I feel exactly the same way. I'm not sure about my pain tolerance, but with Master I have discovered I have an intense orgasmic sensation when He humiliates me. So yes, by not humiliating and degrading me he would be disrespecting me in a way.
Why do I like pain?
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I feel exactly the same way. I'm not sure about my pain tolerance, but with Master I have discovered I have an intense orgasmic sensation when He humiliates me. So yes, by not humiliating and degrading me he would be disrespecting me in a way.
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The pain aspect has always felt very cleansing to me...why it manifest itself this way is a mystery to me, but it has brought me to some pretty amazing and intense places both emotionally and physically. I could think about it, but I'd rather just enjoy.
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I enjoy seeing the fear in her expressions, not that I'd seriously hurt her.
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I also think that there is much more to it than adrenalin/endorphin hormones since there is always high arousal in my girl.
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I love that touch of fear. I know Mistress would never seriously hurt me, but that fear is such a thrill for me.
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I have enjoyed pain for quite a long time. I do self inflicting pain. Would like to someday share with another person. I have been torturing my nipples for many years. Now I use a small rope and wrap to stretch my balls until they are tight. I then proceed to whip them. Gradual and slow at first, then build to where I actually draw blood from whipping them so hard. Afterwards, I will then bring myself to a huge orgasm. Have video on a couple sessions so far. I masturbate watching them. Why I do it? Been wondering that myself. I DO enjoy it very much. Even better with another person, but that would be difficult to do being married.
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Endorphins play a big part for me, but I agree that there's more to it. In part it's the fear, the "maybe" despite knowing that He's in control and will ultimately keep me safe. There are always risks, always a chance that the knife might slip, or the whip might go astray. It allows me to face a particular fear (which is really just one face on many other things) and conquer it and myself through a controlled process.
The pain play, also, takes me through a different experience that allows me to let go and trust him, to relax and, when I come out on the other end, feel completely drained but refreshed in a way that nothing else ever does. I get so...overwrought...sometimes, and I'm not very good at dealing with the stress in other (safe) ways.
The pain play, also, takes me through a different experience that allows me to let go and trust him, to relax and, when I come out on the other end, feel completely drained but refreshed in a way that nothing else ever does. I get so...overwrought...sometimes, and I'm not very good at dealing with the stress in other (safe) ways.
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Yeah- I have to be with someone I can trust, because it would be so easy to hurt me-permanently hurt me with the shit I'm into if you don't know when to ignore me... or where to draw that line...
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Hmm question that occurred to me. I wonder what the difference in wiring IS that makes some people actively seek out the endorphin rush that comes with pain (eg. a masochist), versus someone who avoids it. I wonder if it's a different in the endorphin release, how the endorphins are functioning in the body and at their receptors, how the brain is processing that input, or some other biological fact...or maybe it IS just something personality derived. Of course then you get into the argument of what exactly IS personality, but I don't think that's a question we can definitively answer, I suppose it's a dead end.
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There are any number of reasons why someone likes pain. Depending on background and upbringing, some people who were punished physically as kids enjoy the pain as reverting back to their childhood. But that isn't the only reason someone might enjoy pain. Some people who were never punished as a child can also enjoy pain, because they missed experiencing having someone "in charge" when they were kids.
Some people enjoy the endorphin release when they are bound and helpless and someone is inflicting pain. They can't get away and the fight or flight feeling is overpowered by the bonds. It's that helpless feeling that enhances the whole thing, too. Someone else in control, taking everything away from you so you can't do anything but take what they are giving you, humiliating positions, the thought of punishment, the pain itself and the endorphins all combine into one big feeling of lust and release.
But, your mileage may vary. Everybody is different.
Some people enjoy the endorphin release when they are bound and helpless and someone is inflicting pain. They can't get away and the fight or flight feeling is overpowered by the bonds. It's that helpless feeling that enhances the whole thing, too. Someone else in control, taking everything away from you so you can't do anything but take what they are giving you, humiliating positions, the thought of punishment, the pain itself and the endorphins all combine into one big feeling of lust and release.
But, your mileage may vary. Everybody is different.
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DVS;38572041 But said:
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Whow- I could totally see this.
I loved pain as a child. Fucking LOVED it.
And my dad loved causing it. He beat the shit out of me over stupid shit, and I never learned from pain. That whole, operant conditioning thing never worked on me. Painful stimulus=challenge. I learn nothing from someone constantly hurting me other then, fuck that guy, right? Negative reinforcement doesn't work on me.
My therapist said that a lot of my underachieving was because of that personality trait- the way that negativity makes me hate the person it's coming from instead of using it as a learning experience. But here's the thing...
I did these authority challenging things just because I thought my dad was stupid, not necissarily for the pain. But I loved pain. I was a cutter as a teenager- I was the toddler that ran into shit. So is it really all caused by daddy issues? Or did that aspect of my personality just make it worse?
My dad put me in the hospital a lot when I was little- he would dislocate a shoulder or rupture a vein (I'm anemic) or tear a tendon, or rupture a windpipe or some stupid shit, and I'd be in there. Eventually, the doctors thought that was a bad idea... we lived with my grandparents off and on a lot... But I'm really uncomfortable that a crushed windpipe and daddy issues might be the reason that I scream at my boyfriend to choke me- those are two completely different experiences...
Beyond night and day. Night on Earth and day on Mercury.
So I like to think that it was the way I liked pain that fucked with my dad, not the beatings that caused the enjoyment. Just the way he could beat me bloody, I would stand back up and see the hate in his eyes. My brother would fight back, my mom would cry. I didn't care. I didn't learn. I didn't try to stop it. That apathy pissed him off more then either of their reactions.
So, it might be different for others, but I think it's just an aspect of my personality that manifests in different ways. I also love getting piercings and tattoos- because of the pain. I don't think it's conditioned, I just don't have a reason to think it's learned. I'm pretty sure it's an innate aspect of personality.
