Why Do People Like Pain?

[Vixandra]

As happy bunny says, "Cute, but psycho. It all evens out."

I love that Happy Bunny. Especially the "I know how you feel but I just don't care." t-shirt I have.

As for why people like pain- it releases endorphins and other fun brain chemecals that tell us we're having a time we enjoy/like/want. Same reason people like chocolate and deep-fried ice cream. Possitive chemical reactions.

And the right kind of pain at the right moment is like that dash of pure vanilla added at the last moment to brownies, gives it just that much more depth and yummieness.

 

[Brinnie]

see, i don't like getting hurt in anyway other than spanking and nipple clamps.
i don't have anything against it, but does fascinate me more than an oscar winning movie.

 

[subkitten]

For me, pain makes me feel more alive. It kind of "grounds" me in a sense.

And I love the simple uncomplicatedness of pain. You are either in pain or not. There's nothing gray about pain. That's why I like it.

subkitten

Be one with the bonds

 

[YinandYang]

I've come to realize that I now associate it with feeling cherished. (speaking in terms of consentual pain- not assult)

Ditto

 

[LunarKitten]

Ouch! Now you tell me. *points wand at kitty*

Your turn!

I like it when it's my turn

 

[LunarKitten]

DougBTX:
"chemical balance" just means nilla, average, dead."

It's interesting that no matter how much a minority group hates being stereotyped or insulted, there are always members who cannot help but stereotype and insult the majority. I suppose that when it comes to societal groups, no one likes to be the submissive.

*tilts head* Hey, now, no putting down the submissive group!

Though, on a more serious note, there is always some societal group that has been pigeonholed in man's history. If it's not a subcultural group, it's "look" - blonde jokes, big nose jokes, big feet jokes....sterotyping is something that everyone does to some degree. When I use the term "vanilla", I'm usually talking about a group of people who do not participate in D/s or BDSM. It doesn't mean I think I'm better than they are, it's just a way I distinguish the different between the two subcultures.

 

[Marquis]

see, i don't like getting hurt in anyway other than spanking and nipple clamps.
i don't have anything against it, but does fascinate me more than an oscar winning movie.

It's not all about pain Brinnie.

Sometimes it's possible to pluck the feathers you want without waking the goose.

 

[jasonlf]

It's not all about pain Brinnie.

Sometimes it's possible to pluck the feathers you want without waking the goose.

VERY interesting way of putting it.

Do I need to explain you to yourself? *ducks*

 

[Marquis]

Do I need to explain you to yourself? *ducks*

No, goose.

 

[witcha]

You're all a bunch of pervs























sorry..it had to be said..lol

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I think caela, lark sparrow and Bandit58 hit upon some very important facets of some submissives'/slaves' desire for pain.

caela:
1) I like the extreme sensations and 2) I like the headspace it drops me into.

Our bodies - and minds - are "tuned into" sensory stimuli. Remember, our largest sensory organ is our flesh. While smell is (for most people) the most intense of the senses, the organ that receives the most stimuli is our skin. For many submissives/slaves/masochists, the sensations they receive are translated into a pleasurable experience, releasing endorphins, which brings on the headspace caela refers to. Why do some people translate certain "painful" sensations into pleasurable ones? Because they're wired that way, either physically or emotionally or both. That may be hardwiring (nature) or a learned reaction (nurture). Whichever... why analyze? Why not just enjoy?

lark sparrow:
It's "intense sensation". Why do people like roller coasters or horror movies or running marathons or falling in love, etc. ? Intensity. It's being drawn to and drawn into that intensity of experience. It takes a mind shift often.

Bandit58:
I should point out that if He spanks me without any warmup it does not feel good

My feelings on the subject, as a sadistic Dominant/Master, are these: While a certain percentage of submissives/slaves/masochists can happily submit to full-out flogging, whipping, etc., from the beginning, a far larger number need a buildup from some point in the continuum from "bunny fur" to whatever their top limit is. The lower-level pain sensations become pleasurable because of the attention, love, cherishing that is involved, and as the scene intensifies, the "receiver" continues to translate those sensations into desirable sensations.

My net analysis? It feels good to me to give pain to someone who desires it. It feels good to them to receive it from someone who enjoys giving it. Therefore... it's all good.

Note: Upon previewing, this does not feel quite like what I want to say, but last night's and this morning's rains have my sinuses stuffed to the point of a sinus headache and I can't think clearly enough to say what I want the way I want. Anyone who feels like clarifying this, please feel free.

 

[slave C]

I was trying to decide what to say but Sir Winston said it for me. I enjoy a slow build-up of pain. I start to get focused to Masters voice. As the pain intensifies my brain becomes incredibly submissive and open to instruction. After this comes the real intense stuff. Clamps are tightened on nipples, pussy lips and arm pits. The whip is laid on hard and I fly and float. I am peace with the world, I am relieved of all stress in my life, my mind is blank. I tend to keep stress locked inside and Master knows when it is time to blow the main breaker. I enjoy the pain up to the point where He is getting me ready to fly. I scream( no close neighbors I love it) and beg, but, He continues because He knows I need it and He loves me. The next day I am in a fog and quite submissive. I usually have a Mona Lisa smile on. Maked people wonder. Love it submissively slave c

 

[Sir_Winston54]

You're all a bunch of pervs

sorry..it had to be said..lol

Ummm... yeahhhh, we are. But then, you are a part of "us all," so that would mean that you ...

 

[Aeroil]

You're all a bunch of pervs























sorry..it had to be said..lol

Hello Kettle, this is Teapot, you're black.

 

[HypnoticDreams]

Humiliation for me

With me I never really have liked pain that much but for the right dom I'd experience it to please him...I am more into the mental aspects as well as mental and psychological aspects in the lifestyle.

 

[Marquis]

Also, for some people the pain and pleasure parts of their brain is flipped Brinnie.

These people feel nothing but ecstasy when they are cut, burned or beaten, but cringe at the thought of a massage, and run in terror from warm baths and tummy rubs.

Can you imagine how horrible sex would be for these people if they didn't have nice partners who would make them feel pain while fucking them?

 

[Kajira Callista]

Also, for some people the pain and pleasure parts of their brain is flipped Brinnie.

These people feel nothing but ecstasy when they are cut, burned or beaten, but cringe at the thought of a massage, and run in terror from warm baths and tummy rubs.

Can you imagine how horrible sex would be for these people if they didn't have nice partners who would make them feel pain while fucking them?

it would be absolutely awful!

 

[Marquis]

it would be absolutely awful!

We're here for you darling.

 

[Kajira Callista]

We're here for you darling.

meow

 

[Never]

LunarKitten:
*tilts head* Hey, now, no putting down the submissive group!
Oh, you like being put down. Just admit it.

"When I use the term "vanilla", I'm usually talking about a group of people who do not participate in D/s or BDSM. It doesn't mean I think I'm better than they are, it's just a way I distinguish the different between the two subcultures."

I don't think the term vanilla is innately offensive. Grouping it with average, dead, and boring is.

 

[YinandYang]

Also, for some people the pain and pleasure parts of their brain is flipped Brinnie.

These people feel nothing but ecstasy when they are cut, burned or beaten, but cringe at the thought of a massage, and run in terror from warm baths and tummy rubs.

Can you imagine how horrible sex would be for these people if they didn't have nice partners who would make them feel pain while fucking them?

Marquis....thats an excellent way of putting it, didn't realise I felt that way till you said it The massage..the warm bath, the tummy rubs would annoy the pants off me and having running in the opposite direction from boredom

 

[schmerzgarten]

more useless babble about pain

I've adored pain with both Top/Sadists - fun ones, as well as with Dominants. For example, the gleeful smile of a Sadist just having fun toying with me, intertwining sensations of arousal and pain, making me desire more of both, can be and has been enormously fun. Indeed, mentally there is a very fine line between that type of play and when D/s space occurs. The difference is largely discernable the next day rather than at the time - for the most part. Post-scene, a fun Top/Sadist elicits a desire to say thank you and let's meet for coffee sometime. A fun dominant elicits a much more emotional bond, sometimes too much so. In the case of the latter, an order to simply do dishes would evoke a subliminal arousal at just completing the task. However, masochism for the sake of masochism and sadism for the sake of sadism, with no energy/power/chemistry exchange, holds about as much appeal as doing taxes on a bad year. Finally, our individual wiring seems to determine what kind of pain play can inspire a desire to push limits. While I myself might push with canes, single-tails, clamps, piercings, or anal, I've yet to meet either a Top or Dominant, no matter how wonderful, that can make me desire to push with hot wax - I simply loathe the sensation. My wife, in contrast, hates nipple pain but will merrily lick the wax from the top of the hottest candle.

 

[YinandYang]

In the case of the latter, an order to simply do dishes would evoke a subliminal arousal at just completing the task. .

Its amazing when that feeling comes rushing back at full force, whilst being caught up in everyday life. I remember once sitting chatting to my Master at the time, we had already decided to 'play' that night. I was gabbling on at a hundred miles an hour about nothing in particular (nerves)...he was listening politely. Then all of a sudden I caught him looking at the clock, that wonderful sadistic shadow cross his eyes. He knew that I knew what he was thinking. I suppose I 'dropped' instantly...it still sends a shiver up my spine when I think about it. The mind....what a wonderful tool of power

 

[Kellygus]

UUmmmmm....cause it feels good.......lol

 

[I hate brinnie]

Brinnie:
You are your worst enemy.

Look in the mirror.