KimGordon67
Rampant feminist
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So I've posted in various places (including a couple of specific threads I've started) about a few experiences I've had in the last year or so with extra marital sex, and (probably less), the actual sex. The purposes of the threads have sort of been served, but they did provoke some interesting conversations, and it struck me that I might have a go at putting it all together, for anyone who's interested in these sorts of things ... not the specifics, necessarily, but the broader canvas of human sexuality. This'll probably take something of the form of a story of how I ended up where I am now, and where that goes, but hopefully also provoke discussion around some of these things.
A bit of background. I'm 50. Very 'liberal' upraising around sex and most other things too. Very sexually active when young, although it was all pretty vanilla ... just LOTS of vanilla. I met my husband 17 years ago (when I'd pretty much given up on relationships) - he comes from a very conservative background, but we totally clicked. Lots and lots and lots of sex in the first few years, which tailed off after seven years or so, mostly because of me ... I still can't really put my finger on it, but I just sort of lost interest. There was no obvious reason - I wasn't menopausal, I hadn't had any surgery or illnesses, I still found my husband hugely attractive, but the prospect of sex just made me go 'meh'. When we DID have sex, I always enjoyed it, a lot, but somehow I still couldn't raise enough interest to do it again. Every other aspect of our marriage was brilliant, we still really loved each other and were physically affectionate, but just no sex and I definitely knew this wasn't good ...
TBC
A bit of background. I'm 50. Very 'liberal' upraising around sex and most other things too. Very sexually active when young, although it was all pretty vanilla ... just LOTS of vanilla. I met my husband 17 years ago (when I'd pretty much given up on relationships) - he comes from a very conservative background, but we totally clicked. Lots and lots and lots of sex in the first few years, which tailed off after seven years or so, mostly because of me ... I still can't really put my finger on it, but I just sort of lost interest. There was no obvious reason - I wasn't menopausal, I hadn't had any surgery or illnesses, I still found my husband hugely attractive, but the prospect of sex just made me go 'meh'. When we DID have sex, I always enjoyed it, a lot, but somehow I still couldn't raise enough interest to do it again. Every other aspect of our marriage was brilliant, we still really loved each other and were physically affectionate, but just no sex and I definitely knew this wasn't good ...
TBC