Not jealous, but honestly amazed. I really am surprised that a board of such "open minded" individuals can't see that there are two sides to every story.
That is exactly what we are trying to do, but quite honestly what you are saying is "there are two sides to this story, and mine is the absolute truth"... how do we know that? Because you say so? No one on here disputes that TL did a fucked up thing, something really terrible, and almost everyone has told her what she did was wrong and she seriously needs help, no one said "awe, poor baby, we understand, it wasn't such a big thing', absolutely no one. She came in here looking for advice, we gave it, tried to tell her what we thought, we treated her as a human being who admitted she made a horrible mistake and was looking for some way forward, and we gave her advice. Yes, we treated her like a human being...and quite honestly you came on here like Suh on the Lions going after Jay Cutler, on a rampage, and accused everyone of 'mollycoddling' tl, condoning cheating, and basically acting as if there were two stories here, but rather that somehow we were all 'traitors to the cause' because we didn't jump to mimic you when you showed up. What you are doing isn't trying to protect his friend and his wife from her, what you are doing is nothing more then revenge and to put it bluntly, what you are doing is just as bad as what she did, it is just as morally repulsive. It is one thing to protect your friend, but it sounds to me like you don't care whether or not TL has moved on, is trying to pick up the pieces, you want your pound of flesh, retribution, and that is as evil as what she did. You obviously feel strongly for his friend and his wife, which is a noble thing, but a sordid act done in the name of something as wonderful as friendship still stinks, much the same as putting any other name on what TL did doesn't make it any sweeter, you can't.
I have friends, I have work colleagues, and I will stretch a lot of boundaries and rules to support them, including things that could cost me dearly if found out, because that is the right thing to do, but I do that in support of a good cause. If hounding TL was to protect your friend alone, or if you blackmailed her into keeping away from him, I could support it if it was to protect others; but revenge for revenge sake is not protecting a friend, that is about you, because it does nothing for them.