Your thoughts on monogamy

[LittleSwitchy]

It sucks.

Straight and to the point.
Lol.

 

[BongoGal]

If you are single and you are only having sex with one other single person at a time (FB/FWB) are you still monogamous?

I'd say so in only the most technical sense. A FWB may be awesome, but he or she is not due anything like the story of loyalty one would have with a spouse/ significant other. A fling with someone else is always a possibility.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

To be monogamous or poly? I think it comes down to what those in the relationship want. In some cases what they have been taught from the parental units “ SNL reference “. I think not everyone has the ability to be poly. I say that cause some people are wired differently. If that’s a mental or emotional thing.
I think more people are open to a poly relationship nowadays. I think partly because they don’t get the total package in one person. They might get an 80-20 of a total package. The other person might give them what they are missing in the other person. Between the 2-3-5 whatever. They get a total package. If that works for them by all means. Go for it. You get 1 shot at this thing called life. Take advantage of everything it has to offer.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Finicky, tightassed Monogamy (along with its nosy, controlling BFF's Love and Jealousy), is an evolutionary concession to the extraordinarily long maturation process of Homo Sapiens, which can take upwards of thirty years, in the case of PhD candidates in the field of folklore, for example, and also drummers. Although genetic success is never guaranteed, it does slightly favor, on the miniscule scale of the modern era, two-income families that can afford homes with finished basements close to good schools and houses of worship. But in the broad sweep of human existence, playas always gonna play, and Mother Nature don't care who the daddy is, as long as those babies get fed by somebody.

(Full disclosure: BDSM Test: Non-monogamist: 97%. But I'm working on my relationship issues.)

(Fuller disclosure: You would not believe the ass on my therapist.)

 

[VikingPhoenix]

Polyamory is amazing and so fulfilling if you're wired for it. I think it's a lot to ask for your SO to meet 100% of your needs for as long as you're together. And it's an amazing feeling to see your partner find satisfaction with someone else. Again, if you're wired that way. I'm sure most people will think I'm nuts for that statement.

It is truly an amazing feeling to be able to watch your SO with their eyes closed and head tilted back with a big smile and flared nostrils as her chosen hunk eats her up...both literally and figuratively!

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Emotional intimacy and trust are things that are difficult to develop, and easy to shatter. Jumping into non-monogamy without the proper tools and communication can lead to disaster.

That said I stopped believing a long time ago any single person can provide all of another's needs.

Whatever you practice the keys are trust and communication. Without those yok are destined for pain, and not the fun kind.