Why do they ask our opinion anyway?

[lobito]

If they don't really care what we have to say?

Why do people ask questions/ask for advice if they aren't willing to accept or acknowledge it?

 

[heterotic]

I don't know, why do you think that is?

 

[April]

Something in particular? Or all the "please help me" posts in general?

Maybe some of them truly do seek an outside opinion.

 

[MaddyBaby]

Lo, honey... trust me... I take a lot of people's advice on here, especially yours. You've given me some good pointers in the past. The whole situation I was talking about on my thread? Yes, that is me. I don't know about the time and distance thing, considering I am not sure what that person and I really are... I don't know. I'm so confused.

 

[freescorfr]

If they don't really care what we have to say?

Why do people ask questions/ask for advice if they aren't willing to accept or acknowledge it?

Sometimes the simple phrasing of a question, saying it, posting it is a release, a help, a clarification. It's worth listening to the person rather than the question, I find.

Conversely, when I post a response it's often to help me express my own thoughts. It's an offering to be left or, sometimes, accepted.

 

[Ice Cold]

Somwtimes people ask your opinion because they are hoping you'll say what they want to hear... anything else you say will be disregarded becuase in the back of their head, they have their mind made up already.

 

[lobito]

This isn't about anyones posts in particular, it's not even JUST about posts. It's a general question about life.

People seemingly ask anything anymore, just to ask it, not really caring if your advice is ok, or even right on target. I agree that sometimes just asking sometimes can be a good release for some, but if you specifically ASK for advice then ackowledge it in someway, whether you are going to use that advice or not.

 

[Wiggles]

If they don't really care what we have to say?

Why do people ask questions/ask for advice if they aren't willing to accept or acknowledge it?

Yeah, and furthermore, why do they act like they care if they don't want to listen?

Advice is really just giving someone your counsel. It doesn't mean that they have to take it, or even like it. If you don't feel your advice is being valued, then refrain from giving it.

There are a thousand more people out there that think they know just what to do too.

 

[ksmybuttons]

What type of validation are you looking for? Just acknowledgement that they heard you?

When I am given advice, I listen to it all, then, using that advice, make my own decision. It may not even look like any of the advice given, but each opinion was given consideration.

I give advice for a living. No expectations that it will ever be taken, but at least the information is there.

 

[freakygirl]

Just for the record...

every time I've asked for advice, I have acknowledged and used the advice..

I get a vast array of advice on here.. most of it is right on with what I was thinking anyway, I just needed some one to validate for me that it was right..

 

[heterotic]

Sometimes I ask somebody something just to hear it out loud, and I immediately realize the answer. For some reason, talking to myself just doesn't work as well. I do that a lot too, though.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

If they don't really care what we have to say?

Why do people ask questions/ask for advice if they aren't willing to accept or acknowledge it?

If you're asking my advice, I'd say go tell 'em to fuck themselves.

 

[lobito]

Re: Re: Why do they ask our opinion anyway?

If you're asking my advice, I'd say go tell 'em to fuck themselves.

Thanks, I'll keep that in mind, it's very good advice.

I didn't ask people to defend themselves, I merely asked a Q.

Lo

 

[Northern Lights]

I disagree that people ask for advice and then don't take it. In fact, just last night I solicited advice from an online friend an can't thank her enough for taking the time to help. Now it's up to me to apply what we talked about.