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Loving My Soulmate Scott
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People are often confused about what people are called in the sadomasochistic community. Are all Master's Doms? Are all Mistresses Dominatrix? Is a submissive the same as a slave?Why did that Masochist refuse to tie me up?
Like the U.S. federal tax codes,there are no hard and fast rules.
And like food labeling,there isnt any regulating mechanisms in place to keep D/s players from pretty much calling themselves anything they like.
I think that the first thing to remember is as with other appellations,there are those words that are titular and those that are descriptive.Titular words such as 'Lord" or "Master" are the most confusing for beginners, for just like the likers of fine wine,people are forever attaching their names to things that have achieved success or are renown.
Players often have their own highly thought out and personal reasons for why they choose to call themselves "Mistress" over Madam',but we beginners need only remember one thing:
nine out of ten times,people who use a title are dominant.
Keeping this in mind will help you to find the partner of your dreams,I feel.,whether it be online,or at a club or social event.
While some dominants prefer that their bottoms address them by their particular title,unless you are told otherwise,think of "Dom,'Mistress" and "Sir" as being equivalent.
If you enter into a relationship or even a "one-spank stand" with a dominant,a good rule of thumb is that as in everythging else.dominants are called as THEY wish to be, and call submissives as THEY wish to.
On the other hand,descriptive apellations can be a Major help in understanding what an individual's preferences are.
Masters,Doms,Mistresses.and tops all have one thing in common.
They will expect their partners to Willingly yield to them. Similarly ,subs,slaves,and bottoms,are all people who surrender control.
Dom/mes ,"How do YOU prefer your sub to address you"?
Subs? "What name does your Dom/me call you that really "does it "for you? How do you prefer to be called?"
Like the U.S. federal tax codes,there are no hard and fast rules.
And like food labeling,there isnt any regulating mechanisms in place to keep D/s players from pretty much calling themselves anything they like.
I think that the first thing to remember is as with other appellations,there are those words that are titular and those that are descriptive.Titular words such as 'Lord" or "Master" are the most confusing for beginners, for just like the likers of fine wine,people are forever attaching their names to things that have achieved success or are renown.
Players often have their own highly thought out and personal reasons for why they choose to call themselves "Mistress" over Madam',but we beginners need only remember one thing:
nine out of ten times,people who use a title are dominant.
Keeping this in mind will help you to find the partner of your dreams,I feel.,whether it be online,or at a club or social event.
While some dominants prefer that their bottoms address them by their particular title,unless you are told otherwise,think of "Dom,'Mistress" and "Sir" as being equivalent.
If you enter into a relationship or even a "one-spank stand" with a dominant,a good rule of thumb is that as in everythging else.dominants are called as THEY wish to be, and call submissives as THEY wish to.
On the other hand,descriptive apellations can be a Major help in understanding what an individual's preferences are.
Masters,Doms,Mistresses.and tops all have one thing in common.
They will expect their partners to Willingly yield to them. Similarly ,subs,slaves,and bottoms,are all people who surrender control.
Dom/mes ,"How do YOU prefer your sub to address you"?
Subs? "What name does your Dom/me call you that really "does it "for you? How do you prefer to be called?"
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