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How to get over fear of first cumshot in mouth?

It won't help the OP get over their cumshot fear but I've also have sigs turned off, there's just too many that make my head hurt.
 
I may never get to cum in my wife's mouth, but knowing so many of you will never have to suffer sigs again-- I think I have helped make the world a better, happier place.
 
CuriousThroat2 said:
I may never get to cum in my wife's mouth, but knowing so many of you will never have to suffer sigs again-- I think I have helped make the world a better, happier place.
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As a woman that loves swallowing cum, thank you for allowing us to sort this signature mess. :rose:
 
CuriousThroat2 said:
I may never get to cum in my wife's mouth, but knowing so many of you will never have to suffer sigs again-- I think I have helped make the world a better, happier place.
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Have you turned sigs off? Maybe telling your wife that you have could help her overcome her fear.
 
I saw a movie once where a young man was getting a BJ from an older woman. The young man asked, "Can I cum in your mouth?"

The woman shook her head and said "no."

The man asked, "When will I be old enough to cum in a woman's mouth?"

She answered: "When you're old enough not to ask."

Sage advice.
 
orinocoflow said:
Have you turned sigs off? Maybe telling your wife that you have could help her overcome her fear.
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You're right. She has had an irrational fear of sigs, ever since one time someone sig'd her without asking, and it made her physically ill.
 
swingerjoe said:
I saw a movie once where a young man was getting a BJ from an older woman. The young man asked, "Can I cum in your mouth?"

The woman shook her head and said "no."

The man asked, "When will I be old enough to cum in a woman's mouth?"

She answered: "When you're old enough not to ask."

Sage advice.
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I saw a movie once where a young man was getting a BK from an older woman. The young man told her, "I'm going to cum in your slut mouth."

The woman shook her head and said "no please cum on my slut face"

The man asked "When will I be old enough to cum in a woman's mouth?"

She answered: "I need your cum all over my Mommy skin I promise to lick it up for my good boy."

...

I think we watch different movies.
 
swingerjoe said:
I saw a movie once where a young man was getting a BJ from an older woman. The young man asked, "Can I cum in your mouth?"

The woman shook her head and said "no."

The man asked, "When will I be old enough to cum in a woman's mouth?"

She answered: "When you're old enough not to ask."

Sage advice.
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One more myth perpetrated by porn. :rolleyes:

Terrible advice! If a woman doesn't give you permission, DO NOT do it, at least if you value your cock being attached to your body or the prospect of ever having a relationship with this particular woman again.

If you don't respect your partner, you don't deserve to have one, stay in your mother's basement masturbating to the dryer sheets.
 
Sounds like my wife

Occasionally if I am lucky enough to have her working on my cock the only thing to do is to try to hide the fact that you are going to cum and just do it. She might be just a bit "gun shy" for some time after but at least you gave her a squirt.

About the divorce, Thought about it but I would just rather keep my relationship with "my other wife" who will take a load with out complaining and afterward come up to my face and share it! YUM!
 
CuriousThroat2 said:
Asking for a friend's wife. (The friend just happens to look, talk, act and sound exactly like me, and is also me).

Anyways-- the wife in question whoever she may be-- has never given a blowjob to completion before. She's willing to go down on me, but stops right before. I'd really love to cum in her mouth, but she's terrified. Her points are:

1) She hasn't liked the taste of the precum so far, and is afraid of the taste of a mouthful
2) She thinks she'll gag when it happens and maybe throw up
3) Or the mouth full of it will do the same
4) Because that's her mindset, the very thought of the act repulses her, and if she went though with it, is afraid the evening will end right there with her throwing up, and not wanting to do anything sexy for a long time.

I do completely understand her points, don't want to push her into anything she finds repulsive, and fully admit the only reason to do it is for my benefit. HOWEVER, I feel that she's built it up in her head as such a horrific thing that she'll hate, that she's pre-biased herself, and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

But I can't think of any way of helping her to see beyond it. I can't think of any "halfway point" or "baby steps" one could take. You either cum in her mouth or not. Surely it can't be that binary, but I don't know what the in between steps are.

I mean, for me, I would just do it (and would love to). It isn't a waste product. It isn't poisonous or bacteria ridden. I don't taste awful as far as I can judge. It seems to me like it'd be ten seconds of maybe having a not perfect taste in your mouth, certainly less salty than most soups on the market-- a swallow, a smile, and then done-- not to mention I'd be willing to do anything in return for her.

And I'd also be willing to accept that after she tries it once or twice, if it is a truly horrendous experience for her, I wouldn't ask her again. But she has never even tried it yet, and I think that's the worst part of all. Not trying.

So, any advice? How to address her "phobia"? How to build her up to the experience? Or am I completely off base, and even wanting her to try is wrong?
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The most sensitive taste buds are on mostly on the front of the tongue with fewer toward the rear of the tongue. When you cum, you are going to have to cum deeper in her mouth, but not deep enough to trigger her gag reflex. When you ejaculate, she is going to have to swallow it as it come out and not let it flow forward in her mouth. And for her first time, she is going to have to get in her mindset that it is just cum and not something that will harm her. Also, if she keeps her tongue pressed/wrapped against the bottom of your cock, she can block off her taste buds and taste almost nothing.

You are going to have to be patient and work with her on this. She is your wife and she wants to please her husband, but she doesn't want to humiliate herself doing it. Together, the two of you, read how to give proper oral sex. Help her understand how to do this without gagging herself, and most of all, make her feel important to you. Knowledge and compassion are powerful things.

Also, she is less likely to pay attention to the taste if she is in the middle of orgasm herself. For her first time, 69 with her and make sure she is in ecstasy when you cum. Have her on top, so if things go wrong and she can't handle the taste at all, she can get up and spit it out. And if things go very wrong and she does throw up, be very compassionate and help her clean up the mess.

To help a woman get past her hang-ups, a man has to be patient and caring. Some women don't respond well to being pushed, but you can lead them almost anywhere.

Oh and BTW, I assume you are giving her oral yourself. It would be rude to ask her to do what you won't.

And another thing: She may have had a bad experience with oral sex before you met her, and you may have more to overcome than you think.
 
Harold_Hill said:
You are going to have to be patient and work with her on this. She is your wife and she wants to please her husband, but she doesn't want to humiliate herself doing it. Together, the two of you, read how to give proper oral sex. Help her understand how to do this without gagging herself, and most of all, make her feel important to you. Knowledge and compassion are powerful things.
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She does love to research and learn. I like the idea of doing some reading together. I'm sure there's much better guides on how to give a blowjob than I can describe.

Harold_Hill said:
Also, she is less likely to pay attention to the taste if she is in the middle of orgasm herself. For her first time, 69 with her and make sure she is in ecstasy when you cum. Have her on top, so if things go wrong and she can't handle the taste at all, she can get up and spit it out. And if things go very wrong and she does throw up, be very compassionate and help her clean up the mess.
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Good idea. She isn't really into receiving oral herself, but is falling in love with a vibrator on her clit. Same idea. =)

Harold_Hill said:
And another thing: She may have had a bad experience with oral sex before you met her, and you may have more to overcome than you think.
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At the very least, I know that isn't the fact. She was a virgin when met. I'm the first man she was ever with beyond a kiss or two. Our entire sex life together has been a learning experience for her. =)
 
I suggest you have marathon hand-sex with her, long enough for you to cum twice in her hands. She will see the amount of cum from your second orgasm is far less than the first time because of the lack of 'recovery time'. Perhaps the lesser amount of cum will be small enough to convince her to continue the marathon and blow you to completion.

Don't feel all alone. Years ago I had a girlfriend who refused to blow me and her reason follows: because I don't want to drown ... so, I laughed out loud and that ended our relationship on the spot. No loss.
 
NippleMuncher said:
One more myth perpetrated by porn. :rolleyes:

Terrible advice! If a woman doesn't give you permission, DO NOT do it, at least if you value your cock being attached to your body or the prospect of ever having a relationship with this particular woman again.

If you don't respect your partner, you don't deserve to have one, stay in your mother's basement masturbating to the dryer sheets.
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And if someone came on my face without me letting them know this is what I'm into, I'd kick the living life out of them. I had a man spunk in his hands and show me while we were talking (well I was talking and eating :rolleyes:) Not very romantic, hot, or respectful, and slightly traumatizing. Now I know why I want men to fuck in masks. They disgust me sometimes!
 
Does she have to swallow? What's wrong with, say, just taking it in her mouth for a few seconds, and then dribbling it out over your cock? (In a surprised kind of way, if that makes sense.)
 
GrrlFriday said:
Does she have to swallow? What's wrong with, say, just taking it in her mouth for a few seconds, and then dribbling it out over your cock? (In a surprised kind of way, if that makes sense.)
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seems legit. :)
 
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pete said:
seems legit. :)
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You seem like a really nice guy just to ask advice shows that
Be very patient , try the taste test on Her fingers after u have cum either on her tits or belly .
Don't ever force the issue, if she realises what it means to u , then I'm sure she will do her best to accommodate u.
Force the issue and the game is lost . Good luck
 
As others have suggested, open and honest communication goes along way.

I was with someone new recently, and during our first encounter, she had me in her mouth and was getting me very close to cumming. I moved her off and told her I wanted to be inside her the first time and we proceeded to have some mind-blowing intercourse. The next day we were discussing our mutual pleasure from the first encounter and I brought up the fact that she nearly brought me to cumming in her mouth and asked if she was open to that. She expressed choking concerns given my size and the expectation of a violent flood, but agreed to give it a try. Beforehand, we talked about my normal volume and projection so she had a good measure of expectation. We also talked about me being very verbal with her during so that she could be prepared when it happened.

She proceeded to give me one of the most loving, passionate, and erotic blowjobs I've ever had in my life, and as agreed, I told her the exact moment of my release. She kept her lips tightly wrapped around my head, sucked every drop into her mouth, and kept me in her mouth after and brought me down gently.

After a few minutes of recovery and cuddling, she proceed to instruct me on everything she wanted me to know about how to use my mouth on her pussy and clit. I happily reciprocated and was justly rewarded by experiencing her having multiple orgasms!

During our initial encounter, if I had been selfish and just blown in her mouth without warning her, or insuring she was into it, it would have ruined any chance for having the insane experiences that followed.
 
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Missmaddy - Speaking as an average male, I'm fairly confident that if you offered, your man would not turn you down.

If you want to sound less "slutty" in expressing your desire to experiment, perhaps say something like, "I've been thinking I might want to try feeling you climax in my mouth. I don't know what to expect, but I'm curious about it. I feel apprehensive asking, but I love you and I trust you -- do you think this is something you might want to try?"

I guarantee before you finish the question, your man will have a tent in his pants.
 
Okay, so I've just received my n-teenth PM about why I blanked out my earlier post on this thread. It was because of the barrage of PMs I received mostly from pervs about what I said before I removed it. I'm new here and still learning.
 
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She is a Keeper!

surf_naked said:
As others have suggested, open and honest communication goes along way.

I was with someone new recently, and during our first encounter, she had me in her mouth and was getting me very close to cumming. I moved her off and told her I wanted to be inside her the first time and we proceeded to have some mind-blowing intercourse. The next day we were discussing our mutual pleasure from the first encounter and I brought up the fact that she nearly brought me to cumming in her mouth and asked if she was open to that. She expressed choking concerns given my size and the expectation of a violent flood, but agreed to give it a try. Beforehand, we talked about my normal volume and projection so she had a good measure of expectation. We also talked about me being very verbal with her during so that she could be prepared when it happened.

She proceeded to give me one of the most loving, passionate, and erotic blowjobs I've ever had in my life, and as agreed, I told her the exact moment of my release. She kept her lips tightly wrapped around my head, sucked every drop into her mouth, and kept me in her mouth after and brought me down gently.

After a few minutes of recovery and cuddling, she proceed to instruct me on everything she wanted me to know about how to use my mouth on her pussy and clit. I happily reciprocated and was justly rewarded by experiencing her having multiple orgasms!

During our initial encounter, if I had been selfish and just blown in her mouth without warning her, or insuring she was into it, it would have ruined any chance for having the insane experiences that followed.
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I know that many women who have commented here indicate that the CIM is her decision and to some extent she is correct, I do think that true adoration and love pretty much require some involvement between her mouth and ejaculate.

Some are "spitters" and do it well. They hold their tongue against the tip and the result is some nice drips down her chin.

I have commented before on this topic. Once during a conversation about it, my wife said "it is like someone blowing their nose into your mouth". She went on to say that it isn't going to happen with her and if I wanted to have it happen, I would have to find someone else. I did. Also I recommend the purchase and use of a Tenga egg. Yes it is do it yourself, or I suppose she could help, but it is the best simulation toy out there.
 
Bigspurt said:
Once during a conversation about it, my wife said "it is like someone blowing their nose into your mouth".
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I think this is the real issue. Once a person attains a strong emotional response to something it is very hard to get that person to think otherwise. It's why we vote along party lines, eat when we're not hungry, and "hate" certain types of music. It seems to me the only way to change this sort of conviction is through patient discussion and education, but it will require her to have an open mind. If she is not willing to hear it, I don't think there is much you can do, other than continue to make offers she can't refuse, like maybe, "If you'll talk about it, I'll give you a 60-minute massage." If she refuses your offer, warm up your hands and send me a PM. It will be difficult, but I'll make the best of it and take her place. :D
 
I'm wondering how this guy ever got to the point where this person was his wife. If this was so important to him then how did he make it through the dating rituals all the way through marriage and now, all of a sudden, this is so important to him. He had sampled the goods before signing on the dotted line and now all of a sudden he hopes to get what he never got before. He was already on notice before saying "I do". You can always try but so far it doesn't look good for his side.
 
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