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JoeCentralNY said:
I just joined this forum today. It looks awesome, some great stories, info, ideas, etc.

Here's a question I've had for some time. Sorry it's kind of long but I want to give some background information...............

When my wife I were dating, she was very conservative sexually. She had one other partner that she had intercourse with, and had fooled around with a couple other guys. No oral, handjobs were the furthest.

Almost 9 years ago we got married. She enjoyed sex and would give me oral sex often enough.

A couple years into our marriage we started watching porn together occasionally. Still, same sexual activities. Sex was great, but nothing wild or crazy. I remember once we had conversation and the word dildo came up and she was completely turned off. Actually, I didn't know why women would use them either.


About 4 yrs ago, as time went on, I wanted to do more stuff with her sexually. She started enjoying me cumming on her chest at times. She also enjoyed me rubbing near (but not in) her butthole during foreplay.


I developed the desire, a strong desire, to have a mfm with my wife around a year and a half ago. I noticed that when we watched porn the MFM scenes got her very, very wet. I asked her how she could watch DP when she hates anal and fast forward thru all the things she doesn't like , such as anal sex or lesbian scenes. She said that when a girl is having sex with two guys its the girls reaction that she likes. She also liked watching scenes where one guy is getting a bj and the other is having sex with the girl at the same time.

Over the past two year, there's been more changes. She was having difficult pregnancy with our second child (everything turned out great )but we were unable to have sex for a while do to the circumstances. I thought using a dildo instead of having a real life third party may help. I told her how I'd love to see a dildo inside her while she gives me a blowjob. Within a day or two she had a dream about just that! I was really amazed. During the next week or so, she had several similar dreams, one where the dildo was on the bed "near her butt" as she said, she was lying on her back, and I was having sex with her. During this time, she also let me cum on her face a few times. She didn't totally love it, but was ok with it. Although she has NEVER let me cum in her mouth, EVER, she now gives me oral virtually every time we have foreplay and she says giving me oral puts her in the mood.

Just this past July, after looking together online we bought a dildo and used it on her for sex while she gives me oral sex. We used it probably it 15 times or so and she really enjoys it.

All of these changes are really exciting. I know she's made a lot of progress but most important is our relationship and family. I want to be open and honest....BUT......If I had told her I wanted to use a dildo on her, or her to use one, and I said this to her 5 yrs ago she would have thought me to be insane. So I don't want to be too pushy or direct about mfm just yet. She's gotten so much more relaxed but i dont want to push my luck, either.
I guess I've evolved a lot too. 10 yrs ago I would have gotten SO mad if say she went and saw male strippers. Now, I'd be totally cool with it. Physically, I'm in very muscular shape so the body is no threat.

I bought a few more porn dvd's last week. She really liked the ones we watched so far. Telling me how she "liked the three" meaning mfm threesome scenes. And she got incredibly wet during it.

Is their any mfm potential here?

If so, how do I proceed? She actually enjoys giving handjobs so perhaps a "soft mfm" situation would be best at first. As much as I enjoy the thought of her playing with another guy while I have sex with her, it seems like she gets really into watching threesomes on videos. I just dont know what she would think of it in real life, if it would be too "naughty" for her, at least for now.

Thanks for your help and advice.

Joe
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Sounds a lot like how we got started,keep watching vids with her and talk to her while playing with her say things like doesn't that look great,that looks fun,don't you secretly wish that was you,etc. Then while having sex with her maybe mention the vid scenes saying stuff like wouldn't it be hot if we were doing the stuff in the vids,or maybe use the dildo on her pussy as she sucks you and say don't you wish that was a real cock in your pussy and guage her reactions.Then afterwards talk to her about maybe adding a third once.
 
sounds like you on your way to fun...just take it slow....I know, it's been slow. She will come around..mine did!
 
rida said:
It sounds like you have been able to find the way to make your wife comfortable exploring new things with you. Good for you! The 3some is going to be just another step.

As KK said, do not push and follow her lead.

Hubby has been talking about 3some for as far back I can remember, but we are only now planning on it. As a first step I started dating other men on my own. That gave us both proof that we are really ok with me being sexual with other men. And now I am seeing our 3some partner on my own, just so that we both can be comfortable with each other, before adding Hubby to the mix.

Regarding anal sex, I do not think it is mandatory for the 3some. If she is OK with oral, you can have vaginal & oral at the same time. Or, as you said a soft 3some where she uses her hands on you or the other guy.

Anyway, good luck! Mention to her that you think it would be HOT to have a MFM 3some with her and a hot guy, ask her what position she would like to try out and where she would want you to be and just go from there. It might take only few weeks or it might take few years or forever, but it still will be very exciting to talk about the what if scenario while having sex.

:)
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Why do you have to live so far away? *smiles*
 
rida said:
*chuckle* are you following me around??? :rolleyes:

and I am not THAT far away ... still on the same planet afterall :D
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Actually I found this thread all by myself, and then found that you had posted . . .

I guess we are on the same planet, I am interested in MMF too.
 
In Anticipation said:
Actually I found this thread all by myself, and then found that you had posted . . .

I guess we are on the same planet, I am interested in MMF too.
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I see :)

So how is your plan for a MMF proceeding? Almost there?
 
rida said:
LOL! Still warming up the Mrs?

Be patient ... Hubby had to wait almost 12 years for getting to this point.
You know ... women like foreplay to last ... forever :eek:

:rose:
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Actually she's keen on me doing the MM but doesn't want to be there, just have me tell her about it later . . . are you looking for that sort of interaction too?
 
In Anticipation said:
Actually she's keen on me doing the MM but doesn't want to be there, just have me tell her about it later . . . are you looking for that sort of interaction too?
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Actually, our is, to be precise, a MFM and not a MMF. Hubby has no interest in a MM interaction.

How does she feels about MM in general? Does she mind watching that kind of porn? Personally, I don't care about it, but if my partner would want to, I guess I would have no problem being there.

Mmmmm .... totally different issues thou :rose:
 
rida said:
Actually, our is, to be precise, a MFM and not a MMF. Hubby has no interest in a MM interaction.

How does she feels about MM in general? Does she mind watching that kind of porn? Personally, I don't care about it, but if my partner would want to, I guess I would have no problem being there.

Mmmmm .... totally different issues thou :rose:
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We don't watch porn, well I do a bit. I'm interested in arousing a woman, and as a side issue I would like to give a blow job, just to see what it feels like. I would just love a female audience for that.

We are a bit time challenged, so focus on the things we like to do together at the moment. Maybe when we have a bit more time we'll explore a few more things.

I think FMF is more likely at the moment, she's interested in sharing me . . .
 
In Anticipation said:
We don't watch porn, well I do a bit. I'm interested in arousing a woman, and as a side issue I would like to give a blow job, just to see what it feels like. I would just love a female audience for that.

We are a bit time challenged, so focus on the things we like to do together at the moment. Maybe when we have a bit more time we'll explore a few more things.

I think FMF is more likely at the moment, she's interested in sharing me . . .
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I totally can relate with the time issue. Also, it is much easier here to plan a date for one of us, time wise, that for the two of us.

As for the FMF ... have fun :D
 
I'm just a bit worried, wife found stuff I posted about mfm online and chat wear I told an online friend that i'd love to take my wife to a swingers club. She questioned me, but hasn't said anything since.

I hope this didn't screw things up. I'm thinking of just relaxing and letting her be in the drivers seat in the near future.
 
Something to consider...

I have heard that i can permently screw up a relationship... So just consider the risk, however slight it maybe. Sorry just felt like i had to mention it.:(
 
My wife mentioned to me last night that she would love to enjoy a MFM threesome soon. This usually happens 5 or 6 times a year. Is there anyone close to us in East Texas that is interested?
 
welikeu said:
My wife mentioned to me last night that she would love to enjoy a MFM threesome soon. This usually happens 5 or 6 times a year. Is there anyone close to us in East Texas that is interested?
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interested..need more info :)
 
you lucky man......i am afraid that i am in s.c.......have the two of you played out this fantasy online with anyone yet? b.
 
JackintheOCCA said:
I have heard that i can permently screw up a relationship... So just consider the risk, however slight it maybe. Sorry just felt like i had to mention it.:(
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Like with everything, if you are looking for an outside element to FIX an existing problem in a relationship, the fix is going to create additional problems and not fix anything.

Also, if one of the two partners is eager to experience the 3some but the other is only going along not to upset the partner, chances are that problems might arise (than again the originally reluctant partner might discover that he/she likes the 3some and the original suggesting one might change his/her mind ...).

At any rate, if both partners are sure in their relationship with each other, talk about it beforehand, and both want to experience it, I don't see why it should screw up a relationship.

Hubby and I just had our first 3some experience. It was incredibly sweet and mind blowing. It surely helped that I really like the guy we had it with, have seen him alone few times, and will probably keep on seeing him on my own. It also helps that both Hubby and I are open to the possibility of having another emotional relationship.

At any rate, I can tell you that the experience has been great, not only from a physical point of view. Both Hubby and I have learned new things about each other, and love each other a little bit more (if possible) because of it.

Ultimately, the secret is: communicate, communicate, communicate. And talk out what if scenarios, no matter how far fetched or improbable.

:)
 
I just wanted to thank you for this post my Dh and I read this together it is the same with us just roles reversed and after reading this it got him so turned on thinking about it he said that after we play around with a dildo some and got comfortable that yes he would most likely do it with me and I am so excited I have always wanted this so THANK YOU sooo much!! I am sure she will come to it offer it to her and let it marinate in her mind I bet one day out of the blue she will say yes GL!! KUP!!

BTW this thread also made dh fuck me like he hasnt in a LONG time!!!
 
welikeu said:
My wife mentioned to me last night that she would love to enjoy a MFM threesome soon. This usually happens 5 or 6 times a year. Is there anyone close to us in East Texas that is interested?
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While "from" Texas, am too far away now, but would love to find a couple that is as open as you folks. Plus, have the other "down-side" of being "Mature" - i.e. old (late 50s/early 60s is old to some) lol

Cheers
 
rida said:
Ultimately, the secret is: communicate, communicate, communicate. And talk out what if scenarios, no matter how far fetched or improbable.

:)
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This is so important. I initiated the conversation regarding swingers/3-4somes with my husband. At first he was a bit reluctant but I researched and researched and we communicate about everything. Now we will be attending our first swingers party soon. :D


Talk to your wife about your research. Let her know what you want and she will let you know what she wants. Talk about what you expect out of the experience and let her share her thoughts as well. It may take some time but you really just need to sit her down and let it all out. You will both feel so much better about it all and you both will get more excited.

Good luck!
 
pink69corset said:
I just wanted to thank you for this post my Dh and I read this together it is the same with us just roles reversed and after reading this it got him so turned on thinking about it he said that after we play around with a dildo some and got comfortable that yes he would most likely do it with me and I am so excited I have always wanted this so THANK YOU sooo much!! I am sure she will come to it offer it to her and let it marinate in her mind I bet one day out of the blue she will say yes GL!! KUP!!

BTW this thread also made dh fuck me like he hasnt in a LONG time!!!
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Glad to hear it. Have fun! :D
 
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