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*coffeespew* Awesome.
definitely not weird, boobs are much nicer to look at! me and my gfs are always eyeing each others up lol xx
Honey look around you!I guess what I was trying to say was - to me, the idea of touching, caressing, and kissing a woman in intimate places (particularly on her stomach and her breasts) seems to be as much erotic fun (if not more) as thrusting my erection into her vagina.
Is there anything wierd about having a stronger fixation on intimate touching/caressing/kissing, than on genital penetration?
I guess what I was trying to say was - to me, the idea of touching, caressing, and kissing a woman in intimate places (particularly on her stomach and her breasts) seems to be as much erotic fun (if not more) as thrusting my erection into her vagina.
Is there anything wierd about having a stronger fixation on intimate touching/caressing/kissing, than on genital penetration?
You know what I'm genuinely worried about? That when you do become intimate with women, that you will be sorely and completely disappointed.
I've looked through your posts, and you seemed to have this image of the perfect female and perfect sexual experience completely etched in your mind, elevating women on a pedestal, that no female could ever compare. It's analogous to the 19th century writer (the name escapes me) who, after the first night with his wife, was stunned that she was not as smooth and hairless as he expected her to be. His only point of comparison was Greek marble statues and paintings. It's truly worrisome. I do understand where you are coming from, but I am a little concerned that you will be supremely disappointed as no woman can ever meet your high expectations.
Every single woman is different, and that difference is reflected in the bedroom, regardless if she's a sweet virgin or the hardened town whore (and the virgin can be more aggressive in bed than the whore). Anything can get a woman sexually aroused...
Look, I think you're a sweet young man, and your sweetness and gentleness is reflected in your writings. I also enjoy reading your posts. I hope that you know by now that this is not meant to be a criticism but rather a true concern and a point that I feel that needs to be respectfully pointed out. You have nothing to worry about. You're normal. Relax, breathe and most importantly, enjoy.
And no, it's not plagiarism. It's what every single writer does.
Fire_breeze...
I always value your opinion. Once again, thanks for your comments here.
Well, if I'm absolutely honest, yes, I do understand that reality is usually very different from fantasy.
And I do understand we all have our own personal fantasies, which is normal.
If I'm absolutely honest, when I asked "is that weird?" it wasn't necessarily a question about me as an "individual", rather it was a question about myself as a writer.
I mean, for example, some people may have a "fetish" for expensive jewellery, and there's nothing wrong with that. However, if they write a story about a woman having an orgasm because someone gave her a diamond necklace as a gift - again, there's nothing wrong with that - but as a reader, it's not going to be of interest to me, I'm not going to enjoy reading that story.
Likewise, the fact I like looking at women's breasts - it's my "thing" and I'm comfortable with that. There was a time, a long time ago, when I (naively) did not realise that a woman needed genital stimulation to reach orgasm (or at least, the overwhelming majority of women need genital stimulation to reach orgasm - right?). I naively believed that a woman could have an orgasm just by being kissed in intimate places, particularly on her breasts. And in any case, breasts are beautiful.
Now I could HAPPILY write a story about a woman having an orgasm just because a guy kissed her breasts - not on her nipples, but just below her nipples - without even touching her genitals, without even getting her trousers off. Yeah, I'd enjoy that story, but I think most people would think it was weird. That's why, as a writer, I'd like to have some idea of what women actually like, and what they don't like.
Indeed, many of my stories are of course about sweet, shy virgins. But sometimes I also do fantasize about women who are unabashed nymphomaniacs - but I tend not to discuss those story ideas on Literotica, because I think those stories would be easier/more straightforward to write, so I don't have to ask for help with those stories. I know what it's like to have a high libido - but I'm not sure I know what it's like for a young woman from a "restrictive" culture when she gets intimate with a man for the first time in her life. Indeed, some of the women I've known in real life, were charmingly modest in their conduct - and I've had difficulty trying to work out how they would behave in "sexual" situations. I would ask them if I could, but I don't think they would appreciate such questions. That's why I keep asking those questions here on Literotica.
You're too kind If I'm honest though, I probably AM even more naive than the shy and innocent virgins that I fantasise about... Still, I'm a sweet guy with a sexually hungry mind...
LOL!!!
Ruskin?I've looked through your posts, and you seemed to have this image of the perfect female and perfect sexual experience completely etched in your mind, elevating women on a pedestal, that no female could ever compare. It's analogous to the 19th century writer (the name escapes me) who, after the first night with his wife, was stunned that she was not as smooth and hairless as he expected her to be. His only point of comparison was Greek marble statues and paintings.
Sex is not just about breasts, vaginas and thrusting penises. This is where your porn movies have failed you - click and instant erections and vaginas and of course your fixation of breasts. Life is not like that. Sex is the outcome of a glance, a smile, a conversation, getting to know someone for who they really are and not just their breasts. This process can take weeks, months, sometimes years. The first connection experience during a conversation about the joys and passions of life can be as rewarding as the first kiss, maybe far more so. Think of that moment when a woman you respect and desire gives you that little smile that makes you immediately wonder if she thinks of you in the same way. At that moment, what is the impact on your heart rate, your breathing, your ability to think clearly? Do your legs feel wobbly, do you feel flushed, even sweaty? Then the joy that flows, that lasts for days and all the ifs and buts and could it be moments that follow. That is where sex starts - not gawking at breasts.
I think you may be missing most of the story in your writings and in real life.
Again you are making very shallow assumptions about women you call unabashed nymphomaniacs. I'm a woman who has had a lot of partners and a lot of fun light hearted sex, but I am also capable of falling deeply and passionately in love and having incredible intimate sweet sex.But sometimes I also do fantasize about women who are unabashed nymphomaniacs - but I tend not to discuss those story ideas on Literotica, because I think those stories would be easier/more straightforward to write, so I don't have to ask for help with those stories.
Ruskin?
…I stress again how fortunate you are to have her guidance on this issue which is so much more than the sum of a woman's breasts.
…start conversations with real women, find out who they are, their interests, their opinions on life, love and relationships, their values. Make genuine friends, be a reliable interested person in their lives, offer support, encouragement, respect and congratulations.
Sex is not just about breasts, vaginas and thrusting penises. This is where your porn movies have failed you - click and instant erections and vaginas and of course your fixation of breasts. Life is not like that.
Life is not like that. Sex is the outcome of a glance, a smile, a conversation, getting to know someone for who they really are and not just their breasts. This process can take weeks, months, sometimes years. The first connection experience during a conversation about the joys and passions of life can be as rewarding as the first kiss, maybe far more so. Think of that moment when a woman you respect and desire gives you that little smile that makes you immediately wonder if she thinks of you in the same way. At that moment, what is the impact on your heart rate, your breathing, your ability to think clearly? Do your legs feel wobbly, do you feel flushed, even sweaty? Then the joy that flows, that lasts for days and all the ifs and buts and could it be moments that follow.
I actually do enjoy a chance to laugh at myself from time to time - that did it.And by the way, the guy in my “profile pic” is not me. That’s Kunal Nayyar
Welcome to online communication. There is a thread title that pulled me in because I thought "oh no... surely not..." and then it just got a whole lot more demeaning toward women as I read your first post. You want to be a writer that specialises in interaction between people, so why was your title not "I'm more interested in a woman’s mind than her vagina... I am a writer of erotica??"I’d respectfully say that your assumptions about me are perhaps not entirely fair…
How would you know? I did not suggest that for a second. Intense rewarding sexual communication can most certainly occur between strangers or acquaintances or friends (remove 'or' if you wish) and boring sex can be the norm with someone you love.I would absolutely agree that without the emotions, without genuine warmth between two people, sex is boring.
Back to your first post; 2,022 characters with multiple references to specific areas of the female body and what you would like to do with them, then
Suffice it to say . . . BOOBIES!!!
Not that I'm biased or anything . . . :eek
OK - laughing again - thanks NippleMuncher
...In my opinion, based on this thread, your profile and reading your story scenarios you have your head and hand firmly in porn land. So where does interaction, communication and emotions figure in all this? Where are the flirtations, the teasing, the expressions of affection and love or the rawness of intense deep sexual emotions from your characters? Where is the agony of time?
…It is like you have this intense belief and desire for women to be the subordinate demure Bollywood star by day and raving nymphomaniac by night.
…need to become the best friend to a woman, her lover. Desire her, respect her, have wonder if you challenge her and satisfy her intellectually and sexually and then for her to dump you and for you to realise and appreciate why that was the right decision for her. Probably many times over with partners of differing personalities, desires and expressions of emotions and sexual needs - then write erotica. You have to appreciate and explore the variances and complexities of relationships.
What do you have to offer to the equation of a relationship or sexual tryst? Where does the gratification come from for your partner(s), in life or stories, sexually, intellectually and emotionally? How much are you willing to provide? How are your efforts received? What importance do you place on that? What gratification do you get from giving? What do you believe are the opinions of women about you? Do you care?
Go out and experience the pleasures and agony of life. Give without expectation, you maybe surprised at what comes back. Then you may have a better grasp of what is needed to write about interactions between people.