Humiliation, degradation and all that hurts

[Subsy]

Getting the most, giving the least….for a long time I needed validation….I was needy and so eager to engage…eager to please. But now I see that men (for my example) also have needs they are desperate to fulfill. They want what they may never get….whacking off instead.
But I have come to enjoy their desperation…the fantasies that gnaw at them 24/7. Among the first thing I establish is : my rules are the rules.
Obedience is essential before any reward is gained. But before obedience there must be a goal to achieve. Example? Pics are helpful. I required a closet cd to send pics of her wearing a certain outfit…in public …an outfit she didn’t yet have of course. Pics of the store, her in the mirror…Reward was a phone conversation while she jerked off. Of course she was grateful but of course she also wanted more. She wanted to be an ass slave/slut. She earned the porn scene she craved….verbal abuse, physical restraints, blindfold….bringing in a surprise guest…..piss, licking bodies, then ass….tongue fucking, spit, ass whipping.
She was grateful. How fun!

 

[FrankLee99]

https://www.xvideos.com/video717615...ail_stuck_and_humiliated_kik_her_anagamer299/

I love this kink, it feels the most elusive, it's so personal a way a person likes to be degraded or humiliated
I know all peoples desires are personal, but humiliation and degradation seems even more subjectively refined

I've attached this video because it's exactly what the girl wants
And look how hopeless she is

 

[FrankLee99]

https://www.xvideos.com/video717615...ail_stuck_and_humiliated_kik_her_anagamer299/

I love this kink, it feels the most elusive, it's so personal a way a person likes to be degraded

or humiliated
I know all peoples desires are personal, but humiliation and degradation seems even more subjectively refined

I've attached this video because it's exactly what the girl wants
And look how hopeless she is

https://www.xvideos.com/video717706...ail_stuck_and_humiliated_kik_her_anagamer299/

Here's the link

 

[Dearelliot]

I had a Dominant woman visit mew last week for an hour session, and she makes me do the things I want to do anyway. Things that may sound humiliating for a macho man but Yes I want to perform oral on her of course, and rim her to. I love that, but instead, she makes me do that under threat of punishment. And I do enjoy she actually uses whips and needles for punishing me, and makes me do it.
She tells me while I'm performing oral how just before she came here she had unprotected sex and her vagina is quite soiled. She demands I clean her with my tongue. Of course she hasn't had sex and it's all make-believe.
I would prefer that in fact that she did have sex before ...but that is difficult to arrange.
Seems to me like a very silly thing for an adult male like myself to play at, but I do enjoy this.

 

[hbcacouple]

I want to hurt tonight.

 

[Wonderer67]

I want to hurt tonight.

I understand that. There are times when I just need it super badly. Not All the time, but when I need it, I sometimes need it.

 

[MissMandy86]

Guy really don't understand humiliation
They think it's about calling a woman a cunt
But it's deep in the mind

 

[Hipshot1554]

Guy really don't understand humiliation
They think it's about calling a woman a cunt
But it's deep in the mind

I suppose you're right, but there must be degrees. That's the problem.

 

[Gallant Man]

Guy really don't understand humiliation
They think it's about calling a woman a cunt
But it's deep in the mind

Is it more about getting something that you had years ago and being used, little Paradise?
And perhaps having others know a bit more about your past?

 

[MissMandy86]

Is it more about getting something that you had years ago and being used, little Paradise?
And perhaps having others know a bit more about your past?

Yes a bit

 

[Gallant Man]

What turned you on the most knowing that every guy wanted to use you, or knowing
that the men were chosen to use you by your controlling guy?

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Howdy! It's me, again. with a thought provoking thread. I don't know if it has been explored here, but perhaps it would be a nice addition.

What makes this such a yummy thing for you?
Humiliation &
Degradation

I'm still exploring this and im conflicted about it.

Degradation and humiliation have become important to me almost by accident, I guess. Most of it's happened in my head.

I dont think its part of a BDSM thing for me; I'm ok with B, D is ok, not interested in SM.

I feel like I'm in Limbo. I've had one man who kind of felt like he was really good at the humiliation thing but he was also a bit too interested in the hitting thing.

I've had one guy who I think degraded me more than I could have imagined possible but it was a by-product of him getting what he wanted. Like, he didn't degrade me. I degraded myself. I dont know if any of this makes sense.

Sometimes now when I'm with a guy its like I have this internal monologue going on, me telling myself what the guy is thinking about me, basically role playing humiliating things in real time in my head.

 

[Tallcajun]

So you have to make believe you are being degraded? Or are waiting for him to degrade you?
Does he know your desires?

 

[seela]

Sometimes now when I'm with a guy its like I have this internal monologue going on, me telling myself what the guy is thinking about me, basically role playing humiliating things in real time in my head.

I can relate to this. The best bits are when the D person verbalizes my internal monologue. It’s rare it happens, because, honestly, nobody is as harsh on me as I am myself. But when it happens or even when it gets really close to what I’m thinking, my head goes empty and and it’s the most vulnerable feeling I can imagine. It’s so deflating and scary but also makes me want so much more.

As to feeling conflicted about it… I think that internal conflict is where all the most interesting and rewarding things happen. That’s why I’m in no rush to reason my way out of some of the tastiest (and realistically speaking also the silliest) conflicts I have regarding my kinks.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

So you have to make believe you are being degraded? Or are waiting for him to degrade you?
Does he know your desires?

sometimes. its not often the same man. If a guy knows my desire sometimes its worse. Like someone else says its about more than being called a cunt.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Like, he didn't degrade me. I degraded myself. I dont know if any of this makes sense.

Yes, it makes sense. Or perhaps rather: It’s relatable.

I can relate to this. The best bits are when the D person verbalizes my internal monologue.

Yup.

 

[Tallcajun]

Is your desire public or private humiliation? Perhaps both?

I hope you find that needle in the haystack that will satisfy you.

 

[Subsy]

I had a Dominant woman visit mew last week for an hour session, and she makes me do the things I want to do anyway. Things that may sound humiliating for a macho man but Yes I want to perform oral on her of course, and rim her to. I love that, but instead, she makes me do that under threat of punishment. And I do enjoy she actually uses whips and needles for punishing me, and makes me do it.
She tells me while I'm performing oral how just before she came here she had unprotected sex and her vagina is quite soiled. She demands I clean her with my tongue. Of course she hasn't had sex and it's all make-believe.
I would prefer that in fact that she did have sex before ...but that is difficult to arrange.
Seems to me like a very silly thing for an adult male like myself to play at, but I do enjoy this.

Seems perfectly alright to me…..better……admirable. It’s a good example of liberation too.

 

[seela]

Is your desire public or private humiliation? Perhaps both?

I hope you find that needle in the haystack that will satisfy you.

The question isn’t likely directed at me, but it’s an interesting one.

For me it doesn’t really matter if it’s public or private. Either works, but the type of humiliation/degradation play will look very different depending on if it’s in public or in private. Often what I consider humiliating in public is something that, realistically, other people wouldn’t bat an eye at or at most would only find it odd behavior. It’s all in my head. The key to successful humiliation/degradation play is to harp on my insecurities and that field is far wider than just sexual things. Sexual things are great, but situations where they can be engaged in in public are very few.

It’s not so common to find people who are interested in engaging in humiliation/degradation play that isn’t directly, outwardly, sexual or something you’d find in porn. Makes it all the more rewarding when it happens.

It’s also very weird to be involved with someone who is very turned on by something I find humiliating but they don’t get the humiliation angle in it at all but rather are very encouraging and positive about it. It makes for a very strange mindfuck that in itself is kind of embarrassing.