How do you 'straight' folks feel about your partners' curving past?

[AlexBailey]

‘Straight’ is at one end of the spectrum of human sexuality,

If you're straight, how do you feel about having a partner who has crossed some of the lines that you would never cross?



Straight women, is it a deal breaker if you find out that Mr. Right has been with men?

Straight men, do you have a problem with a woman who has had female lovers?

Is it a hard 'no'?

What about dating someone who has gender fluidity?



(This could be a sensitive issue for some so please be considerate and talk about your own perspective without accusations.)

 

[Brains_N_Boobs]

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[iso36]

This thread reminds me of a hot blonde I used to date. She was 27 at the time, highly orgasmic and we’d fuck for hours. What a treat.

One day we were walking through the queen west boutique district and I noticed she was checking out the girls.

Her brother was gay and she’d been raped by an uncle for several years when she was younger, so she was reasonably fucked up, which was part of her charm… the crazy ones are often the best in bed, as we know.

Out relationship was primarily sexual, so I used my theory that she was probably a closeted virgin lesbian to my advantage by taking her to parties where there were lesbians.

I kept her in that state of pre lesbian heat for a few months and the sex was amazing.

Years later she married an older lesbian university professor.

And they lived happily ever after.

 

[2tallpaul]

I found the do not cross line was in sand and the wind blew it away. Cuckold sissy now and loving it. My boots now have zippers and I can feel the wind under my skirt.

 

[Not Normal]

Any partner's past isn't a concern when it comes to sexuality.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Every time I give blood they ask me if I've recently had sex with a gay African male like it's a big deal.

 

[gtnlynn]

I like the fact that my wife had a sexual experience with her female roommate in college. She enjoyed it, but it isn't something she plans to do again.

 

[writerzblok92]

My wife is to Uber vanilla and prudish to share any of my past with her.

It's not especially erotic but she won't be accepting of it

 

[Rainblow]

My straight partners have never had a problem with my former pansexual relationships. At least none that I'm aware of.

 

[Becki890]

A year or so into our relationship, my ex boyfriend told me that he had received a blowjob from a male friend years before we met. He was deeply ashamed about it but felt he could confide in me. I'm glad he did - I told him it was great that he had a friend he could explore with. I didn't think less of him at all. We watched bi porn together a few times after that conversation but that got old quick - we were way more into each other than what was happening on the screen. It did not bother me at all and the subject never came up again.

Would you have liked to have seen him with another guy?

 

[Wageslave]

Any partner's past isn't a concern when it comes to sexuality.

My opinion exactly

 

[FL30]

Partners past is just that, the past. They're not with that person anymore for whatever reason so it's no concern of mine.

 

[Wildfly11]

I like the fact that my wife had a sexual experience with her female roommate in college. She enjoyed it, but it isn't something she plans to do again.

Details please

 

[gtnlynn]

Details please

There wasn't much to it. Her first two and a half years of college, she was free to date others when I wasn't available. So she was either being fingered by me or having sex with somebody else almost every week. Then we became "pinned" or engaged to be engaged, and the outside dating stopped. She got awfully horny the summer before her senior year because I was working a summer job on the coast and didn't see her for week. One Saturday night, she and her female roommate enjoyed a bit too much rum (or just the right amount) and ended up naked in each other's arms in the bed. There were no toys available, so there was a lot of kissing, hugging, rubbing, squeezing, fingering, until both had good orgasms (or several).

 

[Conquen69]

Although my wonderful wife has told me quite a bit about her past with other men/boys, she has not elaborated about her same sex encounter or encounters. She did admit it once when we had a bit too much to drink but got so upset I chose not to pursue it any further. I just hope she had a good time and will tell me about it one day.

 

[lovecraft68]

Past is the past. My only thing would be that I believe in monogamy. I don't push that at others, but its my standard so I except the same. So on that note if someone is fluid...could they stay with just this flavor so to speak? Same for Bi or any other term you want to use.

 

[Britva415]

A man I was in a LTR with had a constant fear that I'd cheat with a woman or leave him for a woman. He was wildly uncomfortable with my past - and my imagined future as well.

None of the women I have been with was concerned.

 

[AlexBailey]

Past is the past. My only thing would be that I believe in monogamy. I don't push that at others, but its my standard so I except the same. So on that note if someone is fluid...could they stay with just this flavor so to speak? Same for Bi or any other term you want to use.

So this is the conflict of “how can you be bi and be in a monogamous relationship?”

It can be perfect if both partners are fluid.

 

[Britva415]

Let’s just not perpetuate the unfair and harmful stereotype that bi or fluid people can’t be monogamous.

 

[TemptationTango]

Past is the past. My only thing would be that I believe in monogamy. I don't push that at others, but its my standard so I except the same. So on that note if someone is fluid...could they stay with just this flavor so to speak? Same for Bi or any other term you want to use.

I used to think the same way.

But, would you be willing to share your spouse to keep from losing her. I didn't and we divorced. Now almost two decades later I question monogamy along with my decisions. So many questions....

 

[lovecraft68]

So this is the conflict of “how can you be bi and be in a monogamous relationship?”

It can be perfect if both partners are fluid.

In my example one person is not fluid, so could the other abstain from the opposite sex for that person? "Straight for me" sort of?

 

[lovecraft68]

Let’s just not perpetuate the unfair and harmful stereotype that bi or fluid people can’t be monogamous.

Being fluid is contradictory to monogamy. Now of course every person is different, but let's not perpetuate that fluid people are overly monogamous either. if you're into one gender whichever it is, its a lot easier to stick to one then to enjoy both and have to make a choice, and many don't feel they need to. Good for them if that works.

 

[Britva415]

Being fluid is contradictory to monogamy.

No, no it's not.

When I said "let's not perpetuate the harmful and unfair stereotype," did you really need to double the fuck down on it?

 

[Britva415]

Being fluid is contradictory to monogamy.

You might as well say that liking both blondes and redheads is contrary to monogamy. Or that liking big tits and small tits is.

Maybe you'll agree, and say, Yes, yes, that's right. Having taste for more than one kind of person is contrary to monogamy.

But that's a far cry from singling out bisexuals, which is part of a harmful and unfair pattern.

So let's just not.

 

[Rob_Royale]

My wife chose me. Anyone she may have been with doesn't bother me in the least. I'm confident she was never with a woman but I can't say I haven't fantasized about it.