harry8copeland
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The last line sounds innocuous, and a lot of the time hookups like this can end up not making a difference in the marriage, but a lot of the times it does. For one thing, unless the husband is a total sociopath, he is going to feel guilty about doing this, and it can leave signs his wife will pick up on, often people who have even a fling become distant, angry, a lot of things towards the spouse. Or maybe she herself might feel guilty afterwords, you never know the impact. The thing about cheating is there often is impact even if no one knows about it directly, it comes out in other ways, and it is something for the girl to ponder (and no, I am not blaming her if this happens, the guy is involved, too). I am all for living life, doing what you need to do, I am no puritan, but I also think the attitude that if no one knows what is the harm has its problems when it involves a third party, in this case the spouse, is pretty cold and uncaring, it is like the thrill little kids get when they sneak extra candy or something past momma or something. The answer is there is no such thing as a 'no harm' situation here, even if they 'get away with it' I would bet that there is harm to the guy's marriage over it, could even be the seeds of its destruction, secrets like that fester IME.
Hmm, a thoughtful and intelligent response. It gives me something to think about. Let me ask, is this a natural or conditioned response? I believe it's conditioned. Sometimes I feel a little guilty when I do something minor, masturbate to pics here on literotica when my wife doesn't know about it, but an hour later, I've forgotten it.