Are You Using 12 stages of intimacy in your erotica writing?

KayceeCharles · Oct 24, 2016

The steps are...

1. Eye to body

2. Eye to eye

3. Voice to voice

4. Hand to hand/arm

5. Arm to shoulder

6. Arm to waist or back

7. Mouth to mouth

8. Hand to head

9. Hand to body

10. Mouth to breast

11. Hand to genitals

12. Full intercourse.

If your sex scene didn't have most of these steps, your sex scenes are definitely missing something!

https://jennyhansenauthor.wordpress...ical-intimacy-to-build-tension-in-your-novel/

Handley_Page · Oct 24, 2016

Which can normally be contracted to
Hand in Hand,
Hand in Gland
Gland in Gland.

Or so I was informed a few decades ago.

EverLux · Oct 24, 2016

Wait... How is hand to head more intimate than mouth to mouth?
And where's mouth to genitals?

This list is confused.

Also, I really want to write a story that's eye to eye and nothing else, just to tackle that whole "missing something" theory.

NOIRTRASH · Oct 24, 2016

I use my fund of real sexual encounters as my guide. Don't need a how-to manual.

Leave her with something to remember.

J_R_Ashunwhy · Oct 24, 2016

KayceeCharles said:
5. Arm to shoulder

I just pictured tackling someone...which I guess is intimate, and yeah sure it works for some, but I'm not sure that's needed for most stories.

EverLux said:
Wait... How is hand to head more intimate than mouth to mouth?
And where's mouth to genitals?

This list is confused.

seconded.

lovecraft68 · Oct 24, 2016

Um, hand to head sounds...more like domestic violence than intimacy.

And forget writing, how many people use these steps in real sex?

sr71plt · Oct 24, 2016

Uh, oh. I think I'm missing "arm to shoulder" 63.27 percent of the time. (Just sit down, rev up, and follow your arousal as you write. To hell with formulas.)

NoJo · Oct 24, 2016

My experience is usually

1. Hand to pussy
2. Knee to nuts

lovecraft68 · Oct 24, 2016

NoJo said:
My experience is usually

1. Hand to pussy
2. Knee to nuts

So you're republican is what you're saying?

NoJo · Oct 24, 2016

lovecraft68 said:
So you're republican is what you're saying?

No I'm a commie pinko kike, but I just don't like to waste time on bullshit

EverLux · Oct 24, 2016

NoJo said:
No I'm a commie pinko kike, but I just don't like to waste time on bullshit

I'm almost ashamed to admit that I pulled a similar move at a bar when I was much younger. Only, it was hand to nuts, and it worked out quite well for me.

I'd say alcohol and hormones made me do it, but then I just sound like every frat party predator out there, so... yeah.

NoJo · Oct 25, 2016

EverLux said:
I'm almost ashamed to admit that I pulled a similar move at a bar when I was much younger. Only, it was hand to nuts, and it worked out quite well for me.

I'd say alcohol and hormones made me do it, but then I just sound like every frat party predator out there, so... yeah.

Which bar? I mean the address

SamScribble · Oct 25, 2016

Where's Tab A into Slot B?

EverLux · Oct 25, 2016

SamScribble said:
Where's Tab A into Slot B?

Depends on which tabs and slots you're talking about, I guess.

EverLux · Oct 25, 2016

NoJo said:
Which bar? I mean the address

lol
Sadly, it's closed. But it lives on in many happy memories.

NoJo · Oct 25, 2016

EverLux said:
lol
Sadly, it's closed. But it lives on in many happy memories.

I get pissed off sometimes that women are so fucking demure. I mean everybody knows what goes on in their heads. Hand on balls is perfectly acceptable behaviour afaic

EverLux · Oct 25, 2016

NoJo said:
I get pissed off sometimes that women are so fucking demure. I mean everybody knows what goes on in their heads. Hand on balls is perfectly acceptable behaviour afaic

I honestly can't tell if this is praise or a sarcastic burn. lol

NoJo · Oct 25, 2016

EverLux said:
I honestly can't tell if this is praise or a sarcastic burn. lol

Sorry it was intended as praise, but it passed through a couple of layers of alcohol on its way to publication

lovecraft68 · Oct 25, 2016

NoJo said:
No I'm a commie pinko kike, but I just don't like to waste time on bullshit

Of course you do, if you didn't waste time on bullshit you wouldn't be posting on the forums with the rest of us.

Hypoxia · Oct 25, 2016

KayceeCharles said:
If your sex scene didn't have most of these steps, your sex scenes are definitely missing something!

https://jennyhansenauthor.wordpress...ical-intimacy-to-build-tension-in-your-novel/

Oh fuck, not another rule book.

I think I'll go back to writing propaganda.

Much more straightforward.

TxRad · Oct 25, 2016

12 stages? What happened to the other dozen?

I think there were some shortcuts taken.

lovecraft68 · Oct 25, 2016

TxRad said:
12 stages? What happened to the other dozen?

I think there were some shortcuts taken.

More than twelve you head into Kama Sutra territory....hand to left ankle which is behind the head....

EverLux · Oct 25, 2016

NoJo said:
Sorry it was intended as praise, but it passed through a couple of layers of alcohol on its way to publication

Sarcasm is my native tongue, so I tend to see it in places it doesn't exist.

EverLux · Oct 25, 2016

TxRad said:
12 stages? What happened to the other dozen?

I think there were some shortcuts taken.

lol We're not going for Ikea instruction booklets, here.
Best to leave the in-between steps up to creative interpretation.

TxRad · Oct 25, 2016

EverLux said:
lol We're not going for Ikea instruction booklets, here.
Best to leave the in-between steps up to creative interpretation.

You haven't read many stories on Lit have you?

You would be surprised at the number of readers who don't want 'creative interpretation' and the number who couldn't spell that if their lives depended on it.

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