Why is it so hard?

[holmblad]

Why is it so hard (or at least I perceive it that way) to find another guy to have fun with?
Whats a good site to find others interested in getting naked together (or half naked)?
All I want is a clean, decently fit (as I am) top or at least a top inclined versatile guy?
Whats a good site for finding a hot trans or cross dresser?
So I am looking for two different things, sometimes I feel like a nut sometimes I... well, I ALWAYS feel like a nut, it just depends how I get or give that nut!

 

[Savanasexi]

Why is it so hard (or at least I perceive it that way) to find another guy to have fun with?
Whats a good site to find others interested in getting naked together (or half naked)?
All I want is a clean, decently fit (as I am) top or at least a top inclined versatile guy?
Whats a good site for finding a hot trans or cross dresser?
So I am looking for two different things, sometimes I feel like a nut sometimes I... well, I ALWAYS feel like a nut, it just depends how I get or give that nut!

Download kik and search for Trans or ladyboys. Lots on there for you

 

[stranger244]

Why is it so hard (or at least I perceive it that way) to find another guy to have fun with?
Whats a good site to find others interested in getting naked together (or half naked)?
All I want is a clean, decently fit (as I am) top or at least a top inclined versatile guy?
Whats a good site for finding a hot trans or cross dresser?
So I am looking for two different things, sometimes I feel like a nut sometimes I... well, I ALWAYS feel like a nut, it just depends how I get or give that nut!

I visit Squirt, Adam4Adam, and Grindr. I have better luck visiting some local parks.

 

[TallOne]

It's not hard at all. Easier than at any point in history right now with all the location based apps. You may be surprised to find a neighbor on there. Some others to check: sniffies, adultfriendfinder, doublelist

Only thing really stopping you is you. Fear of being caught...by guys into the same thing?

 

[ChrissyCD64]

It was never hard for me and became even easier when my wive brought home girlfriends and got there husbands to cum along for me to play with.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Why is it so hard (or at least I perceive it that way) to find another guy to have fun with?
Whats a good site to find others interested in getting naked together (or half naked)?
All I want is a clean, decently fit (as I am) top or at least a top inclined versatile guy?
Whats a good site for finding a hot trans or cross dresser?
So I am looking for two different things, sometimes I feel like a nut sometimes I... well, I ALWAYS feel like a nut, it just depends how I get or give that nut!

I've found that it gets hard frequently and very pleasantly...

 

[bimwiguy1963]

I had good luck with silverdaddies.

 

[widereceiver]

To a large extent, I think it’s a matter of how much risk you’re willing to take. I know, at least, that’s a big part of my problem. I’ve placed so many restrictions on myself that it’s made it hard for me to hook up with someone. If I wanted to throw all caution to the wind, I know I could find more cocks to suck today than I could handle. It would be easy. I don’t, however, want to risk an STD, nor do I want to be “out” as far as the wife is concerned. I don’t need the trauma or the drama that would entail. At least, I want to minimize risk — there will always be some. So I’m just going along, being patient, and waiting for the day when everything seems right. When it does, I won’t hesitate.

 

[mtsnowrider]

To a large extent, I think it’s a matter of how much risk you’re willing to take. I know, at least, that’s a big part of my problem. I’ve placed so many restrictions on myself that it’s made it hard for me to hook up with someone. If I wanted to throw all caution to the wind, I know I could find more cocks to suck today than I could handle. It would be easy. I don’t, however, want to risk an STD, nor do I want to be “out” as far as the wife is concerned. I don’t need the trauma or the drama that would entail. At least, I want to minimize risk — there will always be some. So I’m just going along, being patient, and waiting for the day when everything seems right. When it does, I won’t hesitate.

Add to that being "older" and very selective about looks and body and I realize that I have put myself I an impossible position

 

[J1biboi]

Add to that being "older" and very selective about looks and body and I realize that I have put myself I an impossible position

I know the feeling well!

 

[james2346]

I know the feeling...I am bi-curious and would like to meet someone who is the same boat.

Nothing long-term, just a fwb and discreet. I think there are others out there but tough to find.

I am 5'11 42 years 165 lbs. in philly

 

[mtsnowrider]

I know the feeling...I am bi-curious and would like to meet someone who is the same boat.

Nothing long-term, just a fwb and discreet. I think there are others out there but tough to find.

I am 5'11 42 years 165 lbs. in philly

Once you find the discrete FWB you might want to add long-term. Who wants to have to start looking again

 

[james2346]

Once you find the discrete FWB you might want to add long-term. Who wants to have to start looking again

I might go that route

 

[widereceiver]

I don’t know a gay/bi man out there who has a difficult time finding partners.
It’s the people who need to be ‘discreet’ who have issues.

I agree and think I was saying much the same thing in my post this morning. I’ve consciously made decisions which bear directly on my ability to find other guys to play with. I can’t look at anything or anyone beyond myself for my problems hooking up with men for sex. I have too many conditions for it to be easy. And like I said earlier, I know I could find more gay lovers to play with than I could handle if I didn’t care about the consequences. My problems are of my own making.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

Add to that being "older" and very selective about looks and body and I realize that I have put myself I an impossible position

There's nothing wrong with having standards or setting the bar high... anything less is just setteling

 

[muycurioso]

Why is it so hard (or at least I perceive it that way) to find another guy to have fun with?
Whats a good site to find others interested in getting naked together (or half naked)?
All I want is a clean, decently fit (as I am) top or at least a top inclined versatile guy?
Whats a good site for finding a hot trans or cross dresser?
So I am looking for two different things, sometimes I feel like a nut sometimes I... well, I ALWAYS feel like a nut, it just depends how I get or give that nut!

I cant meet a man or woman for fun times

 

[sexfan23]

Once you find the discrete FWB you might want to add long-term. Who wants to have to start looking again

Exactly. The searching is the most frustrating part. Hopefully, once the right situation is found, the searching can stop... unless it's the searching that turns someone on, which I'm sure happens.

 

[klippert]

good luck finding a "hot" tranny. they ain't all what you see online...most likely you'll have too $$ up. it all depends on what you are looking for. If you're looking for smoochy long lasting.... well you'll have to put yourself out there or find a 'dating' site.
Trust me most dudes are looking for a hook-up fucks. Even, well especially the ones in a "relationship"... these guy are not monogamous. If you just want to get railed or suck a cock; check out sniffy's (I think) or grinder (be careful). You'll have cock in your mouth in and hour.
it all depends on what you are looking, how hard are you trying and willing to put yourself out there. finally practice safe sex...

 

[Dreamer110]

Exactly. The searching is the most frustrating part. Hopefully, once the right situation is found, the searching can stop... unless it's the searching that turns someone on, which I'm sure happens.

It is frustrating. To find someone in the same boat as me would be perfect. And if it turned into a longer term thing even better.

 

[klippert]

It is frustrating. To find someone in the same boat as me would be perfect. And if it turned into a longer term thing even better.

That's my point... What are you looking for.. long-term. baking cookies, watching musicals... or just sex. if its sex. than you're not trying hard enough or not serious. Long term, well, you maybe looking in the wrong place.

 

[gary04]

It is difficult to find someone for a regular hookup. Try living in a small town in the mountains and 70 yrs old. Everyone wants a young guy with a big cock. Old guys love to suck cock also.

 

[J1biboi]

It is difficult to find someone for a regular hookup. Try living in a small town in the mountains and 70 yrs old. Everyone wants a young guy with a big cock. Old guys love to suck cock also.

I know exactly how you feel.

 

[Wantstotryit]

Well it took some courage, but he wanted me as a girl as he knew I had lots of panties. I finally said fuck it and went for it....he didn't disappoint. It was amazing. He knew I wanted to and was patient in waiting for it. He came on my face and then in me....it was amazing

 

[ericrodman101]

It is hard and as I get older and tired from working too hard, I just buy sex. in a big city there a plenty of guys to choose from online. Lots of college students paying Their tuition. I get what I want, they get what they want, if I like I can buy again, if I don’t I can move on.