Who's the Daddy?

[ksmybuttons]

A man goes into a fertility clinic and donates sperm for his fiance.

A couple go in for the wife to be inseminated with anonymous sperm.

A mix up happens and the couple are given the man's sperm that was to go to his fiance.

The clinic doesn't tell the woman until after she becomes pregnant. They also finally tell the man.

The man wants to know his child as he did not donate anonymously.

Who's the Daddy?

What an ethical dilemma! What do you think should be the ruling?

 

[smartandsexy]

Are you asking whether he should have the right to know if she is carrying his child? Absolutely. And he should have the right to be in that child's life if he so chooses.

The clinic stole his genetic material. He didn't agree to be an anonymous donor. I feel for the woman, but he has the right to know his child.

 

[apexpark]

On the positive side, they could always sue the clinic and use that money to put him through college!

 

[Angeline]

Are you asking whether he should have the right to know if she is carrying his child? Absolutely. And he should have the right to be in that child's life if he so chooses.

The clinic stole his genetic material. He didn't agree to be an anonymous donor. I feel for the woman, but he has the right to know his child.

I agree. If he's the biological father and wants to be in his child's life, he should have that right.

But what a mess. I feel sorry for the judge who has to try to untangle this one.

 

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[pinkstarfish]

Of course he has the right.

I would be so upset if I were his wife.

 

[The Heretic]

Are you asking whether he should have the right to know if she is carrying his child? Absolutely. And he should have the right to be in that child's life if he so chooses.

The clinic stole his genetic material. He didn't agree to be an anonymous donor. I feel for the woman, but he has the right to know his child.

He has the right - but I am not sure it would be a good thing for the child. If I were faced with such a situation I would maybe want to make sure that the parents of the child were responsible and nice people, etc., but after that determination I think I would try to stay out of the child's life. Remember, the couple didn't ask for this situation either.

There are a lot of biological fathers out there who are never involved in their child's life. Legally, they are the father, but the real father, IMO, is the male who raises that child and is there for them as a parent.

 

[ksmybuttons]

I was distressed by the try to cover by the clinic.

It comes down to the woman's right to privacy and the man's right to know his progeny.

Major fuck up by the clinic.

I know as the woman, I wouldn't want some third player in my family. As the man, I would want to know my child.

I don't think there is a winner in the whole thing.

 

[shoulderblade]

I don't think there is a winner in the whole thing.

I dont think so either. Think that the decision will go to the womans privacy, in part because it will muffle the damage caused by the accident/cover up.

Also. What was the man doing at this clinic in the first place. If his sperm was viable shouldn't fertilization be some sort of medical proceedure?

 

[ma_guy]

Also. What was the man doing at this clinic in the first place. If his sperm was viable shouldn't fertilization be some sort of medical proceedure?

Huh?? A fertility clinic is where this sort of medical procedure usually takes place.

 

[Flyin_Free]

He has the right - but I am not sure it would be a good thing for the child. If I were faced with such a situation I would maybe want to make sure that the parents of the child were responsible and nice people, etc., but after that determination I think I would try to stay out of the child's life. Remember, the couple didn't ask for this situation either.

There are a lot of biological fathers out there who are never involved in their child's life. Legally, they are the father, but the real father, IMO, is the male who raises that child and is there for them as a parent.

Yes, but that's their choice to not be in the child's life. Either that, or the mother didn't tell them.

This is different, he didn't donate his sperm and if he wants to know the child then I think it's his right. I'm not entirely sure it's the best situation for the child but he should still have some rights.

 

[lightning1]

This thread made me think of this post.

http://i58.photobucket.com/albums/g243/JLSTexan/Owned10.jpg

 

[Flyin_Free]

Also. What was the man doing at this clinic in the first place. If his sperm was viable shouldn't fertilization be some sort of medical proceedure?

He and his fiance were most likely trying to get pregnant. Logical assumption I'd think.

 

[ma_guy]

I don't think there is a winner in the whole thing.

Agreed.

It is interesting how the article mentions that her rights apparently trump his in law. If she was looking for child support you could bet that the courts would be chasing after him trying to prove paternity.

 

[shoulderblade]

Huh?? A fertility clinic is where this sort of medical procedure usually takes place.

Sorry, I live in Canada, dont think services are as outsourced here. Will have to check that out.

 

[Scouse B'stard]

Also. What was the man doing at this clinic in the first place. If his sperm was viable shouldn't fertilization be some sort of medical proceedure?

He went to donate for his fiance. If it's IVF then they only need 1 little swimmer don't they?

The clinic fucked up all ways didn't they? Shitty for all involved really.

I agree with The Heretic though, if I were the guy, I would check the parents out, try and attempt to get some sort of legal agreement over not being chased for child support, then back out and leave them to it.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Also. What was the man doing at this clinic in the first place. If his sperm was viable shouldn't fertilization be some sort of medical procedure?

The articles never said specifically except that his fiancee was going to be artificially inseminated with his sperm or it could have been for in vitro fertilization. There could be a myriad of medical conditions that would require this. It is a fertility clinic so they would do anything to enhance fertility...

 

[ksmybuttons]

Agreed.

It is interesting how the article mentions that her rights apparently trump his in law. If she was looking for child support you could bet that the courts would be chasing after him trying to prove paternity.

It's really messed up, isn't it? What a painful situation for all involved...it will be interesting to see how it plays out.

I doubt, in the case of anonymous sperm donors, that a woman has much right in seeking child support. Otherwise there would never be anonymous donors...

 

[NaughtyLil1]

What an unfortunate situation for all involved.

I think he has every right to know, and should be allowed to participate in the child's life if he's deemed the father.

I don't understand the woman's unwillingness to get to the bottom of this. The donor is not the bad guy; he didn't ask for this to happen, and is just as much a victim as the woman. Why not resolve it and deal with the outcome.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

It's really messed up, isn't it? What a painful situation for all involved...it will be interesting to see how it plays out.

I doubt, in the case of anonymous sperm donors, that a woman has much right in seeking child support. Otherwise there would never be anonymous donors...

She wasn't seeking an anonymous donation though, it was supposed to come from her fiance.

Like it's been said, there isn't a positive outcome for this one.

 

[ma_guy]

I doubt, in the case of anonymous sperm donors, that a woman has much right in seeking child support. Otherwise there would never be anonymous donors...

http://www.suntimes.com/output/news/cst-nws-paternity12.html


There have been several cases where anonymous donors have been sued for child support. Some states have stepped up and given donors protection but many still haven't.

In the cases that have come up so far the courts have pretty much held that the sperm donor has no parental rights to access the child but they can be held liable for child support (a totally fucked situation!).

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

http://www.suntimes.com/output/news/cst-nws-paternity12.html


There have been several cases where anonymous donors have been sued for child support. Some states have stepped up and given donors protection but many still haven't.

In the cases that have come up so far the courts have pretty much held that the sperm donor has no parental rights to access the child but they can be held liable for child support (a totally fucked situation!).

I would not have believed that! I'll continue to make my contributions to kleenex thankyouverymuch!!

 

[The Heretic]

Yes, but that's their choice to not be in the child's life. Either that, or the mother didn't tell them.

This is different, he didn't donate his sperm and if he wants to know the child then I think it's his right. I'm not entirely sure it's the best situation for the child but he should still have some rights.

Yes, and I agree that it is his right, but sometimes a parent faces a tough situation where they have to sacrifice for their child. In this situation it would be best for the child if the biological father did not become involved in the family (once he was sure that they were good parents, etc.).

My point was that it is unlikely that he will ever be anything more than an absentee biological father, even if he tries to stay involved. Being involved would only make things hard for everybody concerned, especially the child.

This is one reason why I would never donate sperm.