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Everyone has their own reasons for staying. For example, I put my daughter's well being far far far above ANYTHING that I could do for myself, including sexually.
As you should, but are you happy? I come from divorced parents and I gotta say the kid knows, oh how I jumped for Joy when they finally split. For two happy seperate parents are better than two sad together parents. I don't know you're situation. If sex is the only compromise and you're not seeking satisfaction outside your marriage then go you!
Yes that is true, but are you happy? Isn't that the goal here on this marble? To learn, love, enjoy, and be genuinely happy. I'm not talking about a romanticized notion of the word I'm talking "wow my life is really good" happy.
You don't know when your time will end, why not strive to have a of you happy? That's the part I don't get. Honesty above all for me.
I think most if you have said basically "I met my mate before I realized my kinks and while they don't share them exactly they are willing to indulge at least a little". This is not what I'm asking. I'm talking about the people I've encountered that are miserable in their sexual lives with their mates, do not bring up their kinks to them, and seek outside stimulation. That is my question.
Why if you are so unhappy with any aspect of your relationship would you stay. In this case the sex. I would rather be single than compromise something that is important to me.
Perfect example; a gentleman I have been sub to and friend to is now in a relationship. The lady does not like toys or kink, he says that's fine but seeks outside stimuli. He cheats. So why stay? Are "we" so scared to be alone? I don't get it. In most if the cases you all have shared I get it, it's been a long time and you have been honest and sharing with your mates it sounds like most are willing to try at least a bit. That's awesome! We obviously change over time.
Read what I wrote, yes we all compromise but I wouldn't compromise the things that are essential to my happiness, the important things. If I met a man or woman who was an avid big game hunter and made it clear that that was something I had to be a part of, I would not further a relationship.
I'm always curious about how/why someone with certain desires would date/marry someone who doesn't fulfill said desires. I think sex is a huge part of any relationship, why be with someone that doesn't enjoy the same kinks you do?
Where does it say that she betrays him?
She is owned by another man. This is a betrayal.
Hm, there is so much more to a relationship. This thread, and your posts in general, all seem to make the point that if one thing is off about the relationship it's pointless and should come to an end.
The way I see it, is if the relationship is great aside from one or two differences that occurred somewhere in the mix of things, it's strange to just dump it. Like a marriage or just a couple in General should just move on when the sex isn't good.
A person being unwilling to tell their SO about their kinks is completely valid. They most likely love that person and fear losing all the great aspects that are important to them. Being kinky is difficult and while I feel one should be honest and communicate in a healthy relationship, I also know how terribly hard that is to do.
I'd say that's for her and her husband to decide.She is owned by another man. This is a betrayal.
This.Man, that is one tall horse. Hope you are wearing a helmet.
Where do I say no compromise?! I say no to compromising on the important things. I feel bad for all if you who think you can't have it all. I have been with men and women who stimulate every part of me, mind, body, heart, everything! Why do you pity me for that?
It seems as though with a few exceptions it is you who is unhappy and perhaps a bit jealous of is that can be honest about our desires outside if a website. I'm not saying that the kink has to be matched completely, just that there is an open line of communication and willingness to try.
I love experimenting, and when it's something I don't like I say so. That's what's so great about being an adult, we get to use our words and figure things out for ourselves.
What I have come across time and time again is men who want to dominate from afar that are married and never even bring their kinks up to their wives. They are scared to, maybe ashamed? I don't know because I'm not them. But it is a turn off to me, I'm open and honest about my life and desire that in a mate.
I know that there is not a cookie cutter "perfect mate" but when I do settle down I am going to make sure that person is open minded, secure, honest, and that we are so comfortable that no topic is taboo between us. Wether things are lived out to full fruition is another story. The most important part is that you are with someone you can talk to , who is willing to try, I know it is for me. And yes, sex is hugely important! Why not aspire to 50 years of amazing conversation, compassion, and fantastic sex?!
As you should, but are you happy? I come from divorced parents and I gotta say the kid knows, oh how I jumped for Joy when they finally split. For two happy seperate parents are better than two sad together parents.
Yes that is true, but are you happy? Isn't that the goal here on this marble? To learn, love, enjoy, and be genuinely happy. I'm not talking about a romanticized notion of the word I'm talking "wow my life is really good" happy.
Not jealous, for sure not jealous.
If you've been with people who apparently had everything you were looking for, why is it past tense? What happened to the people who gave you everything you were looking for? Sounds to me like if you could find even one person who did that, you'd stick to it.
As for the men you keep meeting, I'm sorry you can't seem to find the right guy on the internet. It's a turn off for you, so leave and never return. But don't pretend like you're better than someone because you feel you can say anything you want in a relationship you feel is "adult" and "mature."
I don't believe anyone here was attacking you. It seems that the responses you received weren't what you were looking for so the best you could come up with "You clearly can't understand me and you're jealous you don't have what I have."
Sex is hugely important to you. For me, not so much. For a lot of others they've found other aspects of people that make them happy. Whether someone is ashamed or scared to share certain things with their significant others is their problem and in no way anything to be further shamed about.
Pardon the typos.