women

[HARDKOREBJ]

what is wrong with me?there is got to be something.im just loneley or bored.

 

[sexy-girl]

you need to get out there and see life and the world ... build up a circle of friends and then go out with them and one day without even looking for it while your with your friends you'll meet a lovely girl that will fall in love with you



theres nothing wrong with you at all ... you just need to be social more if you feel lonely ... you have friends here but they arent a substitute for real life ... you wont meet a girl via the internet

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

FRIENDS

i would if i could.i have no friends and my town is boring to the max.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

life doesnt exist on the internet. and as i have told you before, you have to cheer yourself up. many people can tell from your aura that you are not happy, and they will stay away from you because of that. no offense hun, but if i were to ever see you somewhere in real life, i would pass you by because you dont seem happy. why would i want to be with someone that is so unhappy all of the time? why would i want to be with someone that will drag down my physique and my own happiness because because they themselves arent happy?

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

friends

im not unhappy all the time.its just when im lonley.

 

[lilminx]

Please don't take offense at this, but

You sometimes come off as desperate. If people think you're desperate, they won't touch you with a 10-foot pole. You need to stop complaining and whining, and go out and DO STUFF! Stop worrying about it so much and saying how lonely you are and what a loser you are. Just be yourself and try to have fun. If you seem like you're having a good time and are happy, people will be attracted to that. Also, you may actually find yourself enjoying life if you act like you are. Studies have shown that people who put on a smile even when they're not happy start feeling happy.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

no

fist off im no loser.i work my ass off.many times i`ve been injured on the job and worked thru the pain.i just suck with woman.this town sucks.

 

[lilminx]

Re: no

fist off im no loser.i work my ass off.many times i`ve been injured on the job and worked thru the pain.i just suck with woman.this town sucks.

Sweety, I didn't say that I thought you were a loser. You are always complaining, and you have said what a loser you are. I suggested to stop thinking that way. Please don't misconstrue what I say. I didn't meant it in a nasty way- I was trying to tell you to try to be more positive- I guess it didn't come out the way I wanted it to...

 

[Willing and Unsure]

i agree with lilminx here... you need a positive attitude and a positive aura.. if you're unhappy when you're alone, then you arent happy anywhere else.. when you're alone is when you have the time to do what you need or want to do to take care of yourself... even if that means going shopping because you had a bad day, or taking a long shower just because you want to relax, or even just lying on the floor thinking about everything in general.. you shouldnt be unhappy when you're alone.. everything is related to everything else. if you're unhappy when you're alone, then you arent happy elsewhere.. and that's something only you can change

 

[sexy-girl]

you should do something new ... maybe you should goto evening class'es thats a great way to make new friends and improve yourself at the sametime (im thinking of going to evening class'es soon) or join a sports club


the internet is great and its lovely to make friends over the net but need to do real life things too ... and do try to be more positive think about the good qualitys you have dont think so much about the bad things


its great that you are hard working and have a job your not a loser and you can make friends on here so you will in your town too


i need to be more positive too and think about the good things i have ... feeling sorry for yourself isnt a good thing ... i need to stop doing that too

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

ok

sorry about that.im just a loser when it comes to women.
when there is work im first there and last to leave.sunburn,hurt back,broken arm whatever.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

not trying to be mean here...

but why the hell do you keep saying you're a loser?!?

 

[lavender]

 

[lilminx]

Re: ok

im just a loser when it comes to women.

Ok- but see? You have that negative attitude again. it won't get you anywhere with women if you contiue to think like this...

 

[Wizard]

Why not join a pool league or a bowling team?????? Something to get you out and have a few drinks ....Losen up around women....Enjoy life...............

 

[BlondGirl]

I am at the point where, if I see BJ posting the word loser again--for ANY reason whatsoever, I am going to block him.

I am too frusterated by this. We make out own happinesses. And, to quote someone on here who stated this (sorry, can't remember who), only boring people get bored.

Lose the bullshit, BJ, I can't handle it anymore!

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

hey

my town don`t have bowling or pool places.all there is stores and factorys.nothing good can come from drining.my father ruined his life from that and vietnam

 

[Willing and Unsure]

look... deal with it... i'm with BlondGirl on this one... this is getting really annoying.. and i do try to be patient with you and help you as much as i can.. but frankly, you are pissing me off with this.

DEAL WITH IT!!!!!

i dont know why you wont let yourself be happy, but its something that you yourself are doing. you are not unhappy because you havent had sex yet, or because women arent interested (maybe your happiness and their interest level in you are related...). you are unhappy because you dont seem to want to be happy. all this crap about how you're a loser and all.. that's your own doing. there is no such thing as a society-made loser.


so get up off your butt, go out there, and make yourself happy.

you are the only one that can do that.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

well

if i had a way i would go out and meet people.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

im sorry

willing im sorry for pissing you and the others off.i will keep my thoughts to my self.

 

[lilminx]

How do you not have a way to go out and meet people? Even at the friggin supoermarket you could meet people! It seems like you are just making excuses...

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

you don`t know

i don`t have wheels at the moment.im trying to get the money for a motorcycle.that may do the trick.

 

[lilminx]

There's no public transportation ar ound you? How do you get to the store and to work?

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

well

i walk or ride my bike 10-15 miles to work.i take several trips to the store

 

[Calamity Jane]

Look, I'm from a small town too... grew up in one and moved to one even smaller. I now live in a town of 481 people... that's right... less than 500 people! And ya know what? I have more friends now than I did living in the city.

We don't have bowling alleys, miniature golf, not even a bar. There is literally nothing in town except the library, the funeral home and 6 churches. And it DOESN'T FREAKING MATTER because I'm happy here, I'm happy with my life, and I'm happy with who I am. People sense that, are drawn to that, and want to be around me. It's not because I'm beautiful, super intelligent, amazingly witty (though i AM all of the above )... it's first and foremost because I made myself happy before I inflicted myself on others. You can't go around you're whole damned life waiting for that one perfect person to make you complete. You need to be a whole person on your own and then you get the bonus of a partner to share yurself with.

So get the hell off the pity wagon, get your ass out there and meet people... go out with the guys after work... drink a soda if you don't want liquor... spend days off at a library, a park, the laundromat... go ANYPLACE there are other people. You can't meet anyone if you're living like a drone.

Hey, it's harsh, I know... and I'm not telling you to keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself, but stop it with the 'poor pitiful me' shit. ok?