Debbie
Persnickety slattern
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Isn't the more loving thing to not get caught?
Most people cheat on their partners.
Shouldn't they learn to do it properly so as to prevent causing unnecessary harm to peoples' feelings?
Sneaking around might sound exciting till you get caught and the fallout is explosive.
For me it is about respecting and loving your present partner enough not to take the risk of a possible std or a baby in the mix.
I've seen the aftermath and the nastiness that can happen. The mistrust, hurt and sometimes self loathing.
It also has ongoing consequences.
Like ending the relationship and eventually starting another one and finding you're overly suspicious and perhaps carrying ongoing emotional baggage into the next relationship that is destructive and erodes at what could be a good thing.
I know it isn't cut and dried when it comes to cheating. Sometimes a spouse is extremely unwell and you still have needs or other reasons.
But for the most part from what I've seen cheating almost always ends in tears and heartache for someone.