Letting friends get involved

[One_ping_only]

That is pretty much my exact situation..it’s fun when I catch them looking and they have a scared look in their eyes…like “uhh ohh” but I just smile and nod like go ahead buddy…look allll you want

My buddies usually gawk or glance when they don't think they'll be caught but I've seen them threw out kitchen window which faces the backyard so I see them haaaaa!?!?

I don't mind and I " get it " why they're looking. I even enjoy it even more when my wife shows off more than she usually does. One time at a neighbor's BBQ she was playing with a 2 year old in the backyard and she was not at all careful despite her in a sexy sundress. The fellas all had their eyes glued on her as she played with the adorable girl and I swear they and I saw a lot of my wife's cute but sexy panties. My wife was clueless that she was giving us all a nice show!!

 

[dkak001]

My buddies usually gawk or glance when they don't think they'll be caught

We have some friends, and she's just WOW. She knows tits are my thing, and she's stacked with very heavy set of pendulous tits. Early on I even jokingly apologized to her that they are my thing, so if she catches me looking I don't mean anything disrespectful, lol. She followed suit by plopping them on the table, quite often afterwords when we're all together.

So yeah, I gawk. I'd never touch without permission, all women deserve that respect. But there's no harm in looking.

 

[NightL]

the idea of sharing my wife

I always find that such an odd and somewhat deluded phrase implying ownership or control. In my observation by the time a marriage opens up it is not the husband in control at all. For those who act like they do usually end up single, the final verdict proving that point.

In my relationships that extended to threesomes and moresomes it was always with friends except a couple of club encounters. Some were one off occasions and others repeat, though never with expectations. I never believed it impacted on the friendships going forward at all. The occasions were always spontaneous, just the nature of flirty personalities and having friends who were similar.

On the flip side I was always turned off being pursued by swingers. Being treated like prey is something I find creepy. I prefer the emotional connection of friends. I want to know and like someone before I have sex with them became more important beyond my 20s, with the reward greatly higher for all.

 

[Asian_Young_Couple]

Ash and I got involved wayback when there was a bunch of us living together in a house. One roommate would be involved with someone but then also slept with another roommate etc. It sometimes became an awkward situation ending up some move out etc. Nowadays I am more of the side of a friend since Ash engaged.

 

[Naughtylo]

We do. A lot

 

[JR284]

I always find that such an odd and somewhat deluded phrase implying ownership or control. In my observation by the time a marriage opens up it is not the husband in control at all. For those who act like they do usually end up single, the final verdict proving that point.

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I completely agree with you. For the longest time, I would avoid using that phrase for exactly the reason that you mentioned. The fact of the matter is, it has never been a situation in which I am handing my wife over to somebody and I am the one dictating who she is going to spend time with. Quite the opposite. She's always been the one who seeks out her dates. She's the one who communicates with them. She's the one who spends time with them. I am just a happy bystander. I was always adamant that the phrase, sharing my wife, just didn't make sense and like you said, pointed me feeling like I owned her in some way.

But my perspective changed once I had someone explain it to me in a different way. The phrase is not intended in a manner that exerts control. It's more referring to agreeably sharing the intimacy that ordinarily is only kept within the confines of the couple. When I looked at it from that perspective, I could see how the phrase could make sense. That being said, I'll admit that over the years I've fallen victim to simply getting used to that being the way that a lot of husbands express themselves when it comes to their partners being intimate with other men. After seeing the phrase so much, it does slip from time to time but in my case, it's not at all intended to make it seem like I'm controlling everything because in reality, I'm controlling nothing.

 

[SexyKChotwife]

When my wife and I first got into the lifestyle, we both agreed that we would keep friends out of it. At some point though, the idea of sharing my wife with someone close to me became extremely enticing. I began talking to my wife about the fantasy, and after a series of events, she made it into a reality. They only had a handful of encounters and it hasn't happened in a couple of years, but just knowing that my friend has enjoyed my wife continues to be a huge turn on. Luckily, friendships remained intact and there's no awkwardness or anything like that. We have no plans to expand to other friends either.

I'm just curious, for those of you in non-monogamous relationships, what's your stands on including friends. Do you find it as exciting and alluring as I did or is that something completely off the table for you? Any of you out there with bad experiences as a result of getting friends involved?

honestly, I thought the ONLY way I'd have sex with a man other than my husband was if he was a complete and total stranger and I'd never have to see him again -- but when we pulled the trigger it ended up being with a mutual friend, but not someone we regularly hung out with. I figured it would be one and done but honestly I couldn't get enough of the guy at first. I was loving the sex and it was more comfortable because I was fucking someone we both knew and was no threat to my marriage.

 

[vibes]

and was no threat to my marriage

and he wasn't?

 

[SexyKChotwife]

and he wasn't?

no. he wasn't then and isn't now. we fucked on and off for about five years. it's been a while but it was fun when it was ongoing.

 

[Dreamer110]

no. he wasn't then and isn't now. we fucked on and off for about five years. it's been a while but it was fun when it was ongoing.

I'm curious how your husband reacted to you having a lover?

 

[SexyKChotwife]

I'm curious how your husband reacted to you having a lover?

he didn't mind. we are always each other's priorities. he has had his own fuck buddies as well. he always loved to hear about what his friend did to me.

 

[Dreamer110]

As did I. Only difference was I didn't have one and didn't want one.

 

[SexyKChotwife]

My buddies usually gawk or glance when they don't think they'll be caught but I've seen them threw out kitchen window which faces the backyard so I see them haaaaa!?!?

I don't mind and I " get it " why they're looking. I even enjoy it even more when my wife shows off more than she usually does. One time at a neighbor's BBQ she was playing with a 2 year old in the backyard and she was not at all careful despite her in a sexy sundress. The fellas all had their eyes glued on her as she played with the adorable girl and I swear they and I saw a lot of my wife's cute but sexy panties. My wife was clueless that she was giving us all a nice show!!

I definitely notice my husband's friends checking me out more since we started our adventures. I tend to wear more that shows off my cleavage and my ass and legs when they are around.

 

[Naughtylo]

I love it