Sexless marriage

[being_sassy]

that's one way to put it.
it's just baffling that it's such a common issue for people.

yes।।
It's.That's why these sites are created and many of such person are here...

 

[El_Dempo]

yes।।
It's.That's why these sites are created and many of such person are here...

it sucks.. but it's somewhat reassuring knowing there are others dealing with it.
as bad as that sounds

 

[Deadfreak]

Misery loves company

 

[being_sassy]

it sucks.. but it's somewhat reassuring knowing there are others dealing with it.
as bad as that sounds

it might make you all feel I'm not the one who is facing this...
and it might help to face it and adjust to it...

 

[razor33a]

Same story here, 56mwm, married 25 years, sex drop off 20 years ago. I'm still looking online and all that but things got a little better. I finally told her we either talk to someone and change things or there will be changes (and that's pretty wide open). Now we try 1/week but ed is here so I've had to make adjustments. So basically forced her to talk about this the the end result happens. Regular counseling and us talking sex has worked a little. Not sure how long it will last but trying.

 

[El_Dempo]

it might make you all feel I'm not the one who is facing this...
and it might help to face it and adjust to it...

facing it is fine, as frustrating as it is.. after the years it just becomes the norm and you expect that to be the case, rather than hoping for a miracle.. hence turning to alternatives

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

Counselling sounds great and is the way forward if there are genuine medical concerns that may not be realised.

I’m guessing in cases where people no longer have the enthusiasm or passion for sex then it’s very difficult to convince a partner that they are interested. The task simply becomes perfunctory.

 

[Nicenashguy615]

Regarding the guy who’s been married only a couple years and in his thirties: That’s far too early to be having therapy and talking about each other failing to meet needs. If he was twenty years in, sure but not three.

I knew a chick at work that insisted new guys she dated attend therapy with her. FUCK THAT! If a girl I had been dating for a month told me that, I’d thank her for giving me the red flag early on so I could run away! It’s the ones who hide shit from you for years until you’re trapped in marriage that I have an issue with. Not surprisingly, that girl from work had three failed marriages. The common denominator being her, though she would reject that notion.

But to this gentleman I say, what’s really going to change? More importantly, how long will that change last? Get ready to spend the next fifty years without sex begging your wife to change.

 

[WandererLost]

Regarding the guy who’s been married only a couple years and in his thirties: That’s far too early to be having therapy and talking about each other failing to meet needs. If he was twenty years in, sure but not three.

I knew a chick at work that insisted new guys she dated attend therapy with her. FUCK THAT! If a girl I had been dating for a month told me that, I’d thank her for giving me the red flag early on so I could run away! It’s the ones who hide shit from you for years until you’re trapped in marriage that I have an issue with. Not surprisingly, that girl from work had three failed marriages. The common denominator being her, though she would reject that notion.

But to this gentleman I say, what’s really going to change? More importantly, how long will that change last? Get ready to spend the next fifty years without sex begging your wife to change.

Interesting take, the wife is the one who needs to change. The couples back story was pretty thin on information for all we know HE is the one who needs to change, it's dickish to decide it's all the woman's fault.

 

[Nicenashguy615]

Interesting take, the wife is the one who needs to change. The couples back story was pretty thin on information for all we know HE is the one who needs to change, it's dickish to decide it's all the woman's fault.

It’s not about fault on either side. It’s about the relationship being broken. If you are three years into a marriage and it’s now sexless, that shit is broken!

Who cares whose fault it is? And talk fixes nothing permanently. It prolongs the inevitable.

But let’s say it’s the guys fault 100%. He’s still dissatisfied so get out. Don’t keep wasting years of your life trying to fix broken. That’s what most people do.

 

[WandererLost]

It’s not about fault on either side. It’s about the relationship being broken. If you are three years into a marriage and it’s now sexless, that shit is broken!

Who cares whose fault it is? And talk fixes nothing permanently. It prolongs the inevitable.

But let’s say it’s the guys fault 100%. He’s still dissatisfied so get out. Don’t keep wasting years of your life trying to fix broken. That’s what most people do.

Three years into marriage, just turn around and say "fuck it, let's not talk or try and fix/save what we have" jesus christ!!!

These are adults, who married for love and for life and because it becomes tough they should just walk away? Broken can be fixed, not always but wouldn't you want to give it a shot? Or do you run away from every problem

 

[Nicenashguy615]

Three years into marriage, just turn around and say "fuck it, let's not talk or try and fix/save what we have" jesus christ!!!

These are adults, who married for love and for life and because it becomes tough they should just walk away? Broken can be fixed, not always but wouldn't you want to give it a shot? Or do you run away from every problem

You’re still in the warranty period, exchange it for a new one. A marriage is only a piece of paper in the beginning. Years into it, it’s a contract that holds a knife at your throat.

And love? Fuuuck! Love is an almost inevitable biological response when two compatible people fuck long enough. I’ve fallen in love with every woman I’ve had an affair with. And they me as well. That’s when we know it’s time to shake hands and part ways.

You’re watching way too much Hallmark Channel!

 

[WandererLost]

You’re still in the warranty period, exchange it for a new one. A marriage is only a piece of paper in the beginning. Years into it, it’s a contract that holds a knife at your throat.

And love? Fuuuck! Love is an almost inevitable biological response when two compatible people fuck long enough. I’ve fallen in love with every woman I’ve had an affair with. And they me as well. That’s when we know it’s time to shake hands and part ways.

You’re watching way too much Hallmark Channel!

Fuck It let's go for it.

You have fear of commitment and that's okay, maybe you need to hear it or need to confess it as you did above. But don't tar everyone with the same brush, you have sex it gets serious and you run. Love hurts, love bites and it takes courage to live with it.

That's it, nothing more. Respond if you like but I have said my and with that I bid you adeui and live a good life brother.

 

[adudeinga]

Unluckily, I have been in a sexless marriage for about 10 years. In that time, my wife has allowed me to have sex with her 4 times. I came to accept this about 3 years ago as my life. But, I do yearn. 20 years ago I wrote a few stories for this webiste (name of 'keithnkimmi'). Now I'm back because I've got to have some sort of outlet for my sexual needs.

Oh well, I shall enjoy reading stories and satisfying myself as best I can.

 

[drobert44]

Its very frustrating but I find my outlet playing with other men and must admit I enjoy it. A lot of men I play with are in sexless marriages also

It's either gay sex or no sex.

 

[tnh_06]

Sexless sucks, but she’s my bestie, she’s still sexy, she has health issues and I am in great shape and still want it often. Not going to happen. Had a great fwb for a while and phone sex regularly. That’s all in the past and I still want sex, but I’m not about to quit the marriage over it.

 

[drobert44]

Sexless sucks, but she’s my bestie, she’s still sexy, she has health issues and I am in great shape and still want it often. Not going to happen. Had a great fwb for a while and phone sex regularly. That’s all in the past and I still want sex, but I’m not about to quit the marriage over it.

Right, I play here a lot. Marriage is serious, and not just sex.

 

[slavejason]

Hello all,

Thank you for your kind replies, we have had conversations in the past and agreed to try harder, we’ve suggested ideas to spice things up but unfortunately nothing has ever come to fruition, I feel that she just isn’t interested in sex. I don’t know what her aversion is but she complains even if there’s a sex scene on tv. If she’s on the phone to a friend she’ll laugh and joke about me wanting sex, as if it’s something I should be embarrassed about.

I don’t know what else I can say or do.

 

[LexiVegas]

Hello all,

Thank you for your kind replies, we have had conversations in the past and agreed to try harder, we’ve suggested ideas to spice things up but unfortunately nothing has ever come to fruition, I feel that she just isn’t interested in sex. I don’t know what her aversion is but she complains even if there’s a sex scene on tv. If she’s on the phone to a friend she’ll laugh and joke about me wanting sex, as if it’s something I should be embarrassed about.

I don’t know what else I can say or do.

Not that you asked for my response. But it sounds like she just isn't comfortable with herself. I'm sure others have mentioned it, but compliment her - a lot. Make her feel more comfortable

 

[slavejason]

Not that you asked for my response. But it sounds like she just isn't comfortable with herself. I'm sure others have mentioned it, but compliment her - a lot. Make her feel more comfortable

Hi Lexi,

Thank you for your reply,

Yes I regularly compliment her, and she knows she is loved and adored, but it does upset me the lack of sex, especially when she’ll regularly demand foot or back rubs. But never show any sign of even reciprocating a back rub.

 

[LexiVegas]

Hi Lexi,

Thank you for your reply,

Yes I regularly compliment her, and she knows she is loved and adored, but it does upset me the lack of sex, especially when she’ll regularly demand foot or back rubs. But never show any sign of even reciprocating a back rub.

Ok I'm going to ask and you can ignore me but is she seeing someone else?

 

[slavejason]

Ok I'm going to ask and you can ignore me but is she seeing someone else?

No, I’m sure of it.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

No, I’m sure of it.

Shouldn’t be difficult to find out. So much smart tech available that you should be able to confirm without involving anyone else then take stock of the situation before proceeding.

Good luck.

 

[Hungryloven69atG]

I feel for people..men and women in sexless marriages..must be frustrating x

It’s not only the sex, it’s the passion and desire! The kissing that gets so hot and heavy that nothing else matters! Time seems to stop! Hearts racing the animal like urges take over… When your apart you can’t wait till your together again…
After 20+yrs of marriage things definitely seem to change in certain areas.

 

[LR42]

It’s not only the sex, it’s the passion and desire! The kissing that gets so hot and heavy that nothing else matters! Time seems to stop! Hearts racing the animal like urges take over… When your apart you can’t wait till your together again…
After 20+yrs of marriage things definitely seem to change in certain areas.

This is so true.

I love giving pleasure, I have a lot of love and affection to give. I wish I had someone who wanted it.

I also crave being desired, for someone to see me and WANT me there and then, for the sight of me to give them little flutters.

The lustful wanting.

I've had it in the past, but many years ago, but it was electric, making me feel alive.

I don't think I'll ever feel it again, which means I was 27 when it last happened, and I'm 42 now. It is hard to get my head round.