I’m a mature confused straight woman

I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.
What is something that people keep in their trousers that their partners love to blow?
You can go on top of me or underneath, and I always involve a bed. What am I?
What’s the biggest thing a man has in his trousers that a lady doesn’t want on her face?
I’m small and hard, but holes love me. What am I?
 
What is something that people keep in their trousers that their partners love to blow?
You can go on top of me or underneath, and I always involve a bed. What am I?
What’s the biggest thing a man has in his trousers that a lady doesn’t want on her face?
I’m small and hard, but holes love me. What am I?
I was going to say money for the first one.
Duvet or bed covers.
No idea
Keys?
 
Let me guess.

You don’t.

As for counting orgasms, she’ll have a lot more to count if she finds a woman LOL
correct. i don't have a man or a pussy. as for the orgasms, it's dumb to assume a woman knows how to eat pussy better because she has one.
 
correct. i don't have a man or a pussy. as for the orgasms, it's dumb to assume a woman knows how to eat pussy better because she has one.
Fully agree there will be men and women that are amazing and also poor at eating. I wonder if the comment about more orgasms was based on men penetrative sex doesn't always lead a women to orgasam.

A man can finger or lick a girl just as good as a girl can. Same way a man can suck a cock just same as a women. It's all about keeping things equal when comparing skills
 
My late husband was the first person I confessed I was bisexual to.
I've been bicurious, but never said the words out loud until I was 23...

If you're watching FFM porn, and lesbian scenes with him... He's hoping you come out, I'm sure! 😊🤩

I have been in 3 FFM sexy scenarios IRL... All were fun and none involved my husband...
(It just didn't work out that way..)

If anything, enjoy your feelings😁 women with women is beautiful!
 
Sounds very much that you are bisexual, and there's absolutely nothing wrong in that.

Enjoying that in real life may be more complex, though, and that doesn't depend on you being bisexual but you being married.

Personally I wouldn't try a 3rd partner (even a man - as for me lesbian sex is a turnoff), but that's just me. I don't judge it, I just rather avoid the complication as for me good sex and feelings tend to get mixed, and why even bother with mediocre sex?

Then again I've learned that for some people romantic feelings happen only towards one gender even if they enjoy sex with both/all. In that case it may be more simple.
 
I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.
You sound fantastic in every way and I , a Man , would love to be both observer and participant in your scenarios. Thank you for sharing . I hope it works out for you .
 
I think I know where you're coming from. I'm a widow now, but I was happily married for more than 20 years. We had a fulfilling and varied sex life, but it never involved anyone other than the two of us. It would have been a huge thing to suggest changing that.

I've always been sexually curious (about almost everything), and at some point, I started using online adult chat sites and games. There, I met and interacted with some very nice ladies, and it made me quite curious about what a female-female encounter would be like in real life. I never acted on it though or even mentioned it to my husband.

I don't regret that. What we built over so many years was great - and for me, it wasn't worth risking. Instead, I used those experiences and thoughts of women as kindling and enjoyed the fire with him :)
 
I think I know where you're coming from. I'm a widow now, but I was happily married for more than 20 years. We had a fulfilling and varied sex life, but it never involved anyone other than the two of us. It would have been a huge thing to suggest changing that.

I've always been sexually curious (about almost everything), and at some point, I started using online adult chat sites and games. There, I met and interacted with some very nice ladies, and it made me quite curious about what a female-female encounter would be like in real life. I never acted on it though or even mentioned it to my husband.

I don't regret that. What we built over so many years was great - and for me, it wasn't worth risking. Instead, I used those experiences and thoughts of women as kindling and enjoyed the fire with him :)
Wow that is lovely to read xxx
 
I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.
Wow that was a lovely read xxx
 
I think I know where you're coming from. I'm a widow now, but I was happily married for more than 20 years. We had a fulfilling and varied sex life, but it never involved anyone other than the two of us. It would have been a huge thing to suggest changing that.

I've always been sexually curious (about almost everything), and at some point, I started using online adult chat sites and games. There, I met and interacted with some very nice ladies, and it made me quite curious about what a female-female encounter would be like in real life. I never acted on it though or even mentioned it to my husband.

I don't regret that. What we built over so many years was great - and for me, it wasn't worth risking. Instead, I used those experiences and thoughts of women as kindling and enjoyed the fire with him :)
Thank you Lone, I’m not sure we’re the same age, but it’s nice having someone who genuinely thinks like I do, even if a lot of people don’t agree…sorry to hear you are a widow, but like you said, you have many years of happiness to look back on.I don’t mean to sound insensitive because I dont know how long you have been alone, but now might be the time to do a little exploring. Again, if you have just recently lost your husband, I apologize …how to hear from you again….Jo (talemaker67)
 
Thank you Lone, I’m not sure we’re the same age, but it’s nice having someone who genuinely thinks like I do, even if a lot of people don’t agree…sorry to hear you are a widow, but like you said, you have many years of happiness to look back on.I don’t mean to sound insensitive because I dont know how long you have been alone, but now might be the time to do a little exploring. Again, if you have just recently lost your husband, I apologize …how to hear from you again….Jo (talemaker67)
I'm 43 and it's been about 4 years now. I don't think it will ever be time to 'move on' from what I had - but eventually, it might be time to add :)
 
I'm 43 and it's been about 4 years now. I don't think it will ever be time to 'move on' from what I had - but eventually, it might be time to add :)
Sorrow doesn't go away, it just changes form and you may grow around it so that it seems smaller.

But nevertheless, life goes on.
 
During my marriage I gave my wife permission to experiment with woman. Not long after she me divorced. She since then remarried to a guy. So not like she thought she was gay.
 
I'm 43 and it's been about 4 years now. I don't think it will ever be time to 'move on' from what I had - but eventually, it might be time to add :)
Yes your considerably younger than I am, but I won’t hold that against you…lol….seriously, now might be the time to consider something new. Do you know of anyone like a friend, or a friend of a friend that might be thinking the same way as you? I actually do have someone in mind that I think might feel the same way as I do, just not 100% sure, so I would be afraid to ask and risk it….hope we can continue to chat, …Jo
 
Yes your considerably younger than I am, but I won’t hold that against you…lol….seriously, now might be the time to consider something new. Do you know of anyone like a friend, or a friend of a friend that might be thinking the same way as you? I actually do have someone in mind that I think might feel the same way as I do, just not 100% sure, so I would be afraid to ask and risk it….hope we can continue to chat, …Jo
Feel free to send me a PM
 
I LOVE this author’s sincerity and any man (or woman) would be blessed to have a partner like her.
I’m leaning toward those who believe, that with the degree of openness you already have with your husband that he would be intrigued and aroused by your inner feelings. And since he has been on this journey with you, I’m guessing he’d be thrilled to hear of your desires and would love to incorporate them into your sexcipades, even if it never led to anything real. For me, if my gf expressed an interest or curiosity, I’d be more than happy to explore her interests, together or support her wish to “experiment”!
 
correct. i don't have a man or a pussy. as for the orgasms, it's dumb to assume a woman knows how to eat pussy better because she has one.

It was tongue in cheek, but if you want to get down to the nitty gritty…

Typical male. Thinks the only thing involved with woman on woman orgasms is oral. LOL

There is so much more to women than that.

First of all, the OP is sexually attracted to women, and if she decides she will engage in same sex she should absolutely go for it. And report back. Because I’d love to hear about it LOL. Also, when you are hot like fire during the sex, it will ALWAYS be good for her. ALWAYS.

Secondly, while women who enjoy sex with other women may be inexperienced (and I say this from experience) most are very quick learners. It’s easy because they have the same bits. Super, super quick learners.

It’s not rocket science. And I find it ludicrous that you’d think, like, for one second, that a woman wouldn’t know what another woman might like. It’s silly.

But you know, male ego and all that zzzzz.
 
so was mine.

where the hell did you get that from?

Where? From your dumb post. I mentioned more orgasms and somehow your twat brain went straight to oral.

And that’s all the attention you’re getting out of me today.
 
Yes your considerably younger than I am, but I won’t hold that against you…lol….seriously, now might be the time to consider something new. Do you know of anyone like a friend, or a friend of a friend that might be thinking the same way as you? I actually do have someone in mind that I think might feel the same way as I do, just not 100% sure, so I would be afraid to ask and risk it….hope we can continue to chat, …Jo
Good Morning Talemaker67
I was wondering if you ever got to try anything with a female yet? Also thought of a way to "introduce" your thoughts to hub sometime while watching porn with him. Maybe "innocently" say when a les or bi scene comes on the screen. "ommmggg that makes me want to try that sometime. What do YOU think?" See what he says. Just an idea...PM me smetime. OK?
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