How’s your “Gaydar”

[EmyS]

Hey!

Ok this might seem like a funny question!

But as I continue my self exploration, I have noticed that some guys sometimes look at me differently.

I wonder if some can tell that I bi, that I have these deep desires to serve and please them.

What are your thoughts? Just my imagination?

Lex
Xo

 

[little cletus]

I have the opposite. I have bi-stealth. I’ve never once been hit on by a man. I’ve been in dance clubs, bars in the west village, etc. for a guy who watches a fair amount of gay porn, wears panties and loves to be pegged, I must reek of heterosexuality

 

[Britva415]

My gaydar's excessive: I often get gay vibes from someone and later find out they aren't gay.

 

[mtsnowrider]

Non-existent. Sometimes it takes me days to realize someone was subtly hitting on me

 

[Escierto]

My gaydar has gotten a lot better since I have been with my girlfriend. She has a lot of gay guy friends and I guess I am better able to tune in to that vibe.

She has an extremely fine tuned gaydar. Even though I am exclusively her bottom, she says that I am completely straight according to her gaydar.

 

[goldytheGoldfish]

Some people are extremely hard to read. It's not a bad idea to talk out exactly what you want first.

 

[Superfungurl]

I could have a daddy's cock halfway down my throat and I'm thinking, 'I wonder if he thinks I'm hot?'

 

[FeelingLikeMyself]

Fairly accurate to my surprise. I'm face blind so I have to focus on individual facial features and other secondary identifying traits and I've learned to watch the whole person from their walk to the way they groom themselves.

I've gotten pretty good at spotting fellow bottoms and CDs and excellent with sexuality in general.

 

[Mike130]

I can’t even tell when a girl is hitting on me, no less a guy. Almost didn’t even realize my future wife was hitting on me before we started dating.

Think my radar was never working, so many missed opportunities….

 

[Yesok1]

My gaydar is appalling. I'd chat to the only straight girl in a gay club.

 

[Ciceri]

My gaydar is broken. I live in a conservative place where the folks are good at hiding their sexuality. I've gotten good, too

 

[Bill_Doubleu]

I find the subject fascinating. Though, it is hard to speak to without offending people. Labels aren't the things. What is meant by gay? A sensitive man? Or take charge gal? Is it the limp-wristed archetypical 'homo'? Some men say they are 'straight' but just happen to like sucking cock, or fucking a man. My 'gaydar' is unreliable, as is most of my radars. Too many filters, funky designs, bad manufacturing, and bad wiring to bypass conscious communication.

 

[Mike130]

It depends on the gay guy too, how he hides it. Going back a few years now to the 80’s but obviously Liberachi (sp?) was gay. Elton John. Richard Simmons. Freddie Mercury.

But did anyone guess Rock Hudson, George Michaels? Some are better at cloaking themselves than others.

 

[LeatherChaps]

It depends on the gay guy too, how he hides it. Going back a few years now to the 80’s but obviously Liberachi (sp?) was gay. Elton John. Richard Simmons. Freddie Mercury.

But did anyone guess Rock Hudson, George Michaels? Some are better at cloaking themselves than others.

Hudson no.... but once you knew I was like "oh... I shoulda seen that!"

George Michaels? Oh FUCK yes! Had it written all over him.

Kevin Spacey was a bit of a surprise though.

 

[Mike130]

Hudson no.... but once you knew I was like "oh... I shoulda seen that!"

George Michaels? Oh FUCK yes! Had it written all over him.

Kevin Spacey was a bit of a surprise though.

Yeah forgot about Spacey. I liked him as an actor. Hudson and Michael’s I missed completely though.

 

[Superfungurl]

I can’t even tell when a girl is hitting on me, no less a guy. Almost didn’t even realize my future wife was hitting on me before we started dating.

Think my radar was never working, so many missed opportunities….

I'm with ya! Anyone smiles at me my reaction is instant suspicion.

 

[Mike130]

I'm with ya! Anyone smiles at me my reaction is instant suspicion.

Really, so true. Maybe some missed opportunities though.

 

[JoeSmith2022]

Never tested it

 

[PinFour]

Mine seems completely random. I can be really good at reading a situation/person... or oblivious.

 

[BiDrew42]

Mine works pretty well most of the time. However, when I was married, my ex and I were good friends with another married couple. They were both very attractive, and I often fantasized about both of them. But I never thought he was anything but arrow straight. One day, out of the blue, the male announced he was divorcing his wife because he was tired of lying to himself and everyone else, and he wanted to live openly as the gay male he had always been. I was gobsmacked, having never suspected. But when I told my wife, she said she had always known he was gay and she was surprised that I never suspected. A couple of years later after my divorce, he was my first male lover in over 20 years. I also had an exquisite fling with his ex-wife at the same time.

 

[Giftboy]

Hey!

Ok this might seem like a funny question!

But as I continue my self exploration, I have noticed that some guys sometimes look at me differently.

I wonder if some can tell that I bi, that I have these deep desires to serve and please them.

What are your thoughts? Just my imagination?

Lex
Xo

They don’t need a radar when I put on my bright pink knee high gay whore boots. That’s a real come on, especially to the over 55s, as they know a good ride, when they see one.

 

[Giftboy]

Hey!

Ok this might seem like a funny question!

But as I continue my self exploration, I have noticed that some guys sometimes look at me differently.

I wonder if some can tell that I bi, that I have these deep desires to serve and please them.

What are your thoughts? Just my imagination?

Lex
Xo

Just get out there, let them know what you want, and live your life. If you do, cock will abound.

 

[CambridgeBi]

Mine's a little dodgy and I don't often register on others' either.

There was one memorable time when I'd asked a man who worked in a nearby furniture shop if I could recruit him and his van to help me move house. As we were working together loading my belongings into his van my gaydar started bleeping away and his must have been too. When we got to lifting a heavy washing machine over the front door steps he looked me straight in the eye, smiled and said: "Top or bottom?". I felt the heat of my face going flushed as I replied: "Bottom".

In a way I've found people being oblivious to my sexuality interesting / revealing. I have witnessed homophobia ( or perhaps you could regard it as indirect abuse ) even from members of my own family. I usually respond with a "Gay people are just people, it's no reason to dislike them" type defence but I've never outed myself.

 

[kLangleybi]

My Gaydar is none existent and clearly I don't give off the vibe that I'd love to suck cock.

 

[Oshkosh60]

I think my gaydar is much better than average..... but having a strong hunch and being able to act on that suspicion is a whole other thing. I have had a very strong interest in women's clothing but have lived in a closet all my life....Only in the last few years have I thought of being with another man. But being in the closet and in a relationship II can't very well ask or make inquiries to fact check my suspicions.