How to ruin an orgasm?

[Wonderer67]

My wife usually controls my orgasms and I am only allowed to cum when she says (every few weeks). We love it - it keeps me super horny and she enjoys teasing me and having sex (inc intercourse) but no cumming allowed. It’s pretty hot, I must admit.

Ruined orgasms are part of the play, but physiologically, we both find it pretty hard to do. For me and her, during teasing sessions, she can get me to the brink and leave me hanging, OR it’s a full on orgasm. We’ve had some over the years but it seems more accidental. It’s all or nothing it seems and we both get off on denying me orgasm or the dull release of ruining them, when we’re able to achieve one.

Miss conduct (my wife) would love to help me achieve them occasionally, and I’d love to receive some. Any advice out there litsters?

EDIT: we can have less than satisfying orgasms for me, but we’re trying to achieve the type where cum just oozes out and it’s a less than great feeling.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

OK, you know what you are looking for - taking the orgasm to the very brink, to the point where some ejaculation occurs but stopping just short of feeling that ecstatic blast of joy that goes with orgasm.

Obviously, in your case, you wife takes you up to orgasm and then immediately withdraws all stimulation, leaving your organ waving in the breeze, so to speak. The question becomes one of timing - how does she know when to stop? There are essentially two ways.

The first is that you tell her. That might ruin the game you two are trying to play, but it's one I suspect is used by a lot of porn couples doing this sort of video. If you and your wife are OK with it, all you need to do is tell her when you are entering orgasm.

The second way is for her to become skilled in reading your body's reactions to her ministrations. You can search these online, but a man entering orgasm typically might catch his breath, have his muscles go rigid, etc. Men differ and the challenge for her is to learn to gauge how close you are.

Good luck.

 

[Bigspurt]

By the time I catch my breath and go ridged, it’s too late.

 

[Privates1stClass]

A great way to have a ruined orgasm is when you're just about to ejaculate, and one of the kids pounds on the bedroom door, yelling, "The dog just threw up on the new carpet!"

 

[TempSpawn]

Apart from @Privates1stClass idea, which I concur is the best method, it's all down to timing, learning to read a guy's body or relying on them to tell you when they're about to cum.

 

[Wonderer67]

At age 55, I’ve been masturbating for 45 years or so and it an old dog does learn new tricks!

When I get to the edge I start to masturbate slower and we longer strokes and that has done the trick. My wife was pegging me and ruined me several times a couple of days ago and it worked really really well with that technique.

I guess I just masturbated too fast and hard While on the edge in the past, now I slow it down (and my wife is learning too) and use longer slower strokes when on or near the edge.

 

[TempSpawn]

It just takes some willpower to slow down at the right time I guess..

 

[LittleSwitchy]

If I may chime in. I’ve a few ideas for you.
1 when she knows your close. She can call out your brother’s name.
2 try a cock ring. One that goes around peen and balls. Gives a stronger longer lasting erection.
3 have you looked into milking? She can stimulate the prostate. Either with toys or her fingers.

 

[Wonderer67]

Thanks for your tips.

we do currently do 2 and 3.

I don’t have a lot of luck w milking and cumming hands free, but it does feel great.

 

[TiedandDenied]

You are a lucky man. My wife concentrates on her own orgasms and I do too. I have to earn mine and ask for permission. She usually denies it and keeps me desperate for weeks on end. Then when I am allowed to make myself cum, she often tells me to ruin it myself. She watches to make sure I don't cheat. I simply let go when I feel the cum rising. It takes a lot of self control, especially knowing that once I stop she doesn't allow me to start again. So if I stop too early it's denial and if I keep hold too long... well I dare not find out what she would do!!

 

[Wonderer67]

You are a lucky man. My wife concentrates on her own orgasms and I do too. I have to earn mine and ask for permission. She usually denies it and keeps me desperate for weeks on end. Then when I am allowed to make myself cum, she often tells me to ruin it myself. She watches to make sure I don't cheat. I simply let go when I feel the cum rising. It takes a lot of self control, especially knowing that once I stop she doesn't allow me to start again. So if I stop too early it's denial and if I keep hold too long... well I dare not find out what she would do!!

We’re in similar situations then. We also practice orgasm control. My orgasms are infrequent, intense and hers!

I’ve found from this thread, that when I get close I (or she) just need to slow down the strokes and make them longer. I took some of the advice here and Altho I’ve been masturbating for 40 years or so, I’ve (and/or my wife)!have changed It up once I get toward the edge. It’s worked well!

 

[Savanasexi]

My wife usually controls my orgasms and I am only allowed to cum when she says (every few weeks). We love it - it keeps me super horny and she enjoys teasing me and having sex (inc intercourse) but no cumming allowed. It’s pretty hot, I must admit.

Ruined orgasms are part of the play, but physiologically, we both find it pretty hard to do. For me and her, during teasing sessions, she can get me to the brink and leave me hanging, OR it’s a full on orgasm. We’ve had some over the years but it seems more accidental. It’s all or nothing it seems and we both get off on denying me orgasm or the dull release of ruining them, when we’re able to achieve one.

Miss conduct (my wife) would love to help me achieve them occasionally, and I’d love to receive some. Any advice out there litsters?

EDIT: we can have less than satisfying orgasms for me, but we’re trying to achieve the type where cum just oozes out and it’s a less than great feeling.

I find it hard to believe that you actually enjoy a ruined orgasm, to the point of doing it deliberately. Surely the whole point of sex is the culmination of both of you having the explosive orgasm which hot raunchy sex is designed to achieve. But everyone to their own taste especially in bed and sex is so diverse. Enjoy whatever you do.

 

[TiedandDenied]

I find it hard to believe that you actually enjoy a ruined orgasm, to the point of doing it deliberately. Surely the whole point of sex is the culmination of both of you having the explosive orgasm which hot raunchy sex is designed to achieve. But everyone to their own taste especially in bed and sex is so diverse. Enjoy whatever you do.

Obviously a full orgasm feels physically more satisfying, but it's the mindfuck that does it for me. The imbalance between my wife's and my orgasms, the power she has over me. I would gladly ruin every orgasm or not cum at all for the rest of my days if she told me to. I love her orgasms more than my own.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Once me and my wife were playing with a tens unit(e stim). It was the worst orgasm I’ve ever had, I don’t think you could even call it a orgasm. My penis didn’t get erect, it felt like a thousand needled were poking my penis. My penis contracted then semen came out. There was no pleasure, that was it.

 

[twister947]

My ex always preferred to be on top, where she controlled the fuck, usually a slow grind. She would have 2 or 3 shuddering orgasms, then milk me with her cunt until my balls were dry. I swear she could pull a perfect vacuum with her pussy.

Except...sometimes, when she sensed I was getting close, she would, without warning, roll off and say, "Goodnight, Flyboy", and I would lay there,dry humping the sky, groaning in frustration.