Tweedledude
Senior 65+
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ExactlySometimes humor is the only thing that helps
Yes, indeedYes that part is particularly hard to deal with. That particularly is painful.
Are you married, and talking about sex with just the one person? What's the story with fidelity for you? If the one person isn't going to do it, then you aren't going to get it if that's your only option.A huge part of me wonders why others (both male and female) seem to get to have sex so easily, whereas it doesn't happen the same for me.
Not sure what you mean, here. Hang in there for what?Hang in there peeps…
I am married, but the people I spoke of seem to get sex effortlessly, 4-5 times a week for instance...Are you married, and talking about sex with just the one person? What's the story with fidelity for you? If the one person isn't going to do it, then you aren't going to get it if that's your only option.
And our 60s, and 70s .....From what I can tell after being here awhile and chatting to others, we make up the majority in here!! It always amazes me how so many of us in our 40’s & 50’s eventually find ourselves in this situation
You’re in the right place!
Almost exactly my story.My wife and I get along great in every aspect except the most important one to me!!! Sex, I don’t think she has ever even thought about having sex. She says I am her only man but I really feel like something happened to her before we met that made her non sexual! I have lots of trust issues with finding a FWB - I have had one female friend in my life since I have been married that I would trust with my life but she was no go on the sex part
Sad but true. We feel hollow that something is missing, and cannot find an adequate replacement/ substitute.Almost exactly my story.
It's a sad tale. A very common situation...
Motorcycles, gym, work distractions hobbies etc....
Still isn't enough to remove the disappointment ie the morning of something that was never to be. Gadfry I'm on a downer
You are so right, I can just never understand how my wife can never even think about sex, or at least if she does she never lets me know! I really think she is a lesbian and just will not let herself go to accept that factYes exactly. It's interesting to watch the spouse charge ahead in life never considering that someone may be feeling isolated in their very relationship. It's a human mystery
It's been a while, but I recently had a mental and physical epiphany with the help of a woman on Lit. Out of respect, I will write it and make sure she is ok with the content before posting, so it may take a day or three.Mlle Sophie,
My brain can easily do it, but my body won't separate intimacy from sex(Schwing!). If there is a way to stop that, do tell, because i agree, it puts pressure on an interaction when it is not needed.
It is not cheating. I used to think that way, because I tied sex to love...bonded forever. If you believe that, then your wife or s/o has violated it. For whatever reason, she walked out on sex. Leaving us totally abandoned to fend for ourselves. And there is my sticking point....ok, we know that the underlying cause is either a medical event/condition or a lack of hormones. A failure that is not a conscious act by the spouse....so "not guilty" we say. I now disagree. Societal norms have conditioned all of us to suck it up and never "cheat"....effectively sealing all other options shut.So I'm looking for friends with benefits out there. I absolutely don't consider it cheating because - she's not even in the game, so how can it be cheating???
You need to put together an exit strategy. Now. Not for your marriage. Not for your Wife. But for You. Y.O.U.It's happening over and over again. Anyone got a way of dealing with this?
I wake up to a list a regular litteny of items that she wants done. I've gotten used to that part but when the list wants me to go and get ie chauffer her about why is it that when i am ready to go she hasn't started to prep to leave yet. What the hell am i suppose to do with that? At wits end.
Thanks. I have a plan that covers from a daily routine to a long term plan. My daily gives me calm and joy in progress. Ie i train in a training gym and involve myself in activities to find calm. Retirement has been a bit of a stretch I've had to adapt there for sure.You need to put together an exit strategy. Now. Not for your marriage. Not for your Wife. But for You. Y.O.U.
Your present situation is causing stress and obviously it's not going away.
If your health either physical or mental suffers because of stress it may very well put you in a state of strife neither you or your wife maybe capable of solving or finding a way back from.
You do not have to act on your strategy. Just put it together using the pro's and con's you come up with to give you a visible pathway or maybe, hopefully even an overall solution to some if not all of the problem. Find some answers that allow YOU some go forward. Good Luck.