters. I was super creeped out and surprised that the attitude about him doing it was so nonchalant. Snce then, I am actively aware that what I post is probably saved by someone. Not because what I post is special but simply because someone can save it.

I've been around for a long time and it doesn't surprise me at all, there were others who did this

 

[barefootgirl69]

(I'm bummed I inadvertently dropped my beard thought comment in the midst of an important discussion.

Please ignore it and I'll bump it later)

No, please.

Tell us more about your beard.

 

[MandaPandaa]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos. I guess I'm not surprised anymore. About 2 1/2 years ago I learned there was a litster that archived all the images posted on Lit and had folders on Litsters. I was super creeped out and surprised that the attitude about him doing it was so nonchalant. Snce then, I am actively aware that what I post is probably saved by someone. Not because what I post is special but simply because someone can save it.

It's not that I didn't know it was happening. It was the blase entitled attitude with which it was expressed. I should not be surprised. There are certainly some disgusting cretins on this site. However, in this case I was a bit.

I'm sure people have saved my pics and it does give me pause - I'm not stupid enough to think I could control that but I tend to land on being hopeful that people are better than I think.

I will be taking a break from posting pics of myself for a while, I think, just because while I knew it happened, I was under the assumption that people at least knew it wasn't something you *should* be doing. Idk. For a while, posting pics was all I could handle on here because of stress and personal issues. But, at least I felt like I could take part in that way. That is no longer the case.

 

[LostHorizon]

Obviously.

It's just interesting to see someone so blase about admitting to it.

Not just blase, but a sense of entitlement about it. Going so far as equating nude pictures as prey to be hunted

 

[morelikeasong]

Ok, so I read back a bit and it seems that some folks truly are surprised that people here save photos.

I don’t think this is what most people are really surprised about.

My surprise comes from people thinking it’s perfectly okay to do so. And, frankly, from your backing that up.

Something doesn’t have to go against policy or be impossible to do for it to be wrong to do. And I think shitty behavior deserves to be called out.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

There is no expectation of privacy here. If someone chooses to post publically they have chosen to share with everyone here. I think it is then hypocritical to be upset when you chose to share publically?
Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online? And what are we concerned folks are doing with the photos? Masturbstubg? Well be honest, folks that are doing that to photos online are doing it while they are posted as well.
I'm not saying blame the poster but I don't think anyone can post here and expect strangers online to obey some unwritten code of social responsibility.

Yes we can. That’s how societies exist. I shouldn’t assume everyone knows them or that no one will consciously violate those norms but I sure as shit can make it clear when it comes up that they exist and be upset at people if they do.

 

[morelikeasong]

Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online?

Yeah that’s really what I’m saying.


There’s no way to enforce that and I think people are aware but I think that’s a pretty good baseline understanding.

 

[Biggalute]

There is no expectation of privacy here. If someone chooses to post publically they have chosen to share with everyone here. I think it is then hypocritical to be upset when you chose to share publically?
Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online? And what are we concerned folks are doing with the photos? Masturbstubg? Well be honest, folks that are doing that to photos online are doing it while they are posted as well.
I'm not saying blame the poster but I don't think anyone can post here and expect strangers online to obey some unwritten code of social responsibility.

I have to agree with PG. It's not nice, and maybe a little creepy, to think that some folks might download your photos, but if it can be done, then someone will be doing it.
I know this when I post pics.

 

[Neanderthal247]

I don’t think this is what most people are really surprised about.

My surprise comes from people thinking it’s perfectly okay to do so. And, frankly, from your backing that up.

Something doesn’t have to go against policy or be impossible to do for it to be wrong to do. And I think shitty behavior deserves to be called out.

That's why you should send all your pictures to my inbox, I will guard them with my life and keep them safe. Only harm would be to the sticky buttons on my phone.

 

[MandaPandaa]

There is no expectation of privacy here. If someone chooses to post publically they have chosen to share with everyone here. I think it is then hypocritical to be upset when you chose to share publically?
Are we really saying it is ok to enjoy the photo only when it is up online? And what are we concerned folks are doing with the photos? Masturbstubg? Well be honest, folks that are doing that to photos online are doing it while they are posted as well.
I'm not saying blame the poster but I don't think anyone can post here and expect strangers online to obey some unwritten code of social responsibility.

Honestly, it's not the masturbating over my pics that concerns me. It's taking them and then uploading them to other sites as if they're your own. I know that's happened to some people and it's totally fucked.

I do think we can hope people would obey a code of social conduct... What do you think society is based off of? We all agree to conform to codes of conduct.

 

[QwertyMaster]

Oh the agony and the ecstasy of the internet.

 

[JustAnotherFlower]

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Would I ever download someone else's images without their permission? Technically, I do when sharing poems or memes..but a photo of a person's body or face? Hell no. That's akin to snapping a pic in public without the person knowing. How would you like for someone to do that to you?

Has a litster downloaded my photos without my permission before? Yes, one told me about it. He was proud of how organized the folder was and did not see a problem with it. It lead to a dialog on my discomfort, the removal of my ability to say "no," and that a public presence does not grant permission. He supposedly deleted everything, but who knows?

Just..don't download personal photos without express permission...it's creepy as fuck and I will judge you for it.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Jesus fuck. I cant believe this is even a conversation. And this is why I don’t trust most cyber life people.

 

[LostHorizon]

From the meme thread

For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

I’ve been begging my wife to shave off her beard for over a decade. It’s been an option forever. She loves me to bits, but she just won’t do it.

 

[EvaLane]

From the meme thread

For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

No it’s not an option, he knows better. It’d be like me coming home bald

 

[JustAnotherFlower]

I’ve been begging my wife to shave off her beard for over a decade. It’s been an option forever. She loves me to bits, but she just won’t do it.

....
I shave mine every few days... hubby hasn't seen my bushy beard..ever. He might swoon over it's golden hue.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

Well fuck, that didn’t work, so what do I do now?!

Thankfully with help from a friend I have it figured out. So a huge thank you to that friend.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Jesus fuck. I cant believe this is even a conversation. And this is why I don’t trust most cyber life people.

You don't trust men with beards?

 

[barefootgirl69]

It's taking them and then uploading them to other sites as if they're your own. I know that's happened to some people and it's totally fucked.

This is why so many put their UN on their photos.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

You don't trust men with beards?

Well I am a man with a beard but might shave now so thats the thing about that.