Cyndeveaux
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I fulfilled a fantasy, that involved a 3rd party, for my b/f however it wasn't the best experience for me. It was a dual fantasy, one part was for both of us, but the 2nd part was his fantasy. I have no regrets. I did it for him, but because I didn't enjoy it thoroughly, that fact seemed to have rained on his parade so to speak. I was honest about the experience. However, because it wasn't a positive experience for me, he said, made it seem like I was saying that his fantasy sucked. But that is NOT how I feel and told him so. The problem wasn't the fantasy but the person with who I chose to go with to make this fantasy come true. I was glad to have had the experience too. I think he's hurt in how the fantasy went for me. I did it FOR him, and wanted HIM to be happy. But because it wasn't a great experience for me, he's not happy.
Would it have been better to say it was nice and exciting and it felt good? I think saying that can lay a bad foundation for future fantasies. Since he'd think I loved it, he may want to do another similar fantasy down the road and I don't think that would be fair to myself.
I'd like input on how better I should/could have responded. And why can't he be happy that I fulfilled a fantasy, whether I got something positive out of it or not?
Any thoughts?
Would it have been better to say it was nice and exciting and it felt good? I think saying that can lay a bad foundation for future fantasies. Since he'd think I loved it, he may want to do another similar fantasy down the road and I don't think that would be fair to myself.
I'd like input on how better I should/could have responded. And why can't he be happy that I fulfilled a fantasy, whether I got something positive out of it or not?
Any thoughts?
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