Cuckold Appreciation

[bjlatx]

None of our friends know and we hope they never do. We are very much enjoying the lifestyle right now and we don’t want anything to interrupt it. I love that my wife fucks other men, but I don’t want to have to explain it to anyone or be judged for it.

My wife and her bull last night took some videos. For some reason only one of them turned out good, but is it really really good.

 

[magicalmoments]

The key thing, I think, is that it's a relationship, though an unconventional one. The wife, husband and bull share a connection that matters to them, though the vanilla world won't 'get it'.

Which is why a lot of couples keep this under wraps, though I do know of one couple where the wife and bull are known as being together by some of her friends...who also know her husband.

This almost a polyamorous relationship, it seems to have gone beyond being a cuckold. There used to be a group like this in our nudist club. One woman who was wife to two guys. She was legally married to one of them but the other guy was a full partner and recognised publicly as such. They were committed to each other, Not sure if the guys were bi.

 

[LustyScribe]

This may not be the right thread for this, but it's the closest I found.

So, I have a dilemma. I received a PM on here telling me I'm despicable for cuckolding my husband by engaging in sexual activity with an 18-year-old male (as an aside, no one has ever accused me of this when I had a GF last year ). I didn't really think Hubby would be a cuckold since our marriage parameters include me expressing my poly side. Hubby could do the same, if he had a poly side. He doesn't, so he doesn't.

But he also has no interest in hearing about or facilitating my explorations. He accepts that is who I am, but it's not part of our dynamic together. So, I never considered him a cuck or what I am doing as cuckolding. I have always been faithful to the parameters we have for our marriage. When those parameters did not include being with other people, I did not engage in sexual activity with other people. I see what we have now as more of an open marriage. I mean, he is free to do what I am doing.

But there is a difference, because I would want to know and hear about whatever he did with another woman. I would love to watch. I would love to be tied and helpless and forced to not only watch, but also forced to to get him hard so he could fuck her some more. I have that cuckqueen fetish, and we have explored it a little in our three FFMs we have had, but I'd be willing to push it farther.

The gist of it all is that I do not see Hubby as a cuckold, even though I am engaging in sexual activity with other people and he is not. And I know he would not consider himself in the cuck role. What do you all think?

Here's the reality: Every marriage is different,because each one is made up of 2 (or ?) distinctly unique human beings, full of DNA and kinks and fears and tickle spots and tastes in music. You two apparently figured all those little markers out, and seem to work well with them. Thus when somebody else (even with the best of intentions) tells you about your relationship and how it doesn't make sense or won't work, just remember that your experience will always trump their theories. It's WORKING.

 

[Mike_In_Taiwan]

My friends are in a similar position...he is publicly acknowledged as her boyfriend by friends who know she's married.

 

[lc69hunter]

This may not be the right thread for this, but it's the closest I found.

So, I have a dilemma. I received a PM on here telling me I'm despicable for cuckolding my husband by engaging in sexual activity with an 18-year-old male (as an aside, no one has ever accused me of this when I had a GF last year ). I didn't really think Hubby would be a cuckold since our marriage parameters include me expressing my poly side. Hubby could do the same, if he had a poly side. He doesn't, so he doesn't.

But he also has no interest in hearing about or facilitating my explorations. He accepts that is who I am, but it's not part of our dynamic together. So, I never considered him a cuck or what I am doing as cuckolding. I have always been faithful to the parameters we have for our marriage. When those parameters did not include being with other people, I did not engage in sexual activity with other people. I see what we have now as more of an open marriage. I mean, he is free to do what I am doing.

But there is a difference, because I would want to know and hear about whatever he did with another woman. I would love to watch. I would love to be tied and helpless and forced to not only watch, but also forced to to get him hard so he could fuck her some more. I have that cuckqueen fetish, and we have explored it a little in our three FFMs we have had, but I'd be willing to push it farther.

The gist of it all is that I do not see Hubby as a cuckold, even though I am engaging in sexual activity with other people and he is not. And I know he would not consider himself in the cuck role. What do you all think?

I have also received several pm's calling me a despicable person for sleeping with married women. I didn't consider I was cuckolding her husband. I was just scratching an itch that her husband wasn't

 

[Rollwithit2023]

I have also received several pm's calling me a despicable person for sleeping with married women. I didn't consider I was cuckolding her husband. I was just scratching an itch that her husband wasn't

Would you scratch my itch please..

 

[Rollwithit2023]

Who wants to play?

 

[newengland07]

Who wants to play?

Hey how’s it goin

 

[BiWife_Angela]

Husband and wife here

 

[Str4ng3rth4nf1ct1on]

Oh the conundrum of cuckoldery. Some will never understand and those are the people I ignore. For people who show and interest in genuinely wanting to understand I feel differently. My wife and I began our journey many years ago. We were both quite young and looking back we’d never heard of hotwife and cuckold. We just did what kind of came naturally once we realised we were 2 sides of the same coin. We hid it from everyone we knew and still do apart from one other person. My wife’s best friend, who “accidentally” witnessed my wife (then my girlfriend) when she first acted on her need for variety.
We never referred to her other men as ”Bulls” or other terminology. We prefer to describe them as her boyfriends, because that’s how we see them. Apart from the occasional one offs, especially at the beginning, all of the men she has taken have been longer term. We enjoy the dynamic of 3 people rather than us and someone who doesn’t mean anything to us. We enjoy the build up, the flirting and the eventual sex.
Personally I enjoy the term “wife sharing” because that’s what it is (to us) and to this end, I like to build my own relationship with her boyfriend too. Not so much sexually, although that has happened, but more understanding his needs and what he likes about her and how he feels about her. We love knowing she excites him as much as she does me. We love hearing his fantasies that maybe she has inspired. What we love most is knowing he can give her some of the things I’m not able to and that just adds another dimension to our marriage that otherwise we would never experience.
My biggest turn on though, is how she feels about him and what he does for her.
To that end he has to understand our relationship too and respect it and us for what we give him and him us……the chance to share my wife, the person I love, for him to share in our marriage and for him to share himself with us. All quite confusing. Easier if just said we all share each other.
I could go on and I’m sure I have much more to say, but that’s the basics for us……I think?

 

[lc69hunter]

Oh the conundrum of cuckoldery. Some will never understand and those are the people I ignore. For people who show and interest in genuinely wanting to understand I feel differently. My wife and I began our journey many years ago. We were both quite young and looking back we’d never heard of hotwife and cuckold. We just did what kind of came naturally once we realised we were 2 sides of the same coin. We hid it from everyone we knew and still do apart from one other person. My wife’s best friend, who “accidentally” witnessed my wife (then my girlfriend) when she first acted on her need for variety.
We never referred to her other men as ”Bulls” or other terminology. We prefer to describe them as her boyfriends, because that’s how we see them. Apart from the occasional one offs, especially at the beginning, all of the men she has taken have been longer term. We enjoy the dynamic of 3 people rather than us and someone who doesn’t mean anything to us. We enjoy the build up, the flirting and the eventual sex.
Personally I enjoy the term “wife sharing” because that’s what it is (to us) and to this end, I like to build my own relationship with her boyfriend too. Not so much sexually, although that has happened, but more understanding his needs and what he likes about her and how he feels about her. We love knowing she excites him as much as she does me. We love hearing his fantasies that maybe she has inspired. What we love most is knowing he can give her some of the things I’m not able to and that just adds another dimension to our marriage that otherwise we would never experience.
My biggest turn on though, is how she feels about him and what he does for her.
To that end he has to understand our relationship too and respect it and us for what we give him and him us……the chance to share my wife, the person I love, for him to share in our marriage and for him to share himself with us. All quite confusing. Easier if just said we all share each other.
I could go on and I’m sure I have much more to say, but that’s the basics for us……I think?

That is the beauty of these kind of relationships. They evolve to fit what the couple needs and wants. As the other guy, I only had two relationships that turned into boyfriend types. Most were one-offs, though I had one that turned into almost a throuple relationship, because we found out several weeks in that the husband was a bi bottom, as his wife said he was curious and asked if I would do him. She and I decided that one night a week would be for his pleasure. It ended when I got transferred overseas.

 

[Str4ng3rth4nf1ct1on]

That is the beauty of these kind of relationships. They evolve to fit what the couple needs and wants. As the other guy, I only had two relationships that turned into boyfriend types. Most were one-offs, though I had one that turned into almost a throuple relationship, because we found out several weeks in that the husband was a bi bottom, as his wife said he was curious and asked if I would do him. She and I decided that one night a week would be for his pleasure. It ended when I got transferred overseas.

Couldn’t agree more. We all like what we like and although we’ve had a small number of one offs, we much prefer it when the “other” man is more than just a cock. We like something a bit more emotionally connected I guess. Plus, the truth is, it‘s hard to find a decent guy so when we do we want to hold onto him

 

[Krigirl1233]

With my own stories - which are mostly in this genre - I like to explore as many scenarios and aspects as I can. It is interesting how many people will make negative comments on a story based upon what they think of the certain characters, especially the main character. I'm exploring a theme and a character, not advocating for them or holding them up as examples to follow. It seems that we have gotten so used to a certain type of narrative that we need to see everything balance out in the end.

Well said.

 

[betabrad]

Being a cuckold is my number 1 fantasy. Having problems with E.D. i know that I'm probably just destined to be in a cuckold relationship anyway and I'm fine with that. I've seen a doctor and it didn't really help.

I guess its fortunate that it is a real turn on for me and I would love to lick a woman's cum filled pussy after she's been with another man. I just believe that a woman needs good sex and if i'm not able to provide it then its natural that she finds that with another man. I also just don't think a woman would stay in a relationship with me if I wasn't willing to let her be with another man. Then again, i'm not sure even with an open relationship if a woman would get involved with a man who couldn't please her in bed.

 

[UtilityCurve]

In general sex can be good for older people. I think the old use it or lose adage applies and for a woman at least, it is good to know that someone would like to have sex with her. Someone besides her husband. I will say that from what I read and have seen, it is harder for older men to find partners than it is for older women. I guess the laws of supply and demand.

Can be? Every doctor, nurse and therapist who has breached the subject with me (almost always a female) insists that absent a heart condition (usually him) or discomfort (usually her), sex is not only the best way to make my remaining years enjoyable, but actually ADD to that number!

Which is so sensible, we overlook it: The parts are there and if they are serviceable, why would we want them to atrophy? Likewise, is there any reason to suspect that older brains wouldn't benefit from the same endorphin rushes they did when we were young?

It is totally understandable that women would appreciate nonhusband attention/notice. Your appearance and sex appeal was important throughout your lives. For men, I think it much more the reassurance that maybe, just maybe, they won't get "cut off" before we dirt-nap. We remember well the days before we were sexually active and have NO wish to repeat them.

It is true that men have more difficulty finding partners, but this is merely an exacerbation of a phenomenon we have experienced since puberty. As I once told my wife, going home alone from a bar is always a choice for a woman and a likelihood for a man.

Which is kinda weird, because the demographics of mortality make men relatively scarcer as the years pass and I can tell you that ever since I studied microeconomics in the Dark Ages, scarcity is presumed to increase perceived value all else being equal.

Time was I chuckled at the stories of haremsful of women throwing themselves at the few(er) men in the retirement home. Unfortunately, this appears to be an urban legend, unless it applies solely to assisted care facility living. (Sigh.)

The market is a cold, unfeeling arena.

 

[UtilityCurve]

The premise that if her husband was somehow "man enough" she would never desire another man is fundamentally flawed.

Which is, I think, the mirror image of the upset some women feel when they are confronted by the fact that their BF's or husbands use pornography and masturbate.

"Am I not enough for you?"

 

[Islander55]

Can be? Every doctor, nurse and therapist who has breached the subject with me (almost always a female) insists that absent a heart condition (usually him) or discomfort (usually her), sex is not only the best way to make my remaining years enjoyable, but actually ADD to that number!

Which is so sensible, we overlook it: The parts are there and if they are serviceable, why would we want them to atrophy? Likewise, is there any reason to suspect that older brains wouldn't benefit from the same endorphin rushes they did when we were young?

It is totally understandable that women would appreciate nonhusband attention/notice. Your appearance and sex appeal was important throughout your lives. For men, I think it much more the reassurance that maybe, just maybe, they won't get "cut off" before we dirt-nap. We remember well the days before we were sexually active and have NO wish to repeat them.

It is true that men have more difficulty finding partners, but this is merely an exacerbation of a phenomenon we have experienced since puberty. As I once told my wife, going home alone from a bar is always a choice for a woman and a likelihood for a man.

Which is kinda weird, because the demographics of mortality make men relatively scarcer as the years pass and I can tell you that ever since I studied microeconomics in the Dark Ages, scarcity is presumed to increase perceived value all else being equal.

Time was I chuckled at the stories of haremsful of women throwing themselves at the few(er) men in the retirement home. Unfortunately, this appears to be an urban legend, unless it applies solely to assisted care facility living. (Sigh.)

The market is a cold, unfeeling arena.

I get the feeling without any proof to back it up that a number of older women simple move on to something else. Perhaps a hobby, grandchildren or religion. I think women may find this easier to do than most men. Not sure of the reason but I would suspect marital issues or health issues and she is not willing to get into a promiscuous lifestyle. I have not discussed this issue with many women but just from hints and observation of friends and neighbors. We do live in a 55+ community so my neighbors are older.

 

[UtilityCurve]

We do live in a 55+ community so my neighbors are older.

Fishing in a stocked pond is cheating.

The old joke was that the best way to eliminate a woman's sex drive (or in another telling, her willingness to let a man come in her mouth and/or swallow) was to put a wedding ring on her.

In truth, her children having her grandchildren is!

 

[Islander55]

Fishing in a stocked pond is cheating.

The old joke was that the best way to eliminate a woman's sex drive (or in another telling, her willingness to let a man come in her mouth and/or swallow) was to put a wedding ring on her.

In truth, her children having her grandchildren is!

I really think that the lack of sex in some marriages is not really about sex but about the relationship itself. I don't think I was any less willing once I got married but there are many things that can interfere with sex. I think we did pretty well with those issues but probably not as well as we could have. I don't have any grandchildren and if I did, I suspect they would take up some of my time but I am pretty sure I would still be horny and willing for much of the time.

 

[bjlatx]

My wife fucked a new guy last night and they had a great time. He’s going to become a regular now. She will have 4 guys that she fucks on a regular basis now. She’s already got something setup with her favorite for Sunday.

 

[policywank]

Which is, I think, the mirror image of the upset some women feel when they are confronted by the fact that their BF's or husbands use pornography and masturbate.

"Am I not enough for you?"

Yes I think that is correct.

My husband is a cuckold in that he does not have sex with other women, but he enjoys pornography and strippers. I have no problem with that.

 

[Islander55]

Yes I think that is correct.

My husband is a cuckold in that he does not have sex with other women, but he enjoys pornography and strippers. I have no problem with that.

It seems that he is very much of a voyeur so enjoys seeing other naked women but also enjoy seeing or knowing that you are having sex with other men.

 

[policywank]

It seems that he is very much of a voyeur so enjoys seeing other naked women but also enjoy seeing or knowing that you are having sex with other men.

Yes, I think that you are correct. He does enjoy those things.

It is interesting to reflect on how much of that came about because it is in his nature versus circumstance. The desire to see naked women is presumably fairly innate. But the desire to see and know about me having sex with other men is something that developed over time. Was it always there and perhaps suppressed by societal expectations when he was younger or did it develop over time?

There was a time when our marriage was open. Like many men, the prospect of being able to be with other women was tantalizing to him but the reality of it was different for him than it is for me. If he'd had sexual opportunities comparable to mine would he have focussed more on that or was he destined to become the voyeur that he is in any event?

I think a bit of both. He had sexual opportunity, but it was less than what I had and he quickly decided that it just wasn't that compelling. Maybe if women had been throwing themselves at him like a male fantasy it would be different. But he did readily adapt to the role of voyeur and from what he says it feels very natural to him.

 

[Str4ng3rth4nf1ct1on]

Yes, I think that you are correct. He does enjoy those things.

It is interesting to reflect on how much of that came about because it is in his nature versus circumstance. The desire to see naked women is presumably fairly innate. But the desire to see and know about me having sex with other men is something that developed over time. Was it always there and perhaps suppressed by societal expectations when he was younger or did it develop over time?

There was a time when our marriage was open. Like many men, the prospect of being able to be with other women was tantalizing to him but the reality of it was different for him than it is for me. If he'd had sexual opportunities comparable to mine would he have focussed more on that or was he destined to become the voyeur that he is in any event?

I think a bit of both. He had sexual opportunity, but it was less than what I had and he quickly decided that it just wasn't that compelling. Maybe if women had been throwing themselves at him like a male fantasy it would be different. But he did readily adapt to the role of voyeur and from what he says it feels very natural to him.

As a fully committed cuckold, I believe we are born that way. I have had many opportunities for sex with other women during our marriage and I am definitely voyeuristic, but there is nothing, absolutely nothing that compares to seeing or knowing my wife is having sex with another man. Even if I did end up having sex with another woman I know it wouldn’t compare to what I have with my wife, so I just don’t feel the need to act on it.
She is everything to me and I don’t need another woman…….

 

[CuttingEdge]

I think a bit of both. He had sexual opportunity, but it was less than what I had and he quickly decided that it just wasn't that compelling. Maybe if women had been throwing themselves at him like a male fantasy it would be different. But he did readily adapt to the role of voyeur and from what he says it feels very natural to him.

I am not sure really.

I know when I was dating a few years ago, I was shocked at how the dating world had really changed. There was a disproportionate amount of ladies looking for relationships then men, but most were looking for one night stands too. It would seem like a dream come true for a man, and especially after having a long term marriage. But it was just not for me, and I suspect for your husband as well.

I am sure personality has a lot to do with it, but shallow, impersonal sex has no interest for me. To know what a lady likes, and then really give that to her, is what I love, but that takes getting to know her. To some degree, sharing my wife played into that. I understand her needs are more varied and different, and to be hit on by another man, and know our marriage would be intact even if she gave in to her advances, let her be herself without fear or shame.

From my end of things, I hope the other man enjoys the pleasures of my wife, but I also kind of feel sorry for him because he is being played. He thinks his smooth-talk is making this married lady a conquest, but really she is using him to break up monogamous sex. All is not what it seems. I appreciate having the freedom to have sex with another woman, but it is not what I truly want. I am more turned on by my wife getting what she really wants even if it is from another man. I am confident enough to know that she will take care of my sexual needs, and that delayed gratification is also intense gratification. As a married couple, we share a life together that is entirely based on sex, while with him, it is just a shallow one night stand. I have no reason to be jealous of that... nor want that with another lady.