You can now call me the bionic single Dom

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Richard49 said:
What kind of work do you do?
Does not your Dom take care of things like this?

YOu did not bring up hurtful memeroies
It is the thread starting to go again that has done it

I work at a customer service counter. Handling money. Hence the comment about being able to concentrate on my job. lol. Have to concentrate or I am in major trouble....

Dom?
No. No Dom. My long-time SO is vanilla flavor thru and thru. I came to lit (and other sites) to learn about a lifestyle that has always been my dream. I posted originally to thank Eb for several links that she posted that helped me find a local group (2 actually) in my area. Tho, to be honest, I haven't worked up the nerve to attend a munch.


but, hell, I am not getting any younger here. If ya know what I mean.
:D

It could be the age hang-up that has made me shy about attending a munch. That, and the damn NY weather.....
I tell myself I am waiting for spring. lol.

I am glad it is not me bringing up bad memories. I will add only one thing, tho it may be presumptious of me & not intended as anything other than an observation.
You have good memories to go with the bad, yes? You have the backbone to experience what it is that gives you passion. What society considers a major taboo. There are those, like myself, who didn't have that kind of backbone, and so never experienced what could have been.......
Who simply lurk (in life) and on chatboards such as this one.

Again, not to be presumptions, but to all such as yourself, I give major kudos. You are to be commended in your victories.
:rose:

Yep, and in reading what I just wrote, I sounded very presumptious, but I'll let it stand. It's how I feel. And if I can't be honest in the cold reality of cyber-space, then I really am a coward.
 
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lady-kat said:

Dom?
No. No Dom. My long-time SO is vanilla flavor thru and thru. I came to lit (and other sites) to learn about a lifestyle that has always been my dream. I posted originally to thank Eb for several links that she posted that helped me find a local group (2 actually) in my area. Tho, to be honest, I haven't worked up the nerve to attend a munch.


but, hell, I am not getting any younger here. If ya know what I mean.
:D

It could be the age hang-up that has made me shy about attending a munch. That, and the damn NY weather.....
I tell myself I am waiting for spring. lol.


Old?
I am 53 are you older then me?

The weather here has been less then exciting also.
We are low for the amount of average snow
but temps have been below also

So what does your SO have to think about all this?

BTW
To you and others
I have Yahoo IM and my ID is on my profile here
I have NOT reinstalled ICQ
 
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Richard49 said:
Old?
I am 53 are you older then me?

The weather here has been less then exciting also.
We are low for the amount of average snow
but temps have been below also

So what does your SO have to think about all this?

BTW
To you and others
I have Yahoo IM and my ID is on my profile here
I have NOT reinstalled ICQ

Well, you are only slightly older than me. I'm 48.

As for my SO, he doesn't know about my visits to this site (and others) The time is approaching when I will tell him, it just hasn't happened yet. That is perhaps the real reason I have not attended a munch in my area. To do so, without telling him, would feel less than honest. Our relationship, at least on my end (and his, as far as I know) has been just the two of us. but....

He does know of my passion in this area. This is why I started reading here on lit. (luv the sticky at the top. so much good information contained in it ;-) I have never posted to a personal discussion before your thread here. but......

I admire you, and those like you, who have the honesty to experience what makes them whole in life. So, when I read your thread, I responded in kind, or so I hope.

damn. I had not intended to hijack your thread again. I will, in future, keep my answers to your questions brief.
:rose:

edited to add:
and I like you. Not as/because you are a Dom posting on a board, but as a person. Your words here tell me the kind of person you are. And you are a person, I would have as a friend. I DO hope today is a better day for you.
 
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lady-kat said:

damn. I had not intended to hijack your thread again. I will, in future, keep my answers to your questions brief.
:rose:


I do not feel/believe this is hijacking this thread
You share honestly within the context of the thread
 
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lady-kat said:
edited to add:
and I like you. Not as/because you are a Dom posting on a board, but as a person. Your words here tell me the kind of person you are. And you are a person, I would have as a friend. I DO hope today is a better day for you.

What is it about me that you like?
 
Today I have made no attempt to contact Rachel by email or phone

After last nights coldness
I have decided to just give her all the space she wants

In the mean time I am starting to look for females that I can have coffee with etc.
 
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Richard49 said:
What is it about me that you like?
Richard. I think one of the things I admire about you most is the thoughts you post here. You are honest in your feelings, not ashamed to say it like it is. I've never seen you post spiteful words towards any posters here. Granted, I have only been lurking this board for maybe 10 months or so, but I've read many of the old threads.

Also, the dignity you have dealing with the events that life has sent your way.


:rose:
 
Richard49 said:
Today I have made no attempt to contact Rachel by email or phone

After last nights coldness
I have decided to just give her all the space she wants

In the mean time I am starting to look for females that I can have coffee with etc.

Sounds like a plan to me. Perhaps with a little distance/space, Rachel will see what it is she is so carelessly discarding. And yes, coffee/etc. with another sounds like a very good idea. I just finished another long night at work, so please forgive any spelling and disjointed sentences. lol. I am not at my best this time of night.
:D
 
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Richard49 said:
I do not feel/believe this is hijacking this thread
You share honestly within the context of the thread

thank you.....
:rose:
 
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lady-kat said:
Richard. I think one of the things I admire about you most is the thoughts you post here. You are honest in your feelings, not ashamed to say it like it is. I've never seen you post spiteful words towards any posters here. Granted, I have only been lurking this board for maybe 10 months or so, but I've read many of the old threads.

Also, the dignity you have dealing with the events that life has sent your way.


:rose:

WOW !!!!!!

Thank you for the wonderful compliments.

Honesty... interesting word ... it means the absence of deciet
This lifestyle reguires great honesty.

I start this thread for a number of reasons
most very selfish
I needed a place that I could talk when I needed to talk
and have listeners that understand this lifestyle

I also started it as place that people could seee that a Dom
a very experenced Dom
has feelings also
 
lady-kat said:
Sounds like a plan to me. Perhaps with a little distance/space, Rachel will see what it is she is so carelessly discarding. And yes, coffee/etc. with another sounds like a very good idea. I just finished another long night at work, so please forgive any spelling and disjointed sentences. lol. I am not at my best this time of night.
:D

When you speell and type as poorly as I do
you have no room to say anythign to anyone
besides you are making sence

Last night I went to a different recovery meeting then normal
in part to avoid Rachel ...... this morning there was an email from her saying she was worried about me ... I have not responded

Frankly I am not sure how to respond if I should.

I want us to continue to be recovery partners, friends and if possible lovers. However her not communicating allows us nothing. If I respond it is like telling her that her behavor is OK ... and it is not .....

At this moment I plan on not repsonding and see what happens when I see her tonight at recovery meeting
 
Richard49 said:

Last night I went to a different recovery meeting then normal
in part to avoid Rachel ...... this morning there was an email from her saying she was worried about me ... I have not responded

Frankly I am not sure how to respond if I should.

I want us to continue to be recovery partners, friends and if possible lovers. However her not communicating allows us nothing. If I respond it is like telling her that her behavor is OK ... and it is not .....


Your idea of a little space may be exactly what is needed for Rachel to do some self-examination. And, it also gives YOU space to perhaps start to heal (?) a little (?).........

At this moment I plan on not repsonding and see what happens when I see her tonight at recovery meeting


Will you post later to let us know how it goes? I'm hoping well......


:rose:
 
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Richard49 said:
Old?
BTW
To you and others
I have Yahoo IM and my ID is on my profile here
I have NOT reinstalled ICQ

Richard, I did try the yahoo IM thing, not sure if I did it correctly. I do so suck at this computer stuff......
:D
 
lady-kat said:
At this moment I plan on not repsonding and see what happens when I see her tonight at recovery meeting

Will you post later to let us know how it goes? I'm hoping well......


--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

:rose:

Sometimes I think of this thread as my personal soap opra
Yes I will let you know

Though I do not expect anything special or different

I feel like I am doing wrong by not responding to her email
It is like I am treating her the way she has treated me
and that is not behavior I approve of

We shall see
 
lady-kat said:
Last night I went to a different recovery meeting then normal
in part to avoid Rachel ...... this morning there was an email from her saying she was worried about me ... I have not responded

Frankly I am not sure how to respond if I should.

I want us to continue to be recovery partners, friends and if possible lovers. However her not communicating allows us nothing. If I respond it is like telling her that her behavor is OK ... and it is not .....

Your idea of a little space may be exactly what is needed for Rachel to do some self-examination. And, it also gives YOU space to perhaps start to heal (?) a little (?).........


:rose:

Frankly my motoves were/are not pure
It is like me saying to her
"ok ... you will not talk to me I will not talk to you"

She is one of these women that pushes and pulls
I am one of those guys that makes every attempt to stand permant ... though I do not always succeed

I try to do the next right thing for the next right reason

I do nto know what that is at the moment
 
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lady-kat said:
Richard, I did try the yahoo IM thing, not sure if I did it correctly. I do so suck at this computer stuff......
:D

What is your Yahoo ID?
If you do not want to post it publically you can PM me with it
 
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Richard49 said:
What is your Yahoo ID?
If you do not want to post it publically you can PM me with it
tsk, Richard. I did try. It said your inbox is full......
:rose:
 
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lady-kat said:
tsk, Richard. I did try. It said your inbox is full......
:rose:

It is no longer full
Sorry about that
 
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Richard49 said:
What is your Yahoo ID?
If you do not want to post it publically you can PM me with it
oh gads, I am such an ijit. My yahoo email addy is on my profile here. I think (?) At least that is the option I have checked. *grin*

Yahoo IM uses so much of my poor computer's working memory that I seldom have it open. I rely on my email.
:rose:
 
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Richard49 said:
It is no longer full
Sorry about that

Richard.
So not a probem....
*grin*

A full email inbox is a good thing. It means people are writing to you......
yes?
:D
 
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lady-kat said:
oh gads, I am such an ijit. My yahoo email addy is on my profile here. I think (?) At least that is the option I have checked. *grin*

Yahoo IM uses so much of my poor computer's working memory that I seldom have it open. I rely on my email.
:rose:

Your Yahoo IM is NOT on your profile here
 
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lady-kat said:
Richard.
So not a probem....
*grin*

A full email inbox is a good thing. It means people are writing to you......
yes?
:D

Mostly old PMs
 
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Richard49 said:
Mostly old PMs

and voila! there should be a new one in your inbox *grin* Methinks I am finally figuring this system out here. Never used it before, so please bear with me, OK?
:D
 
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Richard49 said:
Your Yahoo IM is NOT on your profile here

You 're right. My apology. Apparently, I DO NOT have this system figured out........
:(
 
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lady-kat said:
and voila! there should be a new one in your inbox *grin* Methinks I am finally figuring this system out here. Never used it before, so please bear with me, OK?
:D

You want me to make you bear?

I got your email address not your Yahoo im

I did not check your email link on your profile
 
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