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Christopher2012
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First of all, no I have not gotten anybody pregnant. So calm down. I'm posting this because I'd like to keep it that way.
I have met a woman online. We met through an online video game and hit it off amazingly. She's really awesome. We share common interests, easily hold conversations, and are overall a pretty good match. She's 32-years-old with no children and one 9-year marriage in her distant past. When it comes to overall personality, she's very down-to-earth and understanding. She's patient, kind, and selfless. There's not a whole lot of bad I could say about her when it comes to her character. She just seems to be a really good person.
So we've been dating for 2 months. One of the foundations of the relationship was that I did not want kids. She knew that and agreed that she signed up for that. So all is good.... well..... kinda.... You see, this is where it gets tricky. She is from Canada and is flying in to town this coming May for my birthday. This is the part that freaks me out. Why? Well.... it's really fast...
Here is the position from my perspective. I have a girl on my hands who wants to have sex and lots of it. She does not want to use a condom and has no other form of birth control. Any preventative measure taken during her trip here is MY sole decision. Otherwise, pregnancy will be left up to chance. And another red flag is that she is very casual about this idea. She actually has even tried to convince me that using a condom completely sucks and will ruin the intimacy of us being together. She has given pretty much every con there is to using a condom.
Now from her side, it's an entirely different story. The problems are in fact, my fears and anxiety. She claims that it's me who puts her in a position as if there are other options when they're aren't. And when we talk, she basically just says "What do you want me to say? There's nothing we can do." And she goes on and on about how I over analyze every little thing.
I do not want to get baby trapped. And typically, I'm really good at avoiding this altogether by simply being emotionally detached from the situation and leaving. But the problem is.... I really have fallen in love with her. It really sucks. If this trip wasn't looming over our heads, our relationship would be amazing and perfect. But it's not...
Advice? Please?
And yes, I have been alcohol-free for a long ass time.
I have met a woman online. We met through an online video game and hit it off amazingly. She's really awesome. We share common interests, easily hold conversations, and are overall a pretty good match. She's 32-years-old with no children and one 9-year marriage in her distant past. When it comes to overall personality, she's very down-to-earth and understanding. She's patient, kind, and selfless. There's not a whole lot of bad I could say about her when it comes to her character. She just seems to be a really good person.
So we've been dating for 2 months. One of the foundations of the relationship was that I did not want kids. She knew that and agreed that she signed up for that. So all is good.... well..... kinda.... You see, this is where it gets tricky. She is from Canada and is flying in to town this coming May for my birthday. This is the part that freaks me out. Why? Well.... it's really fast...
Here is the position from my perspective. I have a girl on my hands who wants to have sex and lots of it. She does not want to use a condom and has no other form of birth control. Any preventative measure taken during her trip here is MY sole decision. Otherwise, pregnancy will be left up to chance. And another red flag is that she is very casual about this idea. She actually has even tried to convince me that using a condom completely sucks and will ruin the intimacy of us being together. She has given pretty much every con there is to using a condom.
Now from her side, it's an entirely different story. The problems are in fact, my fears and anxiety. She claims that it's me who puts her in a position as if there are other options when they're aren't. And when we talk, she basically just says "What do you want me to say? There's nothing we can do." And she goes on and on about how I over analyze every little thing.
I do not want to get baby trapped. And typically, I'm really good at avoiding this altogether by simply being emotionally detached from the situation and leaving. But the problem is.... I really have fallen in love with her. It really sucks. If this trip wasn't looming over our heads, our relationship would be amazing and perfect. But it's not...
Advice? Please?
And yes, I have been alcohol-free for a long ass time.