MeekMe
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This lady gets what I'm saying! The fact that so many people I've encountered aren't even honest enough, or string enough to talk to their loved one about it is what gets me. "Oh, she'd never understand" how would you know if you didn't ask?!
We are all on the same site ABOUT KINKS! It's odd to me that you don't think sex is extremely important. I'm single because I am not in need of a relationship, I would rather be single than with an unsuited match. Just because someone is perfect on paper it doesn't mean I want to spend my life with them. Until I meet that person or perhaps reconnect at a better time I shall remain single. My question was and remains to be one of curiosity, some people have answered the rest have "picked on me" ( as stated by a gentleman above). If you are on a site focused on kink it leads me to believe it is important to you. I'm just curious as to why so many I've encountered are not comfortable sharing with their mates. It's one thing to meet someone that blows you away and hen compromise because that is what makes you happy, it's quite another to be with someone that you Are not happy with and seek outside satisfaction. That's what I'm talking about. The men who have complained to me about their vanilla relationships, where sex is very important to them and they're not getting it. Don't judge me because sex is a big factor for me just as I won't judge you if it isn't. I lead my life honestly, that's what is important to me. Maybe it's weird that I don't need a long term relationship, but if I do meet someone and when I do engage in sexual acts with anyone I'm honest about what I like and I ask them to be with me. I've said no to certain things just like I've been said no to.
I'll say what's been said before: every situation is different. You make it sound like everyone has the ability to bring their kink out.
A good example of this would be a woman who came to lit for advice. She simply wanted to know how to take care of her sexual needs because she couldn't go to her husband. Many people encouraged her to talk to her husband in hopes that they could share some great sex.
She appreciated the encouraging but revealed it just wasn't going to work. She had tried to tempt him and get him to do something she felt wasn't too bad, she just gave him the hint that he could pull her hair. His responses, "you are my wife, not a whore."
When everyone had encouraged her to speak with him they hadn't known her background. Her marriage was arranged and culturally what she wanted wasn't right. Divorce wasn't an acceptable answer, either. She admitted he was a wonderful father and husband and the only thing that wasn't satifying was their sex life.
You can live however you want and like what you like, I never knocked it. I simply stated my own opinion . As for sex, I never said it was completely unimportant, I simply think it's not the most important. At some point my sex drive may dissappear completely and I don't want to be stuck with someone whom I can't even have a descent conversation with.
I also wouldn't tell someone to divorce their spouse in persuit of a selfish desire when life brings about different/difficult situations.