cosmic_peach
Really Experienced
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Well, at the risk of appearing naïve, I have to ask; isn’t this normal or the de facto standard in a sexual relationship? I don’t have a vast catalog of sexual partners. My exact number is private but for purposes of this thread it is between 10 and 20. A large enough number for a reasonable statistical sample. Every woman I have been involved with sexually has always had, as the thread calls it, an “inner slut” aspect. I can’t imagine a sexual relationship that isn’t like this. Make no mistake; I love it, it inspires me, it fuels me and it makes me feel alive but it is simply a normal sexual relationship is it not? I am older now, approaching 50 (seemingly too fast) and as such am more creative with situations that feed, inspire or expose “inner sluts” than I was say as a young man but never did I not have as a partner who didn’t want to behave slutty once we were alone as this thread alludes to. Sure not every time I have had sex has it been a slut-fest, sometimes you just make love but certainly the vast majority of my couplings are and especially at this stage of my life / relationships.
I do not have a dual standard, never have even as a young man, that notion is utterly repugnant to me and this sentiment likely comes out early in dating / relationships. I do not “guffaw” in the corner with brutes from my office or leer as hot “business slutty” dressed co-workers walk by. Maybe this puts women at ease with me; knowing I respect them, do not treat them as objects, am genuinely interested in their personality and intellect etc. so they are less inhibited in the bedroom or other places we have hot nasty “inner slut” sex.
My current GF is nothing but an “inner slut” she is actually going to kill me I think (sexually) and I am having difficulty keeping up to her (physically for sure and creatively) it is blissful and magical. I am seeing her later this week and I can’t wait. We didn’t even go through a warm-up / ease into it period, our first night (which turned into an entire weekend) had it all, pretty much every “inner slut” aspect you can imagine between a couple. Frankly I was concerned at one point about our friendship non-sex side because it got so nasty (I am, of course, referring to “hot” nasty) but that survived easily intact, as it rightly should, in a proper caring, trusting relationship.
This thread caused me to review some history to make sure I was remembering this correctly and yes I have always been involved with a so-called “inner slut”. Of mild interest to me in thinking about this, the only relationship I have ever had that grew stale in the bedroom, was the weakest “inner slut” woman. Yes she was still an “inner slut” but not as wild / experimental as everyone else. We both lost interest at some point and then one day we lost interest in each other in general, sad but these things happen. I blame myself a fair bit in that one. But yes I do wonder now if there was a connection, at least for me, in that I absolutely must have a spectacular “inner slut” or my interest wanes?
I do not have a dual standard, never have even as a young man, that notion is utterly repugnant to me and this sentiment likely comes out early in dating / relationships. I do not “guffaw” in the corner with brutes from my office or leer as hot “business slutty” dressed co-workers walk by. Maybe this puts women at ease with me; knowing I respect them, do not treat them as objects, am genuinely interested in their personality and intellect etc. so they are less inhibited in the bedroom or other places we have hot nasty “inner slut” sex.
My current GF is nothing but an “inner slut” she is actually going to kill me I think (sexually) and I am having difficulty keeping up to her (physically for sure and creatively) it is blissful and magical. I am seeing her later this week and I can’t wait. We didn’t even go through a warm-up / ease into it period, our first night (which turned into an entire weekend) had it all, pretty much every “inner slut” aspect you can imagine between a couple. Frankly I was concerned at one point about our friendship non-sex side because it got so nasty (I am, of course, referring to “hot” nasty) but that survived easily intact, as it rightly should, in a proper caring, trusting relationship.
This thread caused me to review some history to make sure I was remembering this correctly and yes I have always been involved with a so-called “inner slut”. Of mild interest to me in thinking about this, the only relationship I have ever had that grew stale in the bedroom, was the weakest “inner slut” woman. Yes she was still an “inner slut” but not as wild / experimental as everyone else. We both lost interest at some point and then one day we lost interest in each other in general, sad but these things happen. I blame myself a fair bit in that one. But yes I do wonder now if there was a connection, at least for me, in that I absolutely must have a spectacular “inner slut” or my interest wanes?