My girlfriend and I have been together for about three years. The sex has always been amazing, and our sexual histories before we knew each other also were filled with amazing sex. She has always been bisexual and always has craved being a sub.
In the past few years, we have explored deeper into true dom/sub sex, starting out with some of the superficialities, such as using toys, restraints, ddlg talk, etc. Recently, this has started to transition into more of the essentials of dom/sub sex where energy is flowing from the dom to the sub and then back to the dom.
About a month ago, we had a threesome which started that day with her and another girl. I had set this up with complete knowledge and agreement of all.
What happened has me scratching my head. To summarize, the girl voiced her strong desire to dom my girlfriend, and that happened with amazing results.
Since then, sex with my girlfriend has continued to progress further down the road to dom/sub sex, but the experience is much closer to vanilla sex with some superficial accoutrements, like a whip here and there and rope, ball-gag, etc. The emotional energy exchange just doesn’t happen.
We have talked about this, using her experience with the other girl as an interesting landmark, but the conversations have been confusing. She has said that her experience with me is “real,” and that is why it is calm, whereas her experience with the girl was “not real,” exaggerated, self-loathing, her trying to please the other girl, not that great, etc. At other times, she says that the girl “ravished” her, would not take “no” for an answer, and that my girlfriend craves that.
By the way, I realized at one point that my home surveillance system captured audio of what happened with the other girl, and the sounds that my girlfriend made were FANTASTIC. I have never heard anything like that from any human, especially for one and a half hours straight. The only thing that comes close is how she sounds about 10 seconds before cumming and about 10 seconds while she is cumming with me.
So, over the past month, we have been having amazing sex, but again it is really more like mutual masturbation without the real dom/sub power transfer/emotions. We have talked about it quite a few times, and she says that what we have is “better,” but then she says that we should try to have what she had with the other girl. I could be fine with either idea, but I can’t figure out which one is true!
Any advice for me (although I really did not formulate a question)?
In the past few years, we have explored deeper into true dom/sub sex, starting out with some of the superficialities, such as using toys, restraints, ddlg talk, etc. Recently, this has started to transition into more of the essentials of dom/sub sex where energy is flowing from the dom to the sub and then back to the dom.
About a month ago, we had a threesome which started that day with her and another girl. I had set this up with complete knowledge and agreement of all.
What happened has me scratching my head. To summarize, the girl voiced her strong desire to dom my girlfriend, and that happened with amazing results.
Since then, sex with my girlfriend has continued to progress further down the road to dom/sub sex, but the experience is much closer to vanilla sex with some superficial accoutrements, like a whip here and there and rope, ball-gag, etc. The emotional energy exchange just doesn’t happen.
We have talked about this, using her experience with the other girl as an interesting landmark, but the conversations have been confusing. She has said that her experience with me is “real,” and that is why it is calm, whereas her experience with the girl was “not real,” exaggerated, self-loathing, her trying to please the other girl, not that great, etc. At other times, she says that the girl “ravished” her, would not take “no” for an answer, and that my girlfriend craves that.
By the way, I realized at one point that my home surveillance system captured audio of what happened with the other girl, and the sounds that my girlfriend made were FANTASTIC. I have never heard anything like that from any human, especially for one and a half hours straight. The only thing that comes close is how she sounds about 10 seconds before cumming and about 10 seconds while she is cumming with me.
So, over the past month, we have been having amazing sex, but again it is really more like mutual masturbation without the real dom/sub power transfer/emotions. We have talked about it quite a few times, and she says that what we have is “better,” but then she says that we should try to have what she had with the other girl. I could be fine with either idea, but I can’t figure out which one is true!
Any advice for me (although I really did not formulate a question)?